How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

So why do you want to take out the IUD now if you don't want to have a baby now and don't think it's the right time?
If you take out the IUD you will probably get pregnant, and your mum will have to take on a lot of responsibility helping to care for the baby which she doesn't want to do. You may even have the baby taken away from you if you can't care for it fully. I am sure your mum wants to protect you from that. It is hard to accept that you need someone else to make some decisions for you but from everything you have said on this thread it does seem appropriate.

Yeah you are right and I’m getting therapy. I can prove to the court that I am able to make good decisions and function on my own

Honest question, and I'm sure fellow commenters won't mind as they certainly mean well - what kind of reaction struck you as ableist? Such remarks can only be avoided in future if they get pointed out.

I understand that the thread could easily be considered ableist if PP were saying she shouldn’t have a child because she’s autistic.

That’s not the case.

OP is very clearly vulnerable and finding it difficult to follow simple replies while simultaneously contradicting herself. She’s very fixated on the test results but everything here suggests they’re probably correct. She may well be able to achieve independence with support and guidance but we don’t know that yet. Even then, achieving independent living isn’t sufficient to prove capability for motherhood.

As it stands, from the limited information presented, OP is not in a position to consider having a baby. And I mean that from both a practical and psychological perspective.

Having a baby taken away will be far more distressing for OP, so gentle encouragement to accept and seek help will be more beneficial rather than encouraging her to have a baby that she is currently unable to demonstrate she can take care of.

Sincerely, an AuDHD woman.

How am I not in a position to consider have a baby? When will I know if I’m in the position to have a baby?

Op you live with your parents and can’t afford a baby.

Why do you think you are in a position to have a baby?

Are you expecting your parents to support you?

You would be in a better position to have a baby if you can organise things for yourself in everyday life. Things like

live independently for a year without any major crisis
have a job that earns enough to support you
can cope independently if things go wrong.eg if your washing machine broke and you couldn’t do laundry, what would you do?
Can plan a short holiday and go on holiday independently

this is not an absolute list but it shows the kind of independent living skills you would need before considering a baby.

and if it turns out that you can’t have a baby, think about what other things you could do to enjoy life.

You need to work on demonstrating you can live independently - that involves both earning enough to cover all costs and everything involved to take care of yourself and the house (cook, pay bills, food shop, sort out issues etc)

I would say that if you have an IUD then you are very lucky. And if you do not want a baby now, or are not in a position to care for a baby now for whatever reason, then you should really be fighting to keep the IUD. Not have it removed.

I looked it up. See here:

Current Contraceptive Status Among Females Ages 15–49: United States, 2022–2023 (cdc.gov)

An official US government report. And it says :

• In 2022–2023, 54.3% of females ages 15–49 in the United States were currently using contraception.
• The most common contraceptive methods were female sterilization (11.5%); oral contraceptive pills (11.4%); long-acting reversible contraceptives (LARCs), which include contraceptive implants and intrauterine devices (IUDs) (10.5%); and the male condom (7.1%).
• Current use of LARCs was higher among women ages 20–29 (13.8%) and 30–39 (12.4%) compared with females ages 15–19 (4.6%) and 40–49 (8.1%).
• Current pill use was higher among White non-Hispanic females (14.1%) compared with Black non-Hispanic (6.7%) and Hispanic (9.1%) females.
• Female sterilization declined and use of the oral contraceptive pill increased with higher education.

See the part in bold above. Only 10.5% of American women have an IUD. So if you are lucky enough to have one I reckon fight to keep it.

And here is why. BECAUSE LOOK AT THE PRICES IN NEW YORK !

How Much Does It Cost to Have a Baby in New York in 2026? - New York Birth Injury Support & Guidance (nybirthinjury.com)

From that : " For vaginal deliveries with in-network insurance coverage, total billed costs average between $15,619 and $21,800. For cesarean sections, which require surgical care and typically longer hospital stays, total costs range from $19,300 to $22,354 on average."

"For vaginal deliveries, uninsured costs can easily exceed $20,000 to $30,000. Cesarean sections without insurance frequently surpass $37,000 to $45,000, and in some cases can reach much higher."

With those prices, I think women would be using an IUD, the pill, AND condoms.

With those prices who can afford that ? And if there was a problem of any sort, it is into house selling territory. Your mom could easily end up having to sell her house.

OP, how old are you? My son is autistic and he is really immature compared to his peers. I mean, he’s catching up but is noticeably younger in behaviour. I will definitely need him to take a gap year before university to give him a chance to level out - but did you know that autistic people mature later which means that when people say you’re young for your age, it’s probably true but you will catch up!

This means that you should not be making any permanent life choices right now… and also means that you need to give yourself space by accepting that.

my doctor told me to treat my son as if he were roughly 1/3 younger. And when I started to do that, parenting to became much easier.

You have a long life to live, please don’t add any further stress into it by making rash decisions. There will be time for everything you need to do - enjoy the world around you and give yourself a chance to grow before you enter into anything permanent. I had my first child at 34, I was married, had a decent career, owned my own home etc…. And it was still a massive adjustment. Good Luck.

OP, if your mother is anything like me, I can assure you she hasn't gone for medical guardianship for fun. It isn't an easy process to go through. I have medical guardianship for my DD who lives with me. Her intellect is above average. She has trouble with communication and needs me to explain medical things to her to help her understand properly. She also needs me to help her think through her options critically, tell her there are other options, remind her she can refuse or get second opinions. I have medical guardianship because I want the best for her, I know she needs the support and advocacy since she will have trouble communicating it. However I do always make sure things are her decision as far as possible. If she just doesn't know, I tell her what I think of the options and why, and then she decides. It's not in place to make her less autonomous, it's to make her more autonomous with the support she needs to do that and exercise it.

