How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

You have so much going for you. You are confident and driven and want to live your own life. We all need help and there are things that everyone cant do by themselves.
If you can learn when to ask for help that will be the next most important thing you can learn and will give you the most independance of everything.
Good luck and i wish you the very best for your future.

I am going to take everyone’s advice on this thread and take steps to become more independent so I can live on my own one day and become more of an adult. I do not have a mind of a teen. I am taking the steps to become more high functioning. They did a phycological test and it didn’t say I had an intellectual disability

Thank you so much! And why were some people on here so mean on this thread and say I have a mind of a teenager when I do not and a normal guy shouldn’t date me when it’s not true at all? Some of the replies really upset me because I have feelings too and had no problem dating men without disabilities.

Yeah but the doctor said I had borderline intellectual functioning if you look it up it doesn’t mean intellectual disability.

Yeah how can I live a normal life with a low cognitive ability and I could definitely date normal men without people thinking they are taking advantage of me right? I don’t have to just date a guy with the same cognitive ability as me. Some people say I have the mind of a teenager when I don’t.

OP have you ever had support from a speech and language therapist. Do you use a lot of scripted language in real life?

This thread shows how people use ‘high functioning’ to mean something it wasn’t originally intended to mean. It originally meant there wasn’t a co-morbid learning disability/intellectual disability (i.e. an IQ above 70). It doesn’t mean there is a higher than average IQ or a higher than average ability to learn or that someone functions well in life or that they can life independently.

You don't need a PhD to date or marry someone with a PhD. You don't need to be an alcoholic to date an alcoholic, Everyone is free to date/marry who they want and so on. There is the free will aspect though, and all that entails.

Yeah you are right! I won’t let most people on here bother me when they say no normal guy should date me when that is not true 😊

I haven’t gone to a speech therapist and I don’t use scripted language in real life.

You say you've dated a lot of "normal" men but haven't settled down with one and your current person criticises your "childishness".

You don't have to date anyone in particular but you might be happier with someone closer to your own capabilities. My husband and I are very closely matched in terms of intelligence which means that we have a lot in common and can discuss things on the same level. I once had a boyfriend who was less able than me cognitively (he had other talents, as I'm sure you do too) and we frequently got frustrated with each other. He couldn't understand many of the conversations I started and I found it hard when he couldn't keep up or comprehend what I was saying. I'm sure it would be the same if I dated someone very clever.

You keep saying you need to try to show people you are high functioning, you really don't. You need to be the best you can be for yourself, not for other people and definitely not for Mumsnet. Your disabilities are not going away so you should talk with your therapist about what goals you can aim for as a person with the functioning that you have and what things are realistically going to be out of reach for you.

A speech and language therapy assessment and ongoing support from them would help you.

Yeah, you missed the bit in my post about free will. That's a can of worms. I suppose it can be directly compared to criminal culpability ?

You know, that thing where someone does a crime, but they can't stand trial.

Literally nobody said that. This is why some people are querying your mental age as being that of a teenager because... well, you're behaving like one!

Ok I am sorry I thought they did for some reason I think one person said it’s legal but not moral which is wrong to assume that. I won’t act like a teenager. I will act more like an adult.

But you are an adult.

Yeah I am an adult! I don’t know why some people on here said I write like a teenager. So ignorant! I should be treated like an adult!

@Gymnastxo96 you're already exhibiting a lot of teenage behaviour by staying up all night on the internet...

What does that mean exactly?

You are who you are. You can't just "act" like a different person and everything will fall into place. I think your focus should be on learning to accept yourself as you are instead of trying to act some sort of way that you think will bring you acceptance from others and a "normal life", whatever that is.

Yes. That was my point.

It’s not appropriate and yet it’s still happening.

Well if its a new diagnosis thats terrible

What do you mean by that?

Another poster said theyre aware of people getting new diagnosis with terms that are no long in use.

But its a bit off topic and nothing to worry about

Low functioning and high functioning are no longer used as they didn't mean what people assume they do. So the terms now are around needs you will have low support needs or high support needs. but you could be very low needs but also have other issues that mean you need support in other areas. But it means you still need support a neurotypical person wouldn't be adapt to the world

You are right. I am going to accept who I am and try to be better and independent so I can function in life!