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Bad situation in my parents house

86 replies

mim2007 · 01/08/2017 13:03

I've recently travelled to England from Spain with my four young children to visit our family over the summer holiday's. On the first day of arriving I was already unhappy with the arrangements in my parents house. My sister, who is 25 and is now living with my parents, is currently single but is sleeping with a man for her own sexual pleasures. Now, many of you might think this is ok, except she is sleeping with him in my parents house and he is also staying the night whilst my children and I are here. I've stressed my concerns with my parents and I've asked my parent if while we are here, can they ask my sister not to bring this man into the house, but they refused. They both seem to think this is ok and she can have anybody she wants over to sleep with her even while we are here. I've also spoken to my older sister who has got four children and she also thinks this is ok. Please, can you give me some advice as to what I could do!?! I haven't got enough money to stay somewhere else neither have I got anywhere else we could go. I can just leave as I love on Spain.

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twoheaped · 01/08/2017 13:07

What are your concerns?

MrsQuim · 01/08/2017 13:08

This is not a bad situation

MeanAger · 01/08/2017 13:09

but is sleeping with a man for her own sexual pleasures.

Whose sexual pleasures should she be sleeping with him for?

Couldiseriouslybepregnant · 01/08/2017 13:10

Bizarre

TheInimitableMrsFanshawe · 01/08/2017 13:11

So this is the same man, not a string of different men each night? The latter I have no moral concerns with only that I don't want a succession of strange men around my kids. If it's the same guy I don't see the issue.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 01/08/2017 13:11

Unless they are doing it on the coffee table, it's fa to do with you-parents and sister's home.

TriskelArts · 01/08/2017 13:11

"Sleeping with a man for her own sexual pleasures'???

You sound insanely puritanical. If you'd said you weren't keen on a string of one night stands with strangers happening under the same roof as your children sleep, I'd think that was a reasonable concern, but from what you say, your sister knows this man, and he stays over regularly. If your parents don't have a problem with it, I think you need to find somewhere else to stay.

MirandaWest · 01/08/2017 13:12

I don't see the problem. I presume she's having sex with him in a bedroom and not as a spectator sport.

WatchingFromTheWings · 01/08/2017 13:13

If you don't like it you either find somewhere else to stay or go home. It's none of your business and you have no right to dictate your sisters life or what goes on in your parents home.

ElizabethShaw · 01/08/2017 13:13

So basically your 25 year old sister has a boyfriend and you think he should be banned from the house?

Do you have any reason to suspect he's dangerous to children?

UkeleleDreams · 01/08/2017 13:13

It's not really up to you though is it. I understand that you're unhappy with the way it is and you've said how you feel however you can't make your parents and sister do what you want in their own house. You can only control your reaction to the situation. If you're unable to live with the current arrangement you need to find somewhere else to stay. You sound very judgy of your sister as well.

mrscropley · 01/08/2017 13:13

Do you think she is an unsuitable role model for your dc or worried he is a danger to them?

ThreeFish · 01/08/2017 13:13

She's 25.

Your parents are happy with the situation.
I dont see the problem.

ARoseforEmily · 01/08/2017 13:14

I can't see anything wrong with your sister pleasure giving man sleeping over. Your parents and other sister don't have an issue with it, so what is your problem with it?

Anecdoche · 01/08/2017 13:15

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

NoMoreDecorating · 01/08/2017 13:17

So have you never slept with your partner while having your children in the house?

AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered · 01/08/2017 13:17

WTF?? Your sister's boyfriend is staying over, why is that an issue? Is it that you feel sex outside marriage is wrong? You're entitled to your own beliefs but please don't try to impose them on your family. Your sister is an adult, and assuming her boyfriend is too it's really none of your business unless you're about to drip-feed that he's a convicted criminal or otherwise dangerous.

XJerseyGirlX · 01/08/2017 13:19

Its your parents and sisters home, your a guest. What has it got to do with you unless they are doing it on the living room floor in front of you all?

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 01/08/2017 13:22

Your DSis has her boyfriend staying over in her house.

If you don't like it then leave.

You can't dictate what others do in their own house!

As for she is only sleeping with him for 'her own sexual pleasures' have you transported from the 1950s?

Bluntness100 · 01/08/2017 13:23

but is sleeping with a man for her own sexual pleasures

You mean she has a boyfriend? She's 25, she lives there. She can have her boyfriend stay over. What's wrong with you that you are phrasing it like this and have such an issue with it.

Why would you possibly say " sleeping with a man for her own sexual pleasures" it's creepy and weird.

Anatidae · 01/08/2017 13:25

Your sisters boyfriend is staying over?

That's fine.

Do you have any concerns he's a threat to you, your kids, or your family? If not, then I'm not sure what you're worried about. She can sleep with whomever she chooses.

Anatidae · 01/08/2017 13:26

Also sexual pleasure for both partners is kind of the point

No?

DartmoorDoughnut · 01/08/2017 13:28

Well your daughter/s will LOVE you when they start having sex 😂

BIWI · 01/08/2017 13:29

Welcome to Mumsnet, mim2007. I see you posted twice by mistake!

Could you explain what it is about this situation that offends you? We are, after all, in 2017. And as your parents don't seem to object to your sister sleeping with her boyfriend, it hardly sounds like this is a cultural issue.

Thesingingtoad · 01/08/2017 13:31

...school holidays...is it raining where you are?

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