Do you like "holidays"?

[EmmaH2022]

Curious to know how others feel about these

I am much like the Miranda Hart episode about holidays...except I wouldn't want to stay in a local hotel either! (Though I would likely to accidentally end up hosting a party in my room). I haven't been away since 2016.

I have been abroad in the past but can no longer cope with the journey. Every so often I think I'll try again but it doesn't seem worth it. I'm not a routine person but the comfort of home and familiarity means a lot to me. I also get bored when I'm away!

I don't cope well with crowds either, so while there's several paintings dotted round international galleries that I'd like to see I don't think I'll see any more. Have been lucky enough to see loads. Recently they have been surrounded by people taking selfies.

My sister was hoping we could go on art tour of the Netherlands but the last few times I went abroad, I was either ill (stress related I reckon) or just really didn't enjoy it.

What do others feel about holidays?

@WhyPaulMemory

I love holidays, but hate the run up! I’m going away next week and am already feeling anxious, just thinking about the packing and getting to the airport, and of course passing the obligatory Covid test! Also I think it’s being out of practice for the last couple of years. Always though, the last couple of days before I think, ‘why am I doing this, I don’t want to go!’. We’re going to a familiar favourite place, so at least I know what the deal is, but the run up is just so unsettling. I have ASD so find change hard to handle. As soon as my bum is in the plane seat though I relax!

This is me. Just started process of seeking diagnosis for ADHD and the run-up to a holiday absolutely does my head in: what to pack, what order to do things in, organising care for dog, elderly relatives etc i could easily spend an entire day just deciding what to put in a suitcase alone. I also put off and off the planning of it all. In the run-up to a holiday I always think I would be thoroughly relieved if it were cancelled. Fortunately Dh (who I strongly suspect may have ASD but would not be interested in getting assessed) absolutely loves planning everything down to the very last meticulous detail, spends months and months organising everything. So, I guess in that respect we are kind of well matched

The whole drive to Butlins I just had this overwhelming urge to turn around and go home. It was like a foreboding sense of doom. Even more so as the skyline pavilion came into view in the distance, getting closer and closer.

I didn't turn because I had 3 very excited primary aged kids in the car.

One I checked and parked up I totally forgot about it until I came back to this thread now I'm home.

I don't travel well and I don't like the check in procedures. Bloody love the holiday. Butlins is my second home, I just forgot.

• is a 4 hour drive for us.

I’m going on holiday in a month and am so stressed. I had a nightmare about the flight last night and I’m worried about sunburn already. I’m really bad at thinking ahead (ADHD) and then don’t have essentials with me which I find really stressful. I really envy those super styled mothers you see by the pool with gorgeous swimsuits and wraps.

MissHaversham sorry you're stressed. can you get someone to help with packing?

I'm just back from one of those days out that's standard for some people and a really big deal for me, I have used up all my spoons and nearly shouted at a very lovely taxi driver (I didn't though, I present very smiley and as if all is well).

It was good, but my first thought on getting home was "I don't have to do that for at least two months now, phew". I will be knackered now! My sister suggested dinner and drinks after but she was fine when I said I can't. I wish I could though.

I find the time change week really discombobulating as well.

ADHD brain desperately needs to go away to far and unfamiliar places every so often. ASD brain prevents me from being able to holiday with other people though - close quarters are too stressful. I'm also becoming increasingly in need of having full control over my own circumstances, so long bus trips with unknown loo stops are out, but self-driving is in. I wouldn't sign up to an organised activity, but love unplanned time spent quietly padding around in the sunshine, or sitting outside a cafe or food stall people watching. Travel in small doses restores me and makes life feel full, but it's at a much slower pace (with much more time lying around in bed!) than most would choose.

I love holidays but packing and actually preparing to go on one causes me huge amounts of stress.

I'm like @LadyCordeliaFitzgerald. I love travelling, new places, new smells, new food etc. But I absolutely hate crowded places, so I never go to touristic spots and instead choose small quaint towns. And I enjoy planning, it gives me a piece of mind that everything will go well.