Baby at a concert

[Worrywort98]

Hi all
I have a 4 month old baby who's pretty chilled. I don't have family support, just me and my husband.

I recently booked a concert (classical music) for our one year wedding anniversary. It's in a small venue. I didn't even consider the fact that babies/children might not be allowed in until after I'd bought the tickets 🫠 and we've no one to babysit.

Should I still bring my baby?

I bought back row seats for swift exit.
He normally sleeps very well if I put him in the carrier. Recently I had to go to a funeral and he slept the whole service.

Please be kind but honest as to what I should do. Thanks

Can confirm this, when i was at the funeral the other day my baby slept the whole time. I was by the door anyway just incase. But afterwards a lot of people remarked they didn't know there was a baby in the building

Sweet suffering shite. I paid for my tickets too just like anybody else. If anything it's my loss if I have to leave early

I really don’t know why you asked because you’re very obviously only interested in answers that validate your opinion on this but people object to babies at concerts because they have a tendency to cry and they can be remarkably loud when doing so. You may take them out immediately(Not all parents are considerate enough to do so) but by then other audience members have already been disturbed and the mood ruined which is shit whether you have paid £15 or £100.

And even when they aren’t crying they often make other noises like cooing and babbling which can also be loud and disruptive.

I asked because I didn't know what the general etiquette is. However I didn't ask for my question to be answered with replies like "you're so selfish if you take your baby to a concert" lmao
Furthermore, I was interested in hearing responses from people who had taken their baby out in this way and what their take was on it.

Yes well your pfb will be lovely and not make a peep at the classical concert. Obviously no one else on this thread or in that audience has got or ever had a small baby and you are the first person in the world to have one so why shouldn’t you be allowed to bring yours along? The fact no one else does this generally (otherwise you’d know the etiquette first time mum or not because you would have seen multiple babies at concerts before) seems to have passed you by.

I'm willing to forgo the concert so how is that entitled may I ask?

The etiquette has been very thoroughly explained. But you’re still arguing.

The dripping sarcasm is lovely 😍

Just pay for a babysitter?

Yeah as someone who took my babies absolutely everywhere, breastfed them everywhere... I wouldn't take them to an ordinary (not for toddlers) classical concert till at least 4 years old.

There is no benefit to an actual baby that you wouldnt get from say a family member playing the piano/violin to them at home. For toddlers it's too long and confining in the seat.

Start at 4yo, start with short and informal ones.

I know what it's like as a first time mum being impatient for your baby to grow up and enjoy stuff like this. But there's a lot of waiting still to come

You do realise that as a mum, you will be more and more in contact with other parents, with their own PFB and as entitled and superior as you are. ALL the babies/ children are of course perfect, well behaved.

If you keep that insufferable attitude of yours, you won't have that much fun. People like you are exhausting.

And again, there's no such thing as a "well behaved 4 months old". I am sure you believe yours is, and it's down to your superior parenting, but he's just a baby.

Not sure what your problem is, by me asking on this thread about what to do I'm neither entitled nor superior
As I repeatedly said I'm not inherently set on going and am willing to give the tickets away if needs be. I'm not sure I even know what you're referring to or what makes you think im being superior haha. The fact is I bought tickets, stupidly didn't check to see if it is baby friendly, and am now waiting to hear back. Have a night off ffs
And I have loads of fun without insulting anybody. Unlike you 😂

What?
I attended full arenas where parents had sitting area tickets with under 6mo babies.
They all just got noise cancellation headphones. Everyone was super nice to them.

That’s not the same as a classical music event, where you can hear a pin drop other than the music. I agree a baby at an arena concert would be less of an issue.

I am not insulting anyone.

You did ask a question, but you are unbelievably defensive and rude on this thread. Seems you only wanted people to congratulate you on your well behaved baby and tell you what you wanted to hear?

You asked people to be honest about what you should do. They are, you don't agree with their answers.

I am just reading your posts. You are indeed funny, the "how will children learn if you don't take them" when you are taking a 4 months old is a classic.

We went to a prom last year, somebody had brought a baby (It was the horrible histories prom so the place was full of kids - A baby wouldn't be welcome to a normal prom - the RAH politely request you don't bring under fives. ) even so, every whimper just echoed around and around because the audience were generally very quiet during the music. They did take them out eventually, but by then everyone had been disturbed. I know you say you would remove them quickly, but realistically, everyone's going to be disturbed by the time you do.

yes, children need to learn how to behave at events and mine been going since small both to concerts and to theatre, but you pick your events carefully - for those at least at this age - where there is a tolerance for a very small children.

Oh for heavens sake, taking your 4 month old baby won’t teach him how to behave in future, what a ridiculous suggestion.
Can he do calculus, speak 3 languages and ride a horse. No? Well why on earth aren’t you making him do them now ………..

I was actually referring to the response where the op had spoken about her children being taken.. not my 4m old baby. I thought that was obvious lol

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Astonishingly, I wasn't referring to my 4m old baby. Another had commented about bringing her 3 young children to a concert and had people eyeballing her but they were wellbehaved. I was merely agreeing with her by saying children should be exposed from a young age to learn how to behave , so please, read it again. Of course I'm not talking about my literal 4m old. If I'm being defensive and rude it's because of people like you being willfully misunderstanding to try and pick a fight

No!

Except you've thrown all your toys out the pram at whoever has disagreed with you and called one poster an idiot (and tried to edit it). That's pretty insulting.

Your baby is not going to “learn how to behave” as a baby 😂.

Those saying just leave if the baby starts to cry are obviously not factoring in how disruptive this is. It’s not appropriate to take a baby - hope you can sort the tickets and take your child when it’s old enough to enjoy the music.

In my area there is 'bach to baby' specifically for parents who want to feel smug introduce their DC to classical music while the child runs around screaming.

You could also look for open air venues now it's summer. A concert in a park would be a good way to bring baby along because babies do sound like distressed sea gulls so no one would know.

Not classical. Unless it's outdoors and festival-y, like the Hyde Park events.