Neurodiversity thread - for all MNetters who are neurodiverse - ASD, ADHD, Dyspraxia and more.

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Welcome one and all to the new thread. A safe haven for MNetters who identify as neurodiverse, diagnosis or not, and those waiting for assessment. Links available in recent threads. Newbies welcome. We just ask that you introduce yourself

I basically conduct my entire life online. I barely speak to anyone outside of family - I love and hate email because I can't deal with my inbox (currently tells me I have 4000 unread messages ) but I like to make sure I have my facts straight and sometimes it takes me days to draft a bloody email. Facebook is brief which is good, but there are certain people who seem to be able to goad me into an argument and that's when I get panicked at a notification.

Twitter I use lots and then don't for ages.

I can spend days agonising about what to say in an argument - I even started a thread on the feminist boards about Facebook!

Well done BDH

Well done BDH!

Right so I have just had my pre-diagnositic assessment and I have aspergers - not only that but my Austism Quotient score was 40/50 whichg she said was fairly ihgh for women so she doesn't think I am literally just on the spectrum (which is what I thought she would say!) She said I have been pretending so well but it is why I have had so much depression/anxiety and self harm in the past. She thinks I defintely have adhd traits but not perhaps strong enough to be diagnosed separately. She thinks that they have been more apparent in my adult life since I had a mental health breakdown at 20 when I literally shut down - I lost my memory and she thinks it has caused changes to my brain. Anyway I am going to raise the money to pay the extar £150 to be officially diagnosed by the psych she works with but she said he would diagnose me and would accept her assessment. I am shell shocked and relieved at the same time. I dreading telling my husband and my parents in a way. My parents probably won't believe it and my husband will just use it as an excuse to call me mad again and horrible to me. But I feel strangely free, I am not a total failure - I have always told them that I struggled and I wasn't doing it on purpose but they still criticsed me. Anyway it hasn't really sunk in and I don't know yet to use this information to help myself more but am so glad I have finally at 38 got an answer.

Thankyou Polter. I will try to look after myself thankyou, I know this may well cause mixed feelings and a period of looking back on my life etc. I am quite sure not many will believe it but I know and that is what is important to me for my self esteem. I am starting a new job in a few weeks - haven't been employed since 2005 as have been a stay at home mum, then in education and then self employed. So not even sure what to do about that - do I disclose it when I am only at the beginnings of my career with them? The irony is that ,my job will be supporting people with mental health difficulties and helping them with stuff that I struggle with myself. But I am good at care work, it seems different dealing with my own issues to others. But I don't knpw if I should be telling them and asking them for adjustments. No idea how this works really, I just spent my whole life thinking I was a huge screw up, I guess it will take time to adjust.

Well done rural

It was both a relief and a sadness to me that I probably couldn't just "try harder" to be normal. I also had a bit of a slump.

I will wait and see Polter, that would be best I think. the last time I was in employment I had a major breakdown in my mental health so I am somewhat nervous but it was so long ago that I dob't know if I will need adjustments or not really.

Thanks Laura!

Thanks, everyone. Of course, I keep checking my inbox for a reply every five minutes even though I seriously doubt I'd hear anything back today.

Congratulations on your assessment, Rural.

Me too! When I was waiting to hear about my new job I was at it about every 15 minutes.

Congratulations Rural

Think I did a TMI earlier- a mum from nursery asked how I was, I said absolutely shattered so she made sympathetic noises at me. I then went on to tell her that I think I have a UTI but my sample came back clear, that was a week ago but I'm still having symptoms... been replaying the conversation and trying to judge her reaction ever since, it was way, way TMI discussing my nether regions with a casual acquaintance right?

CrohnicallyPregnant I think UTI's are safer than bowels and genitalia. But I am not the best person to judge as I am often telling people inappropriate things -. I can't embarrass myself it seems.

Felt bad enough before, just seen a post on Facebook that says they're raisin money for x charity...

is raisin money a bit like chocolate coins?

Anything goes? So she won't be avoiding me in case I'm some sort of nutter? Phew!

Ha ha at the raisin money crohn

can you put raisin money in a currant account?

i bet the sultana Brunei has loads in his account.

Email update: no email.

I think pretty much anything goes when it's in relation to pregnancy beteeen women who are or who have been pregnant.

I was going to say pretty much this ^

Pregnant women seem to be exempt from normal TMI rules, especially if they're talking to another woman who's had kids herself.

And at the raisin money.

Polter I think if many dates are proposed, somebody is going to have second that motion.