Live chat with Dr Tanya Byron, Thursday 6 September between 1-2pm

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Hi all
We're delighted to announce that Dr Tanya Byron will be here for an online chat with Mumsnetters this Thursday, 6 September.

Tanya is a practicing consultant in child and adolescent mental health and has two children of her own. Her new parenting book Your Child, Your Way encourages you to really think about the kind of parent you are and the kind you want to be, but mostly to understand your child.

Tanya will be joining us for an hour on Thursday at 1 o'clock, so grab your sarnies, get your questions ready and join us then.

For those of you who have unavoidable lunchtime commitments, we'll let you post your questions in advance here.

Thanks, MNHQ

For the rest of you, we'll see you on the 6th.

Please don't stop doing tv it's wonderful to get advice and be able to see it and watch the children's behaviour improve, HOTT was the best by far because you get the whole family picture and they are there constantly until the problem is solved, the fact you work with the parents and help their relationships as well is just amazing!

I think it's true what they say about 3 days to make good habits and 3 days to break them. Recently my mindee's mum insisted he drop his daytime nap as he had started waking at 5am all this did was make him grumpy, violent towards other children and his food issues worse, after 6 weeks his behaviour was so bad she gave him his nap back and he is now almost back to the delightful boy he was when i first took him on.

What is your take on naps affecting night time sleep? Is it up to the child to choose when to drop it.

ooh i've got a really good one...

is there such a thing as Too Young for Time Out?

[childish]

LOLOL, TE.

hurrah for DR T she agrees with moi (and Tigana)!
I will now use that fact to any smartarse mum who thinks always a right way/wrong way to do things...

one size does not fit all ( my new mantra)

Selective Mutism is a rare condition but a real one and not attention seeking in a child. Often these kids will talk to those they are safe with (mum dad gran) but no one else and often they will only speak in safe space eg. the home. For the SM parent I agree your earlier comment that there is little info and your support seems all that I know there is but I would recommend thinking psychologically and look at using a technique called sliding in - this is similar to the desensitisation toilet one earlier - get your child used to talking in front of others in a gradual and systematically pre planned way by starting with them whispering to you when someone else (maybe classroom assist) in room looking away and build form there in stages (the reverse of the gradual withdrawal night tech I mentioned before) until other person sitting near you and child whispers to them through you (ie. they ask you to ask the child a question) and build. In general for any anxious child the process should be a slow, calm steady exposure to what they afraid of - so lick a small bit of friut will build to bite cew and swallow over time etc. To plan this with your kids draw a ladder on a piece of paper and at the top put where you want your child be be in terms of their behaviour and then at each rung plot your small steps to getting their. Telling kids to blow out imaginary birthday cake candles or have a red ornage green system of pointing to a colour to indicate when they Ok, a bit anxious or very helps as well. And do you know what? My DH (took me AGES to work out yoour codes!) has just brought me cup of tea!! Bless him!!

Have we frightened you with our over zealous approval? Don't go away yet, we still have 11 minutes in which to become wise and good.

Tis easy to read...

We want this weekly, and Marsy is desperate for twin advice. I'd quite like it too because my two get up to similar united destruction despite the age gap

"Too Young For Time Out" sounds like it should be on BBC-3 alongside "Dog Borstal" and "Help! I Smell Of Fish".

(And the peerless "House Of Tiny Tearaways" with its gorgeous presenter, of course.)

If you get time DrT - you touched on food problems - ds1 (6)'s problems seem to stem from anxiety about food - how would you approach a child who gets terrified about new food, shakes, can't eat even food he likes because of the 'smell' of the new food on the table? To the extent that he would go hungry rather than sit at the same table. And will get to the point of vomiting through hunger (after 2 or 3 days) rather than eat.

Growingbagpuss - some men just don't like advice. I let it go when it's the kind of asking for directions type, but when it comes to the kids it's too important. But please Dr T - tell us how to get them to listen.

Bless him. but I'll continue with my mantra.... TWINS Dr T.... what about the twins?

Well done Dr T's dh...there's going to be a few gutted dad's on mumsnet today knowing Dr T is in the safe hands of a tea making guru

Agree at least monthly..purleassseeeeee I need sleep and I need help

and jealous teenagers, Dr T, what do I do about them?

TWINS

My 19 month old has just wahcked herself on the face with her pram, cried came up got a cuddle and then bit me, whats that all about?

caps and bold, flame? tsk

She's a girl n fickle sweetkitty

Thanks Tanya

Dr T have you seen the thread about you in the Mens Room section? There's some big love going on for you there.

19 month olds are just weird - question answered

Does this mean we can CAT Dr T? Is she going to be a permanent Mnetter? Will she lurk and post unexpectedly ? ooooohhh yes please!!

Marslady's wettin herself trying to get her question out there

sorry this stems from my violent 19 month old question

and my constantly peeing 3 year old question?