A new Neurodiversity support thread for those with suspected or diagnosed ASD, ADHD and other NDs

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Yet another thread for neurodivergent mumsnetters.

Lots of links in old threads.

Anyone is welcome, it's not just about autism.

Polter I have confirmed with HR, up to 12 weeks gap doesn't count as a break in continuous service :) it's just a bit complicated.

I did an AQ test when I first thought I had ASD but can't remember what I scored?!

Hope it goes ok BDH.

Polter I got 39 on the one I did, and I just went through Samantha Craft's checklist and was only able to cross off about 6...

My ds doesn't seem to be struggling with anything, but we never went to any baby groups and I avoided NCT and other mother/toddler things like the plague. The thing I found most difficult was not having my required alone time during mat leave. It sort of feels like I prefer the thought of spending time with him than the actual doing of it - somehow I cannot allow myself to do that. I hope that makes sense to you? When I look back at photos I feel surges of emotion but the reality never quite feels like that...

I mean't only 6 don't apply - re-read and realised that may not have been obvious!

I did various "are you autistic" tests online some of which were useful and some less so. When I went for my assessment the assessor didn't set much store by them - I suppose they are quite leading, with some questions it was obvious to me which are the "autistic" answers. But blunt tool or not it's what we have as a generic guide before deciding whether to seek a dx or not.

I noticed there are some fellow pedants here and I wondered if any of you do that thing where you point out someone's mistake, even though it probably sounds very rude? I do it with my boss, who say's 'we're' when he means 'we'll'. I just can't not say it IYKWIM, because every time I stop myself it becomes more and more uncomfortable.

Me? A pedant? How dare you!

I no longer correct people. It was very hard to stop. I will correct published stuff, anything that's produced professionally and should've been checked before it went out. But not personal communications. Besides, I make plenty of mistakes myself, now we have predictive and swipey keyboards and autocorrect. I've even started using the odd comma splice

Hello all. I am terrible for pointing out people's mistakes. I do it all the time!

I was able to hold it in for ages but after he actually wrote it in an email I just couldn't stop myself!

I deleted someone on Facebook who kept using well instead of while. It drove me mad.

Oh yes, I'm a pedant! I try not to correct people because I know it's annoying. It makes me feel itchy when I don't though!

I'm a shocking pedant and frequently seethe. But worse than that I struggle with things that aren't black and white. I just can't compute things that are ambiguous. Something either is or it isn't and I find myself asking the same questions in different manners to try and reconcile it in my brain, if that makes sense?

Blimey, this threads jumped along quickly since my last post..... (Hoping people will still be about, currently insomniac and on the sofa as there's a mouse behind my bedroom cupboard)

Not an overt language pedant, making as I do many mistakes in that department myself, and working in a field where I really shouldn't be

shakey my mum tries to tell me that sometimes there really is a grey area, she says I'm too rigid in my thinking.
If I do come across something that isn't perfectly in its box (black or white) then I need to process it for a while. I ask questions, and have to decode it if that makes sense. It's like a puzzle that I need a bit if time to figure out.

I am paid to be a pedant! Dream job, really. I even sent back my diagnostic report for corrections twice... (to be fair, it was a horror show; the wrong secretary typed it up and sent it to me without even reading it or getting the psych to check).

I don't correct people unless they ask. And.preferably pay me! I lose some control over my word order when I'm tired or overwhelmed, so I don't necessarily talk so good myself ;)

Rosalie do you proof read? That would make me indecently happy.
I'm a pedant. Dd has HFA. She's a pedant. DS is NT. He's turning into a pedant. He shouted at a CBBC presenter earlier to correct her diction today. He's 5.

Did anyone feel a diagnosis benefited them? I'm not sure I have the energy to try and pick the me that has been hidden for thirty years. The girl with the curly hair book is excellent and I really identify with her. I follow her on Facebook and a lot of what she says really reasonates with me. Also, a lot of what temple Grandin and Sarah hendrixx said in their books. I did a very long (rdos?!) test and I scored very highly for aspergers and was given a mh diagnosis ten years ago which doesn't remotely resemble me. Two dd's with autism later and I'm fairly sure the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Oh and I'm very particular. My dh cannot pronounce his th so Bath sounds like barf. Teeth sound like teef. It drives me crazy. It's regional and thankfully I've managed to correct in my nt child and am working on my middle DC but as only in the year or so has she developed good language I'm going easy on her 😉

Giddy . DD has a v-tech cow that says In the day, the sun shines bright. I always, always feel compelled to add ly!

MsQueen yes I feel my diagnosis has benefitted me in a variety of ways. I'm not one who could be happy with self-diagnosis. I needed to know for sure! It's helped me realise that I needed a new job - I'm moving to somewhere quieter and more predictable. I had an additional Occ health assessment for moving jobs and I'm entitled to a longer supernumerary period. In the NHS, disclosing a disability means if you meet the essential criteria, you're guaranteed an interview too. My counsellor is tailoring the sessions around my needs including the techniques we use (some counselling techniques don't really work for ASD). Most of all I can do my obsessive thing and read all about ASD and understand myself better. I'm so much kinder to myself now because I realise I'm not just a 'weirdo', I don't ask myself why I'm so odd and can't do things like most people. Now I recognise it's how I'm wired. It's not going to change but that's OK.

faith my DD has a toy (a lettersaurus I think it's called) that says "x is for exit"
ARRRRGGGHHHH NO ITS NOT!

Ooh that's just wrong! I am such a pedant about time. There's no such time as 12pm or 12am!!! it's 12 midnight and 12 noon. Now even the Beeb are doing it. It's a downhill slope.

I managed to resist sending my report back, but I did correct my ASD specialist therapist's info sheet. Didn't admit to it until a few weeks in, at which point she told me that of course she didn't mind, and asked if she could have it back corrected I worried she'd be offended, but she works with people like us…