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Are day nurseries suitable places for babies?

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ArtichokeTagine · 21/05/2007 12:50

My DD is 9 months and started nursery 3 days a week last week. I have been stunned my the reaction of people when I tell them this. If I hear one more person say "that is young for nursery" I will scream. Alot of people seem to think that it is cruel and under twos need one-to-one care.

One-to-one care is not a financial option for us. Even if we could afford it I honestly beleive that it could be more damaging. What kind of lesson is it for a baby if the person they see as a second Mum and are deeply attached to disappears after X months to be replaced by another person who disappears after Y months? That is a horrible thing to come to expect.

I guess I am just wondering how many other Mums would choose nursery for a baby even if they could afford a nanny? And whether there is evidence that babies are damaged by a lack of one-to-one care during the day (as no many people have implied to me this week).

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CODalmighty · 21/05/2007 14:55

revlon doens have the same cahet thoughreally

But takes comments onbaord

DameEnidONC · 21/05/2007 15:00

but the chanel si so lovely

the revelon ones are hidden in pot

chanel one ondisplay

Grrrr · 22/05/2007 12:21

Straying back to the original topic, I swear ds2 (9 months) actually cheered up when I dropped him off this morning. He was grizzling in the car and them beamed at the nursery assistant who took him from me.

Should I feel good or bad about this ?

Sunyshineymummy · 22/05/2007 12:23

Grrr definitely good. We've just moved house so have moved from lovely nursery that DS loved, to new nursery. DS now cries and cries and clings to me as soon as I get to the door with him. It's horrible. I'm giving it a month.

lupo · 26/05/2007 23:20

I work in a nursery and babies don't get the one on one they need at nursery, even at a small one. I am sorry but i stongly believe babies do not benefit and I will go as far as to say can be damaged by being left in these institutions at such a young age. There are fntastic nurseries out there (and some not so fantastic ones), and over twos can def benefit, but for under twos, they need their mums and def lots of one on one care.

Twinklemegan · 26/05/2007 23:35

If you're happy and your LO is happy then try to ignore what other people say and trust your instincts. My 10 month old has been in nursery 1 day a week for the past 3 months. He loves it. The staff are fab and I actually think it's good for him to socialise with other babies. I deliberately picked a small nursery where he'd get plenty of one to one care.

That's not to say I'd want him there full time though. But 3 days a week means that she still has 4 days a week with you. And we don't all have the luxury of being able to care for our LOs 24-7, more's the pity (and how sad that it IS a luxury these days ).

And to answer your question, yes I would still choose a nursery because I think the social aspect is important. He also gets to play with loads of different toys and do different things. And from a selfish point of view I'm less worried about someone becoming like a "second Mum", which I don't think I'd like tbh.

Chelseamum · 26/05/2007 23:35

I am a product of Controlled crying and was at a nursery when I was 3 months. Mummy spent periods working full time and periods at home.

I think I have been given lots of love and attention from both my mum and my carers at nursery, school etc...

And I would define myself as pretty well balanced individual.

My litte one goes to nursery one day a week for 6 to 7 hours. She seems very relaxed, happy, does lots of activities and I love picking her up and she seems very happy when she sees me. It's the best feeling for me to pick her up after being separated for such hours.

So far it works for us!

lyrabelacqua · 26/05/2007 23:39

Both my sons have done stints in day nurseries from 6 months old (1.5 days a week, on and off) and i think it did them good. I can't help feeling that full time nursery is too much for very small children though.

Chelseamum · 26/05/2007 23:41

I agree with you Lyra.

I am happy for my little one to do one day but I wouldn't be happy for her to be full time!

Busybean · 26/05/2007 23:58

My boys are at a big nursery, but there are plentiful staff. I was thinking of changing them to a different nursery as im staring uni in sept, but i went to view it, and it was dismal, a small "garden" with black rubber matting, no grass, 2 wooden climbing frames and a few hula hoops, babies were in a totally different room and to top it all they were sat down watching a dvd at 2.30pm. i felt so releived when i found a way to keep them at the nursery theyre at now. i love it and my oldest loves it as he goes to forest chool 1 day a week where they learn shelter building and making fires and chopping wood etc, he also does woodwork amongst many other things. I also was a bit put off with the children from the nursery i went to view, they were all quite not well off, and whilst im no well off at all, i would prefer my children to be around children of mainly proffesional people, just a snobby part of me i guess, but it just felt right to keep them where they are.

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