Love Actually - Hasn’t dated so well…

[SMAJJ]

Following on from an earlier thread regarding Four Weddings, I watched Love Actually a few years back and can remember a few things that made me think it’s not dated so well!
Fat shaming, misogyny, homophobic but the worse one for me personally was Colin Firth’s character using an offensive ableist slur…
AIBU and overthinking it - it’s what it is yadda yadda even though it makes me cringe and is slightly triggering ( child has a disability)

its on over Christmas and it’s annoying me that it’ll be lumped in as a great Christmas film but I find it really outdated and offensive!

I really hate that kind of stuff: it’s nasty and outdated!!
Someone give my head a wobble but be kind if you do….

If it helps, OP, there were threads on here about how disgusting it was when the film was released. It wasn't just accepted as being 'of the time'.

I've never seen it.

FWIW, it's probably one of the words automatically picked up by MN's filter that results in posts being temporarily frozen pending review.

I loved it at the time (it was the first 15 I illegally saw in the cinema!) but I've always hated that bit. It just felt so American compared to the rest of it.

I might have been more aware because my sister has cerebral palsy and I was hyper aware of language used around it- i regularly lectured kids at school 🤣 still do now in fact.

The other problematic aspects I didn't take heed off till much later. I'd still watch it again though.

Oh gosh yes i remember wincing at the fat shaming in it. I felt bad for Martine McCutcheon, as even though obviously it was her character not her in real life who was called fat, it was obviously based on her body type, and I personally thought she looked lovely.

Try Carry on Camping instead OP

I saw 4W&AF at the cinema, saw Notting Hill on tv (didn't like it), and LA looked like not my kind of film.

Ive never seen it, and thought i might watch it this year. Having read this thread I don't think I'll bother.

Oh god - I watched the Carry On films way too much as a pretty young child. I loved them! I think the sexual stuff went way over my head. But when you combine that with the general tone of films in the 80s (when I was a kid) - I'm thinking about films like Splash!, Big, etc, it really does boggle the mind!

I dont think it's changed much. It was awful when it came out and is still goddamn awful.

Even Richard Curtis has said that he is embarrassed by a lot of it and wouldnt make it again.

The supermarket advert with Kiera Knightly when she opens the door and is relieved there are no cue cards is funny though!

Worse than Scary Movie 3?!

I saw it, and didn’t like it, at the time. Won’t be watching it again, and I admit I don’t get why people like it, but as my mum said there’s nowt as queer as folk, lol

I can't run at all after my stroke two years ago! Would like to try. Best I can manage is a sort of shuffle on two sticks.

I watched it for the millionth time the other day. I love it, BUT I also feel similarly to you OP. Colin Firth’s dialogue is really jarring and takes me out of the film. The fat shaming of the beautiful Martine McCutcheon feels very weird (and just plainly ridiculous when she has such a gorgeous body!). There are definitely aspects that place it firmly in its time and it’s not a perfect classic by any means, but it does give me a warm feeling to watch it so I probably always will!

It wasn’t of its time - it was, creepy, offensive and dated when it was made. I thought it was horrible at the time, full unpleasant people being inappropriate. I can’t understand how anyone ever liked it. Apart from lovely emma Thompson and that bit is unbearably sad.

It’s always been crap. Many love it I know but I just can’t watch it,

A shuffle is a shuffle 🙌🏻

I started to watch it with my daughter other day. Turned it off when that bloke from the Office was dry humping the lady from Gavin and Stacy with her tits out.

It must be truly exhausting being you @SMAJJ

You think it’s fine to use ableist language? Just so we know, are you also happy with racist and sexist terms or is it just people with disabilities who need to put up,and shut up?

This.

Same here. Shit film then, shit film now. One minute of good stuff (that Emma Thompson scene) doesn’t redeem the rest of it.
https://www.jezebel.com/i-rewatched-love-actually-and-am-here-to-ruin-it-for-al-1485136388

I didnt know he made an ableist slur??! And here i am planning on lusting after him on Christmas day!!

YABU. All ‘art’ is of its time.

It has brought - and will continue to bring - a lot of pleasure to a lot of people.

You get to pick what you consume, OP - just pick something else.

I love this film and always will.

Pretty woman probably doesn't age well but I won't stop watching that either.