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Bad situation in my parents house

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mim2007 · 01/08/2017 13:08

I've recently travelled to England from Spain with my four young children to visit our family over the summer holiday's. On the first day of arriving I was already unhappy with the arrangements in my parents house. My sister, who is 25 and is now living with my parents, is currently single but is sleeping with a man for her own sexual pleasures. Now, many of you might think this is ok, except she is sleeping with him in my parents house and he is also staying the night whilst my children and I are here. I've stressed my concerns with my parents and I've asked my parent if while we are here, can they ask my sister not to bring this man into the house, but they refused. They both seem to think this is ok and she can have anybody she wants over to sleep with her even while we are here. I've also spoken to my older sister who has got four children and she also thinks this is ok. Please, can you give me some advice as to what I could do!?! I haven't got enough money to stay somewhere else neither have I got anywhere else we could go. I can't just leave as I live in Spain.

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viques · 01/08/2017 15:19

Advice? you want advice?
Ok.You could really make a play for your sisters boyfriend, sitting close, stroking his arm, ruffling his hair, laughing at his jokes, busting in on him in the shower, asking him to rub sun cream on your back, admiring his physique etc etc. Then your sister will either leave in a huff with him or tell him not to come round. Oh yes, forgot to mention she will also have a huge blistering row with you at which things that can't be unsaid will be said and your children will learn a lot about their family dynamic than they knew before.

Or
you could remind yourself that you and your sister are both adults, that she probably thinks you are OTT for having four children ,but that you are essentially family, should learn to tolerate each other's differences and you should feel happy that she is happy.

Liadain · 01/08/2017 15:21

If you don't like it, you're free to move out with your precious children. Your parents - who own the house - don't have a problem.

I doubt he randomly struck up a relationship with her on the off chance that she might be living in a house with visiting children....we've fairly conclusive evidence so far that it's adult women he likes. Get over yourself, op.

MrWho · 01/08/2017 15:21

What year is it in Spain at the moment?
Currently it's 2017 here in England and not 1843.

AllToadsLeadToHome · 01/08/2017 15:21

I thought the following:

School holidays, someone is bored.
Religious person imposing their views on everyone else.
Very immature person imposing their views on everyone else.
Jealous person.
Spoilt brat.

blueskyinmarch · 01/08/2017 15:22

I too cannot see the problem. Unless they are having sex on the sofa in front of everyone i can't imagine why you would be remotely interested. What she does in the privacy of her own room is her business. If this man is coming over on a regular basis then they are having some sort of relationship even if they are not calling it boyfriend/girlfriend. Is it a sexy times friends with benefits sort of scenario perhaps?

Hissy · 01/08/2017 15:24

Her wanton sister is having sex for her own sexual pleasures...

OP has 4 kids...Are we to deduce from her OP that the sex to make them wasn't all that?

NC4now · 01/08/2017 15:25

He's not random? It's the same guy, who presumably she knows if she sleeps with him regularly.

IHopeYourCakeIsShit · 01/08/2017 15:27

Mary Whitehouse is that you?

onalongsabbatical · 01/08/2017 15:34

Hissy I think you must be right on that one! Grin

DoomGloomAndKaboom · 01/08/2017 15:36

Oh dear, this is so unintentionally hilarious.

OP has it occurred to you that YOUR VERY OWN MOTHER might also be having sexual pleasures while you are under her roof?

I imagine a scenario of the OP glaring at her sister at the breakfast table and muttering about the whooping and banging noises coming from her sister's room last night.

"Oh sorry, love," says her mum. "That was me and your dad. Mondays are bondage night in this house. It's wife swapping with Marion and Barry from no 45 tonight but we'll try to keep it down. More cornflakes?"

BingoFlamingos · 01/08/2017 15:40

Doom I just squealed at your comment and my poor DM who is working from home ran down from her study to check I was okay 😂😂😂

VikingLady · 01/08/2017 15:59

Doom Grin

MrWho · 01/08/2017 16:09

Another thought just popped into my head - how do you know they're having sex?
Are you presuming?
Are they making porn noises?
Are you peeking round the door while they're busy?

MavisFlumpTheFairy · 01/08/2017 16:30

It's either:
a) a bored school kid
b) a jealous baby sister
c) the PFB

Personally I think you should hot foot it back to the safety of your home in Spain before your senses are irretrievably destroyed op.

starfishmummy · 01/08/2017 17:59

So he's not her boyfriend...is he a gigolo?

fruitbat2008 · 01/08/2017 18:36

Lol this thread is so funny you've really got to chill outGrin

heateallthebuns · 01/08/2017 19:02

How is he not her boyfriend if they're seeing each other regularly and he sleeps over? Semantics surely?

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 01/08/2017 19:07

Their house, their rules, innit. MYOB OP.

ClemDanfango · 01/08/2017 20:05

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Auspiciouspanda · 01/08/2017 20:16

Sometimes I have sexual pleasures with women 😱 Easier to pass off as 'mummies friends'

Someone call 999 and social services immediately

ClemDanfango · 01/08/2017 20:54

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Sleepthief84 · 01/08/2017 20:56

Auspiciouspanda.... you Trollope! Grin

Bluntness100 · 01/08/2017 21:06

How can he be a random man? You're writing like she found him loitering in the streets. Clearly it's the same guy and it's one your parents and sisters are happy with in their home. So whatever they are, it's not a random bloke and that's a shocking thing to write about your sister, like she's some form of slut shagging randoms .

Are you jealous? Is that what it is?

kali110 · 01/08/2017 21:21

So you if you don't like the answers we're trolls Hmm
I've only ever been in relationships, but who your sister sleeps with is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.
If you don't like it then pay to stay elsewhere.
Good on your parents for standing up for her!

Yes, this is wrong. Immorality comes to mind.
Is sex before marriage is a no no to you?
Well it is NOT immoral, just because you don't agree doesn't make it wrong.
Will 'morals' be so important to you when you don't have a good relationship with your sister?
If you come out with things like this to her i can't see her wanting to spend much time with you or your family.
You can not agree with something, without trying to control or put down your family.

Bluntness100 · 01/08/2017 21:25

What's immoral is how you're behaving towards your own sister, it really is. I think you need to take a step back from your righteous, jealous indignation and think about your behavuour. I suspect you owe her an apology.

And who asks a question then says "no one respond unless they agree with me"? That's bordering on deranged.