Are day nurseries suitable places for babies?

[ArtichokeTagine]

My DD is 9 months and started nursery 3 days a week last week. I have been stunned my the reaction of people when I tell them this. If I hear one more person say "that is young for nursery" I will scream. Alot of people seem to think that it is cruel and under twos need one-to-one care.

One-to-one care is not a financial option for us. Even if we could afford it I honestly beleive that it could be more damaging. What kind of lesson is it for a baby if the person they see as a second Mum and are deeply attached to disappears after X months to be replaced by another person who disappears after Y months? That is a horrible thing to come to expect.

I guess I am just wondering how many other Mums would choose nursery for a baby even if they could afford a nanny? And whether there is evidence that babies are damaged by a lack of one-to-one care during the day (as no many people have implied to me this week).

lol

he is waqiting ofr me
wwed agree on all sorts and id never lsag him off whne he came home

sorry tiny I guess you also meant with a nanny too

Artichoke, ask how they sort out the sleeping thing, they might have a solution.

When I said about good and bad, I mean it, bad nurseries are awful and there are some around. What other concerns do you have about yours other than sleeping arrangements?

PPH, you dont need to feel sorry for my kids, they are fine, regardless of the 5 days a week, 8 - 6 some days, from 4 months of age

Guess what, they are not damaged

hmm

Gingerone, sadly that is not true of most nurseries for babies.

he of course despises mumsnet but very occasionally asks what does 'your friend' say about something

he is also impressed with your speed camera knowledge

Artichoke - I visited a nursery where the children slept in the same room in which they played and would not have wanted to send ds there. There were nurseries where they offered a completely separate sleeping room (which could be shut off) which would have been ideal in my mind, but they were too far, so we ended up somewhere where they have a sleeping room, but with no door. I think sleep is a real issue with nurseries. Ds only sleeps for about 1 hour a day at the age of 15 months and is often wired by the time he comes home. That is one of the reasons we wanted him at home for the one day a week we could afford. But he was there from 8 to 6 five days a week...

does he? ooh er that has made me come over all giggly

ps enid was htikngin abotu you adn your toes the other day

did oyuand dd ever have a day of cordination?

LOL Genidef, yes I did.

I am not judging other peoples choices, just saying how I feel about it thats all.

I carelessly mentioned that the speed camera in solstice park had caught lots of drivers

he started to quiz me on whys and wherefores

I became bored and irritated

tell him ofr my pilow talk i can tlak abotu the " folly bottom" incident

toes [blank]?

PPH - don't feel sorry for my baby either (he is there from 7.30 am until 5.00 pm so i can hawl my sorry arse across the M25 to get to work) anyway Artichoke - do drop in - for the first 2 weeks DS was at nursery i dropped him off and picked him up at all different times
If this nursery doesn't feel right then start looking at others if you have a choice
None of this is easy is it?

oh yes gripping

you wanker enid
your nail varnish

and dds socks

lolol

yes yes we did

she has lost the socks

my toes are now coral

have sent webseit to dh

is it any betetr htan revlon
you cna h be honest

no

it isnt

lovely colour but a bit watery to apply

and didnbt last v long

revlon rules IMO

whereas enids dh lives in terror of me and my useful suggestions "ooh why don't you buy a life sized pink pony?"

thanks pph

i am by nature a bit control freaky, so i shall make great efforts to r e l a x

which i guess i'll have to do anyway when ds2 arrives, otherwise i'll go quietly mad

have only read OP. We sent DD to nursery from 6 months - she is almost 2 now and doesn't appear to be showing any detrimental effects .
The love she gets at the nursery and at home mean she feels very secure. She has a keyworker at the nursery who absolutely adores her and who she absolutely adores. TBH I think it is great for them to be in a social environment where they can learn from other children.

ah yes. nanny, at home and one child - tricky. nanny, at home one child and one newborn - birth of a long lasting and fabulous relationship based on deep gratitude

don't worry, you'll be fine!