Live chat with Dr Tanya Byron, Thursday 6 September between 1-2pm

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Hi all
We're delighted to announce that Dr Tanya Byron will be here for an online chat with Mumsnetters this Thursday, 6 September.

Tanya is a practicing consultant in child and adolescent mental health and has two children of her own. Her new parenting book Your Child, Your Way encourages you to really think about the kind of parent you are and the kind you want to be, but mostly to understand your child.

Tanya will be joining us for an hour on Thursday at 1 o'clock, so grab your sarnies, get your questions ready and join us then.

For those of you who have unavoidable lunchtime commitments, we'll let you post your questions in advance here.

Thanks, MNHQ

For the rest of you, we'll see you on the 6th.

sorry this stems from my violent 19 month old question

and my constantly peeing 3 year old question?

can you imagine if DR T was trying to post and was rumbled, poor woman would be madly harrased

see my PC knows I'm desperate it posted my questions twice for me

Flamebatfink, Marslady - Twins on Supernanny last night (2 sets). Sorry Dr T, no offence.

i think she already posts as madamez... her wild side made real. sorry dr t, an in-joke. which you'll get to understand if you become a regular mner.

Not a supernanny fan! Prefer the gorgeous font of all knowledge Dr T.

yes mrsmarvel but their main problem was being treated like babies (all still in nappies at night, bottles of milk, 3yos in high chairs 1set age 5 1 set age 3)

How do you know she isn't a regular Mner?????

oh dear, only 2 mins left. Well will someone else tell me what to do with my 5 year old who is scared of pooing? She was potty trained fine and no anxiety at all for over a year before it started - seems to be related to change or stress.

oh i wish she was...although do agree if ever found out she'd be severley harrassed!!!

You are all terrifying me... Time out for over 2's only but please can we be less hooked up and techniques and think this - why do I have x prob with my child? what does it say about me? why when our children are behaving like...children...do we lose our nerve, fall apart and wonder whether they will be banged up by 9? Why when our child has a tantrum do we have one back (they are the CHILD we're not). I promise you all if you could try and be less hooked into - oh dr t you're the expert, tell me what to do - and calmed a bit, looked at the behaviour, analysed when and how it happens and how you may inadvertently be reinforcing it. Think about whether your child is getting mixed messages from other adults that care for them. Think perhaps whether your child's behaviour is less about them being 'naughty' and more about them refelcting some bigger emtotional issues in their life/ the family etc. Get back to a sense that you are instinctively the right expert of your child. Pick a management solution and stick to it clamly and consistently ... and BTW for SN parents |I advise same behavioural messages and boundaries for your child and lots of support for you. Finally in this post remember the notion of the self fulfiling prophecy - you and other think and label your kid a problem, you and others will behave in a manner that will signal that to your and child and bingo...they will be.

Supernanny - tchah! Dr T doesn't have to dress like a dominatrix to be taken seriously.

although...

Don't be scared Dr T..... just do a quick thought for us multiple mums. Individuality blah blah blah!

Oh feck my question wasn't at all broad. Bugger. But I nearly fell off my chair onto the mountainous/ignored ironing pile when I saw she was live online.. I had to try even though it's a SN question.

DH and I have often speculated on how we could entice Dr Tanya round to tea (with one of his cakes perhaps?) so we could say to her, "Look! Look! See!" as DS does his beastly things that he does..!

There were a lot of other things - competetiveness among the older ones and also the younger ones were siding together to wind up Mum.

Don't go Dr T, we promise we'll think for ourselves.

lol unquietdad

I so agree with the self-fulfilling prophecy thing.

I think DS1 will be in nappies till he's seven, but I'm cucumber-cool about it (esp as he's so polite!). I just wish other people would be!

Right - that's it - we're doing the distraction techinique for DS until it stops working! I've found if I'm calm when DS kicks off, he calms dowm quicker. SOmetimes he just wants a cuddle.
(Might 'naughty step' DH if he walks off and leaves Ds again!)

I think you'll find Squonk that my foot was in before 14.00! So rasp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lol naughty step dh! Me too.

hehe tutter smils!!