For these reasons, I also don't want her having a baby. If she has a baby, guess who else has a baby? Me. I hope one day she can do so, and I'm happy to support to some degree, but I don't want to be the second parent.

If you aren't happy with any decisions or your diagnosis, you can appeal them, ask for a second opinion, get an advocate or social worker to help.

I do suggest you wait to have a baby will you are independent and in a solid relationship though. That's good advice for anyone.

Just another side for you to consider.

Do you think OP will be more suitable to have a baby when she doesn't live with her mum/carer/support? I am not seeing that.

well she can’t have a baby expecting support from someone else. If her mum gives her it then great but that shouldn’t be expected.

You are not in a position to have a baby because you live with parents and dont have an official partner, just seeing someone.

First you move out, then meet someone. If you are serious about each other you move in together and if that goes well you decide to have a baby (if you can both support baby) Then you take out IUD.

I can see why your mum is worried. "If it happens it happens" and "man with good job will support me" are very worrying statements.

Please stop focusing on babies and boyfriends. These things are not as important as we usually think they are! I think what you really need is more connection and independence.

Can you ask your mom to help you look up local organisations that offer social or educational activities or hobbies that you might like or that might help you gain skills you want to work on?

Don't worry so much about people not accepting you because of your autism. Nowadays many people are much more accepting and I'm sure you can make connections and find things you enjoy. This will help you learn and grow into the person you want to be.

There is a very high chance that your child would also be autistic with a low IQ. That means they would be very dependent on you for support, but you are not very independent yourself, so I don't know how that would work. A lot of people are choosing not to have children for lots of good reasons. You will have more time for yourself, more freedom, more money and less stress if you remain child-free.

If you don't have the capacity to work, & support yourself, that's not a helpful factor. Try and think about the level of function and independence you need to manage a baby.

Do you:

• cook a range of healthy meals fir yourself without needing supervision
• clean in the home by yourself without prompting
• do your own laundry without help
• pay bills like a mobile phone contract without your mom reminding you
• organise your own bank account & budget
• drive or manage bus and train journeys on your own
• shop for clothes & groceries without help
• manage and take any medication you need

When you have a baby you become responsible for another person. Its important that you don't plan a baby thinking the daddy will do all the things above for you.

You say you aren’t official with your partner and he doesn’t accept you for who you are, that you act too young for him. You also say you want to meet a nice guy, which hints that he isn’t.

But you are still having sex with him?

How long into a relationship do you wait to have sex? There are some men who prey on women with disabilities to have easy sex.

If you take out the IUD and get pregnant it won’t turn him into a supportive partner, he will likely abandon you.

Reading your posts it sounds like the right diagnosis. Having a baby is a life time commitment. Leave your IUD in until you are self sufficient, so living independently and coping well.

At a really basic level

1. Dont live independently at 30
2. You are not in a stable long term relationship
3. You are not married.

As you cannot support a child financially yourself... it would be very unwise to have a child put of Wedlock.
You do not come across in these posts as having the cognitive function to raise a child well. Having read ypur posts I agree with others - your writing and grammar is passable (i also had to reread some of it) but you do sound as though you have difficulty in comprehension and are cognitively impaired.

Yes to @SuzyFandangos post.

A child is relentless and demanding and I really would question your capacity and whether this is a good idea (both from your perspective and the childs)

I feel very sorry for you mother - who from the sounds of it is doing her very best to make good choices for you and give you the best life she can.

It shouldn't. But she is an adult with a learning disability and autism, telling her she can parent a child when she lives away from her mum isn't helpful. If she gets pregnant her mum will need to step in to ensure the baby is safely cared for. That's probably what her mum is trying to prevent.

Sounds like it could be right, 'able to function in society and live independently, might struggle with academic tasks'. Do you struggle with things like algebra or writing essays about specific topics?

But test results can be influenced by many other factors, so if you think it's wrong ask for a re-test. And you do get better at them with practise! You could probably find some on line to play with.

Your mother isn’t getting the guardianship to control you. It’s not easy and not something a mother would do unless very concerned.

your challenges are so fundamental that you cannot really see them or comprehend them. Nor how they’d compromise you.

you are vulnerable : it’s coming through loud and clear through the lines here.

having a baby is very hard in the best of circumstances. Throw in some capacity issues, not being independent ( having a medical guardianship means you’re not independent) Not having a stable partner, not properly understanding any of what’s being said to you here tells me you have challenges.

I save this as someone with autism ADHD and a very serious chronic mental health issue that is also fundamental to life. Having been tested, I know my IQ is not low However, life as a single parent is extremely and very difficult.

I would advise you to work on accepting the outcome of the IQ test and diagnosis. Accept that there is a medical guardianship and work with your mother rather than against her.

I don’t know how it works in America, but she could be worried you will get pregnant and have a baby not be able to handle it and she will have to raise it. She may not have the ability to do that herself or want to for that matter

Wishing you all the best

From reading your posts, the test results sound right. You sound very immature and although your posts are written ok, they sound like the words of a child not an adult. You also lack comprehension ability.

Look on the medical guardianship as an extra support and help for you. Your mom will be there to guide you and help in decision-making. This is a good thing and it will protect you. You lack self-awareness, I feel, and so you don’t realise the extent of your vulnerability or how affected you are.