How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

And you're not together now. So it doesn't matter what he said to get you into bed.

I'll give an example from today @Gymnastxo96 with my DD, who has slightly higher scores than you on her tests.

The doctor suggested a treatment that involved an injection. My DD said that she wanted the medicine but didn't want a needle. We told her that the needle was very small and it was a 3 second injection. No. Ok, well have a think and come back another time.

I then mentioned that if she did have her injection next time, we'd probably need to get a Costa drink afterwards. She said 'really??' I said 'oh yes, injection in the tummy definitely needs Costa. Anyway, let's say thank you so go.' DD1 immediately turned to her doctor and said 'Can you do it today?'.

DD1 couldn't see that a 3-second injection was worth it for 4-6 months of improved pain. But she see that a Costa drink made it worth it.

That sort of decision changing is really destabilising if a child is involved.

Disabilities are not all the same.

I’ll give you one example of what I had to do when my autistic daughter with a learning disability would do each night. It would take me 4 hours every single night to get her to settle down for sleep. I had to stay in her room for 4 hours otherwise she would have screamed. It was draining and exhausting and quite frankly a nightmare at the time. That is only 1 tiny portion of it and even that was hard to cope with. I didn’t realise how hard parenting would be either before I did it. Nothing prepares you for the hard work, especially if you have a child with autism and/or LD. That same daughter who took 4 hours to settle down every night is now 22 and I’ve had to deal with her having a breakdown, being sectioned and regressing completely back to a functional level of a baby, while having to physically deal with the fact she’s an adult who is taller than me.

These are the realities and trust me, it’s damn hard work.

So basically they say that they want kids with me to get sex? How do you know if they mean it?

Are you asking them if they want kids with you? Or do they say it without you saying anything?

Yes, and when that baby becomes a toddler, at some point they may say they hate you, don’t like/love you, or that you aren’t their friend.

I have a not so fond memory of then 3 year old DS2 throwing himself on the floor while crying that he didn’t like me, I wasn’t his friend and I was the worst mummy he had ever had. All because I wouldn’t allow him to ride his bike down the slide at the park.

As sad as it is, I think it’s a very good thing that this is not a decision you will be able to make. I expect that the guardianship will stay in place for life and an IUD will be in situ for as long as you are fertile. The risk to yourself and to a potential baby is too great. I’d be very surprised if you were able to persuade a judge that you are able to make your own medical decisions going off what you have written here. Trying to get you to answer questions is almost impossible and you don’t answer them in a way that actually gives an answer, you just repeat the same thing over and over. I am truly sorry that you are in this position and it’s not your fault. Work with your therapist and your mum and strive for the best life you can live. A man and a baby isn’t the solution to the love you are seeking.

I know what you mean. I get called awful names even now by my 22 year old and I’m the worse person in the world

I've never had a man say to me that he wanted kids, just to get sex. Never.
I mean, that just isn't a conversation that would occur at the beginning of a relationship, when sex is on the cards.

Are you sure you're not actively asking boyfriends if they want kids? And they're agreeing, just to get you into bed?

My sister has two neurotypical teenage girls. They are great, bright, sporty etc. She co parents brilliantly with their dad, and there are two fab step parents involved. They still have all 4 adults pulling their hair out at times.

You think a baby will stay a baby. They won't. And a baby with cognitive issues will be even harder to raise. Especially with your issues.

Your mum rightly can't go through it again.

It's been a long thread but I have read a lot of it, and it's obvious that every time people try to advise you, yes you maybe read the replies, but you are answering with a reply that almost distorts what advice you have been given.

It's as though you have read the reply, focused on the first two words of the first sentence, then added some new narrative of your own for your reply. Then you will add an extra sentence at the end asking for help with a totally unrelated question. 😵‍💫

If you struggle this much with the advice given and understanding it, then your comprehension of the needs of a baby and life skills required will be completely lacking.

We're all.going round in circles today trying to manage your answers, and it is a bit frustrating. I hope others can help you better, in a kind and easy way you can understand.

I agree with this completely.

Do you have boyfriends who work with you at the grocery store?

Thankfully, it was just a toddler phase for DS2. Sadly, I can’t say the same about his risk taking behaviour and impulsivity.

DS1 on the other hand is still shouty (for someone who hates noise he creates an awful lot of it!), growly, a biter and hits/kicks. He broke DH’s nose last year when he head-butted him.

It is even harder when DC are taller than you, isn’t it?

You talk about their physical needs when you talk about raising children. What do you think raising them to take care of their emotional needs might mean? What do you have to do to do that?

I completely agree. I've been following this thread thinking thank goodness her mother is on the ball and getting guardianship in place and ensured contraception is sorted. 😬

Ok but what if I find a nice guy that will accept me for who I am? Even my mom said the guardianship won’t be forever so you are wrong! I am in the process of moving out of my parents house when I save enough money to. My parents support me moving out and they think I can do it.

Yeah but even my mother said the guardianship isn’t going to be forever and she wants me to move out soon and she think I can do it and my therapist and doctor thinks so. I can live a normal life with this or I can’t? What can I do about my life?

Why? You are saying I am going to single forever? I don’t want that and there are plenty of men that will accept me and doctors say that I am able to have kids with support and I read online that people with intellectual disabilities can have kids and get married. How am I going to live like this? What am I going to tell my extended family?

Why? You are saying I am going to single forever? I don’t want that and there are plenty of men that will accept me and doctors say that I am able to have kids with support and I read online that people with intellectual disabilities can have kids and get married. How am I going to live like this? What am I going to tell my extended family?

You will have to persuade a judge that you can competently make your own medical decisions which I’ve just explained to you. How are you going to do that? You ignore most of what is said to you or asked. You won’t be able to do that in a court.
What made your mum apply for guardianship?

No. The doctor said it was mild. My adaptive behavior score was 57 and there are ways for me to improve it. And my IQ doesn’t show my true abilities. It’s definitely not moderate at all. The doctor would have said it was moderate but it’s not. The doctor said it was borderline intellectual functioning. Look it up what it means.

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It's so frustrating trying to advise you, OP. You simply ignore comments you don't like and fail to answer them.

Then you ask the same questions, over and over again.

Guardianship sought for the reasons your mother has is rarely short term and those reasons are clear to everyone but you and that isn't your fault. I think your mother is trying to protect you and taking the necessary steps. Stop focusing on babies. Stop focusing on relationships. Focus on voluntary work to build independence skills necessary for functioning in wider life and developing skills to maybe live alone and see how that goes.