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Bad situation in my parents house

86 replies

mim2007 · 01/08/2017 13:03

I've recently travelled to England from Spain with my four young children to visit our family over the summer holiday's. On the first day of arriving I was already unhappy with the arrangements in my parents house. My sister, who is 25 and is now living with my parents, is currently single but is sleeping with a man for her own sexual pleasures. Now, many of you might think this is ok, except she is sleeping with him in my parents house and he is also staying the night whilst my children and I are here. I've stressed my concerns with my parents and I've asked my parent if while we are here, can they ask my sister not to bring this man into the house, but they refused. They both seem to think this is ok and she can have anybody she wants over to sleep with her even while we are here. I've also spoken to my older sister who has got four children and she also thinks this is ok. Please, can you give me some advice as to what I could do!?! I haven't got enough money to stay somewhere else neither have I got anywhere else we could go. I can just leave as I love on Spain.

OP posts:
Ceto · 01/08/2017 13:34

Don't you and your husband sleep with each other for your own sexual pleasures? There is, quite simply, nothing whatsoever wrong with two adults in a settled relationship sleeping with each other, and it won't harm you or your children.

AnneLovesGilbert · 01/08/2017 13:35
Grin

Yes toad, yes it is.

RatherBeRiding · 01/08/2017 13:36

..school holidays...is it raining where you are?

Beat me to it Grin

HipsterHunter · 01/08/2017 13:37

My sister, who is 25 and is now living with my parents, is currently single but is sleeping with a man for her own sexual pleasures. Now, many of you might think this is ok, except she is sleeping with him in my parents house and he is also staying the night whilst my children and I are here

Ha ha ha you are so hilarious!!!!!.

OP I assume you only slept with a man to procreate your children? Not for any pleasure? Yeah?

Cackleberry4 · 01/08/2017 13:38

Where is the bad situation in this scenario?

ecuse · 01/08/2017 13:40

You're being very weird and totally unreasonable.

Renarde75 · 01/08/2017 13:40

Yeah, this is odd OP.

Your response in case there is any confusion.

NotMyPenguin · 01/08/2017 13:40

I think it's ok... your sister thinks it's ok... your parents think it's ok...

You are obviously entitled to your own opinion, but it doesn't seem to be widely shared. You could always go and stay in a B&B if you object?

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/08/2017 13:40

If your concern is that you don't trust the man around your children that's different. In these circumstances either book into a hotel or sleep in the same room as your children.

PerspicaciaTick · 01/08/2017 13:41

Your DSis is happy, her boyfriend is happy, your parents think it is fine, your other DSis thinks it is fine, MN think it is fine.

What is it in your life that makes you (and only you) not fine with it? Do you hold extreme religious views not shared by your family? I am assume that you and your DH never have sex for pleasure while any of your children are in the house?

trulybadlydeeply · 01/08/2017 13:41

As it's your parent's house, it is up to them who stays in it. If they are happy for this man to be there, then it is up to you whether you remain or not.

What are your issues with this man? Is it simply the fact that your sister is single but having a sexual relationship? Can you hear the headboard banging day and night? Do you have any safeguarding concerns about this man?

If you give us some more details about your specific concerns, perhaps we can help?

MikeUniformMike · 01/08/2017 13:43

I think OP objects to a stranger staying overnight in the same house as her children.

MarthasHarbour · 01/08/2017 13:44

Ah, my own sexual pleasures those were the days. I am now a subservient wifey who puts out purely for my husband's desires Sad On those terms YANBU Wink

FuckYouLinda · 01/08/2017 13:44

For her sexual pleasure??

How dare she? She should be genteely resisting his uncouth advances and your father should challenge the scoundrel to a duel for your sisters honour.

Maudlinmaud · 01/08/2017 13:45

OK then Confused

BaronessBomburst · 01/08/2017 13:45

Well look on the bright side, if he's busy banging your sister he's not going to be bothering your children now, is he?
Next please.......

Renarde75 · 01/08/2017 13:46

OP. How have your utterly normal parents produced a child with such 1950's views? Baffled!

okeydokeygirl · 01/08/2017 13:46

Sorry mim but I agree with what previous posters have said. She is an adult having sex in the home where she lives. Unless you have legitimate concerns about this particular man then can't see what the problem is. If you do have concerns for any reason then it is your job to keep your children safe either by staying somewhere else or not leaving them unattended with him at all. But from the way you have phrased the post it does seem like you are just being judgemental about your sister.

MarthasHarbour · 01/08/2017 13:46

But Mike he is not a stranger to the family. He is her sisters boyfriend Confused

all-this talk of spreadeagling over the table has got me over all unnecessary Blush

Bluntness100 · 01/08/2017 13:48

is it just me who can't get over " sleeping with a man for her own sexual pleasures". Op, are you Jane Austin?

okeydokeygirl · 01/08/2017 13:49

Mike he is not a stranger to the sister or the parents. All new partners are strangers to start. then you spend time with them, get to know them and then they are no longer strangers. I think that is how it works isn't it.

BingoFlamingos · 01/08/2017 13:49

currently single... sleeping with a man for her own sexual pleasures
Do you mean single as in unmarried and not cohabiting because to me and almost everyone else on this thread it just sounds like your twenty five year old sister has a partner/boyfriend 😂😂😂

Bluntness100 · 01/08/2017 13:51

Anyhoo, if rhe op had concerns about rhe man, then the op should be "my sister has a boyfriend who I feel shouldn't be around children for x reason and everyone else disagrees with me" .

BingoFlamingos · 01/08/2017 13:51

Also I'm super pleased for your sister! We should all be having sex for ourselves!!
If you're having sex and it's not fun you can change it OP!!
Sex is great!!

MeanAger · 01/08/2017 14:08

Ha!! Just seen Op's other thread! Grin

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