I wonder what being NT feels like?

[AffIt]

I'm mostly quite happy in my autistic headspace, but every now and again, when I'm having a bad day, I wonder what it's like to be 'normal' and not have a head which feels like a sack of cats.

Take yoga: apparently, yoga is brilliant, but it just makes me angry and then to want to go to sleep, which I can do at home for free, so I resent having to pay for it, which then makes me more angry, and annoyed at not being very bendy.

It must be lovely to just be able to switch off your brain, or, at the very least, just live with it.

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

@Kanaloa

Apologies. Maybe op should have added that she wasn’t interested in anyone’s views or then offering support and was more looking for every poster to just say yes me too must be great to be NT and have no thoughts/no distractions and be great at yoga. Then people would have known.

How inept do you have to be not to see that the post was intended for some casual musings by ND people?

I'll let you into a little secret.

Sometimes we just want to have a good fucking moan and share experiences!!!!

[Kanaloa]

I don’t think I’m inept at all. You’re being super aggressive for absolutely no reason. I am I interested in the topic given that obviously I have to research and deal with NT subjects a lot while raising my kids. From op’s post I wanted to offer some support that there is no need to fit in by forcing yourself into activities because you see them as ‘normal’ and in fact many NT people wouldn’t or don’t like those activities. If op had mentioned that she only wanted ND people to reply and didn’t want any advice or views I wouldn’t have posted. She didn’t, so I responded to the question she asked.

[Kanaloa]

ND subjects, I meant.

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

"Aw, we feel the same way about doing yoga, but we're superior because we have our minds under control and are willing to make the effort and try a bit harder" <hollow laugh, smug demeanour, patronising head pat>

Ffs 😡

Amirite?

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

@Kanaloa

I don’t think I’m inept at all. You’re being super aggressive for absolutely no reason. I am I interested in the topic given that obviously I have to research and deal with NT subjects a lot while raising my kids. From op’s post I wanted to offer some support that there is no need to fit in by forcing yourself into activities because you see them as ‘normal’ and in fact many NT people wouldn’t or don’t like those activities. If op had mentioned that she only wanted ND people to reply and didn’t want any advice or views I wouldn’t have posted. She didn’t, so I responded to the question she asked.

We are NOT here to teach you! This is a mutual support board.

Are you bloody joking?

[Mabelface]

Fucksake. If it's on the neurodiverse board, then the expectation is that responses will be from fellow neurodiverse people!

Look, you don't like our responses, so leave us to it. Stop grinding that axe.

[Kanaloa]

Nobody has said that they’re superior because they’ve just worked harder to do yoga 😐 I think you are being a bit OTT. And I haven’t said anyone needs to ‘teach me’ I’ve said I responded to the op’s question that she asked because I presumed she asked the question to hear people’s views.

[Dalekjastninerels]

But how would another ND person know what it is like and answer the question?

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

I get it. It's a wind up. This is how you treat ND people?

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

@Dalekjastninerels

But how would another ND person know what it is like and answer the question?

We're not interested tbh. It was a rhetorical question 🙄

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

If the OP had wanted to ask a question she'd have gone onto the main boards.

[Kanaloa]

Not at all. I’ve said I have an interest from supporting my son so I frequently browse this board. But you’re misunderstanding or twisting much of what I’ve said. I mean your earlier post

Aw, we feel the same way about doing yoga, but we're superior because we have our minds under control and are willing to make the effort and try a bit harder

Literally not one person has said anything remotely like this. You’ve just conjured it up out of absolutely nowhere.

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

@Mabelface

Fucksake. If it's on the neurodiverse board, then the expectation is that responses will be from fellow neurodiverse people!

Look, you don't like our responses, so leave us to it. Stop grinding that axe.

It's a wind up isn't it?

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

@Kanaloa

Not at all. I’ve said I have an interest from supporting my son so I frequently browse this board. But you’re misunderstanding or twisting much of what I’ve said. I mean your earlier post

Aw, we feel the same way about doing yoga, but we're superior because we have our minds under control and are willing to make the effort and try a bit harder

Literally not one person has said anything remotely like this. You’ve just conjured it up out of absolutely nowhere.

Subtext darling.

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

That's how it comes across.

Please stop with the faux nativity. We're autistic not stupid.

[Mabelface]

Look, these responses are the type of thing we have to deal with every fucking day. Tell you what, have my brain for a day and see how you cope with it.

Anxiety
Depression
Disordered eating
Trichotillomania
Unable to focus
Unable to fully understand social rules
Isolation due to lack of understanding by NT people
Never getting any peace from your thoughts

That's just for starters.

[Dalekjastninerels]

@BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation

We're not interested tbh. It was a rhetorical question 🙄

They why not put

This is a rhetorical question

I don't think anyone is telepathic

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

@Dalekjastninerels

They why not put

This is a rhetorical question

I don't think anyone is telepathic

Oh I'm sorry, I thought NTs had advanced social communication skills. Silly me.

[Kanaloa]

Well I didn’t read that subtext. Nobody has said anything like ‘oh well if you just tried harder you’d be good at yoga.’ All the replies have said don’t force yourself to do something if it’s not working, it doesn’t work for everyone etc.

And I’m not being faux naive or saying you’re stupid, I just disagree with you and think you’re misunderstanding me.

[Kanaloa]

Having said that though I am sorry if I have offended. It obviously wasn’t meant - although I do still think you’ve misunderstood and are pushing it onto me as you’ve decided I meant to be nasty to you when I didn’t at all.

[Mabelface]

Kanaloa

Please leave us to it.

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

@Kanaloa

Well I didn’t read that subtext. Nobody has said anything like ‘oh well if you just tried harder you’d be good at yoga.’ All the replies have said don’t force yourself to do something if it’s not working, it doesn’t work for everyone etc.

And I’m not being faux naive or saying you’re stupid, I just disagree with you and think you’re misunderstanding me.

This is the ND support board it is not for you to be arguing with ND people.

I'm reporting this thread.

[Mabelface]

Barrow, I've reported kanaloa.

Is there nowhere where we can be our fucking selves?

[LetitiaLeghorn]

@Mabelface

I've reported your very rude post.

She's not been rude at all. If on Blackmumsnetters, someone posted, "I wonder whether white people .....?", I'm pretty sure some white people would reply. Same as if you said, “I wonder if men....".

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

I don't misunderstanding people, I just know a perverse wind up when I see one.