How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

I imagine part of the assessment would be deciding if you are able to be responsible for yourself but if you avoid it as much as you are here, then that is a fair indicator that you aren’t s

So do you have a job?

@Gymnastxo96 let's look at it from a different side. Why do you think you Mum wants medical guardianship? What is her motive?

People keep asking if OP has a job - she already said this:

Yeah I work. I can’t provide financially for a baby yet but if I find a nice guy with a good job he could help me support the baby if he even accepts my autism so finding a guy is hard to be with. I could Mabye get a better job

The issue is that you might well not be able to identify a man you’re dating as a creep, even if he is. So, men could take advantage of you and you’d find it hard to realise what they’re doing.

I don’t think you were misdiagnosed. I think perhaps you’re struggling to understand exactly what the diagnosis means, and what it means for you personally in your life. I suggest you ask for help in understanding it, and what concerns your mom and your support workers have about you.

If you’ve passed a sexual consent test, you can sleep with whom you like, but you’d be wise to let your mom and others meet the men before you sleep with them so they can give their opinions. If you dont do that, you could be taken advantage of, but that will ‘only’ harm you.

What you can’t do is just decide to have a baby - because you lack the capacity to make that decision with full understanding, to live independently, and to care for a baby. This baby would be a separate human being to you. You’re not entitled to act in ways that could harm it or mean it’s neglected or not cared for properly.

To some extent you can make bad decisions for yourself (sleeping with men who are taking advantage of you) but you can’t make bad decisions for another person (a hypothetical baby).

I know the test results must be upsetting, but the fact you can’t accept them and can’t understand why they’re right, can’t understand why you have the guardianship, can’t understand why your mom is right to insist you keep the IUD in, etc, show that the test results are correct.

Yes I have a partner that’s 2 years older than me. No one should be concerned that he’s dating me because I am an adult and no one seems to be concerned in my town. I have a job and work part time and am capable of being independent. I know how to do the dishes do my laundry and do housework. What do you think now? I am not a mind of a child? I am very mature for my age and just because I’m autistic doesn’t mean I have a low mental age. I could date who ever I want. I wouldn’t want to date someone the same mental age as me. I had no problem dating typical guys. What are your thoughts now?

I can accept now that they are right. I will get to know about my diagnosis and what my life will be like. I will be more accepting of it.

Why do you say that you wouldn't want to date guys with the same mental age as you? If you don't believe in mental age? And also why would they want to date you if you don't want to date guys like you.

Still, your last post is encouraging, looking into what the diagnosis means esther than just at the numbers is a great start.

Okay so you won’t accept the results or anyone’s opinions, even though it is clear you do have difficulties.

Autism is not an indicator of intelligence - I have autism and ADHD and no learning difficulties.

You really aren’t ’mature for your age’, because that’s the kind of thing people say when they are very very young.

What would your mother have to gain by incorrectly arranging guardianship? If she thought you were capable, she would be happy for you to live your life.

just because I’m autistic doesn’t mean I have a low mental age. I could date who ever I want. I wouldn’t want to date someone the same mental age as me.

This is another contradiction. If you don't have a low mental age, why wouldn't you want to date someone with the same mental age as you?

You mention you have a therapist. These are all matters to discuss with him/her, because they know you and have much more professional insight than we can. You can keep revealing new (if contradictory) info and asking what we think now, but the bottom line is we can't possibly know and you're an unreliable narrator. Posters are erring on the side of caution in case you are indeed vulnerable, but there's no doubt other sites where people would encourage you to have sex with whoever and get pregnant, so taking advice from randoms online isn't so wise. Talk to your therapist, your doctor, your mother, and get the answers you need.

A quick scan of your posts reveals that:

1 apparently you have a partner
2 you don’t think you will ever meet anyone
3 you want to settle down with something with a good job
4 you have been with plenty of men
5 nobody wants to be with you
6 you have a 32 yo boyfriend

All of these things can’t be true at once.

I think you should accept the diagnosis as it’s very likely accurate. And that’s fine, take the help and support.

You do lack self awareness, which is probably part of your condition, and that is why you are vulnerable.

Yes she did say this didnt she

But when asked, what, what hours, she appears to be up at night tonight given I assume its nighttime wherever she is, she hasnt answered that, does she work night shifts, part time, is it voluntary work?

Not all mothers want that and I suspect that there is something to do with OP’s age that is significant otherwise why go for guardianship now.
The mother has had at least 12 years to instigate guardianship so why now?

Any inheritances that need you to be a certain age

And the boyfriend situation is hella confusing!

Possibly because the mental age the test shows is incorrect.

So do you think the OP was misdiagnosed? Because judging by her posts, it really doesn’t appear so. She’s clearly vulnerable.

Would guardianship be something the mother is considering because she knows that, in the event of her illness or death, OP wouldn’t be able to cope day to day? Or perhaps she has done her best and feels unable to continue

What makes you think that? OP writes like a child and is writing very contradictory ‘facts’. She calls herself ‘mature for her age’ - how many 30 year olds would say something like that? She says she has a partner but then she hasn’t, she can’t meet any one but she has had plenty of men etc.

And I think it’s unfair on the OP to encourage her (as a clearly vulnerable person) to disregard the tests etc.

Think she later said it was part-time work. Plus we're all on here, some of us while working. I don't think we can deduce that she's fibbing about work just because she's on mumsnet a lot. She could have some days off, be a night owl, who knows? But the boyfriend stuff is very inconsistent. I'm not saying she's a reliable info source, quite the opposite, just addressing the question people keep asking because she's already answered it and it seems feasible that she can do some job part-time at her age.

Fair enough but we don’t know what that job is, how part time etc.

The stuff about the boyfriend is quite disturbing though

I guess there's a point where it doesn't help us to know/advise. She could say she's a shop assistant for 3 days a week. What difference does it make really? She's not going to say she's a teacher or something that confirms she's higher IQ or to say she stacks boxes or whatever to confirm she's lower IQ. People do all kinds of jobs for various shifts and it's not going to alter the basic set-up that she works part-time, lives with her mum and other salient info we already know.

Probably because the OP has decided to try and get pregnant while unable to make decisions that any of us would want our daughters to make, or work full time, or live independently.

Nowhere have condoms been mentioned either so the OP is putting herself at risk of other health implications too, as there doesn't seem to be a steady partner on the scene

He is my boyfriend it’s just not a serious relationship.