@Gymnastxo96 you sound a lot like my daughter. She’s a few years older than you. She wasn’t assessed for autism as a child, as it wasn’t then recognised in girls. She was unable to understand her own vulnerabilities, which older people preyed on. Conversations went round in circles, she acted much younger than her years. She couldn’t understand consequences of her actions, budget her money, assess risk, avoid harm to herself.
In her twenties she had two children by two older men, neither of whom was interested in the children. She lived with me for a couple of years with the children, had lots of input from myself and Social Work during that time. She was convinced she could live “independently” but was simply incapable of prioritising the children’s needs or assess risk and keep them from harm and neglect. She moved out into social housing and was still under Social Work supervision.
Within a few months of her being “independent” and the children’s nursery and school becoming increasingly concerned, the children were placed with me. At first temporarily, then permanently.
My grandchildren are living with me, in my seventies with poor health and mobility, and have inherited their mother’s learning disabilities. The fathers did not seem fully competent either. One of the children, if not both, may never live fully independently. On top of that, they also have to contend with the longterm effects of neglect and ill-treatment in their early years.
My daughter clearly loves her children, but simply couldn’t fulfil their needs. This is what your mom is trying to tell you. She doesn’t want to hurt you, and she doesn’t anyone else to hurt you, and she can’t make you see how easily it could happen.