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Organise your life - live chat with parenting coach, Judy Reith, Monday 19th March, 9pm.

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AbbyMumsnet · 14/03/2007 17:00

On Monday 19th March, from 9-10pm, we'll be hosting a live chat with parenting coach, Judy Reith. New research by Horlicks shows that many women can't remember the last time they had a good night's sleep, so Judy will be offering tips on how to organise your life so that you can fit in enough quality sleep and have more energy for the demands of family life. If you can't make the chat you can post your questions in advance here.

Hope to see you here on Monday.

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AbbyMumsnet · 14/03/2007 18:23

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AbbyMumsnet · 15/03/2007 14:49

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Rachel (mumsnet) · 16/03/2007 13:30

For those who are keen to know a bit more about Judy Reith, take a look at her website: here . Do send in your questions - it'd be get some in advance of the on-line chat.

Rachel

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AbbyMumsnet · 16/03/2007 15:09

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AbbyMumsnet · 18/03/2007 18:43

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colette · 19/03/2007 03:53

I would really like some advice on how to stop my 3 year old ds and 8 year old dd squabbling.
Dd tends to "overpolice" ds and he can be a bit rough with her. He is very boisterous and she is oversensitive . They fall out so much it is really getting me down and part of the reason I think that I can't sleep now!
Not sure if this is quite relevant to the opening post

Nbg · 19/03/2007 07:47

Will you come and live with me please?

TrinityRhino · 19/03/2007 07:59

I would like help with my relationship with my 6 yr old. she is very snesitive and cries easily which I am finding hard to have the patience for. I used to tell her to stop crying but reqalised that was ridiculous so now try to be sympathetic. I am ashamned to say that I fond it hard. Also she constantly wants to sit really near me and keeps saying'can you put your arm around me'. I KNOW that she is asking for more affection and attention but or some reason I find it anoying and I KNOW that I'm not doing my best with her. I had severe PND after she was born. I find her draining and hard work, she is bright and constantly asks questions but also constantly needs reassurance of everything she is doing. watch this, look at this... when all she is doing is jumping down the last 2 stairs or something. It's constant, I find it hard to be enthusiastic and I knwo I need to change.....how do I stop feeling like I just want her to shut up and stop bothering me constantly. I ffel very guilty about this.

TrinityRhino · 19/03/2007 08:00

wow I sound like an awful mother

moondog · 19/03/2007 08:01

Hmmm,what rates does she charge usually

saltire · 19/03/2007 08:07

I could do with some advice on how to deal with my almost 9 year old. He cries very easily, and goes off and sits in a corner crying over silly things - like his brother turned over the TV, or switched off the CD he was listening to. He will then cry for a while , real sobbing , then go and wallop his brother and before I know it they are hitting each other. He also seems unable to cope with his anger, he lashes out very easily if someone or something annoys him. he has hit my childminding children before simply because they happened to be in his way. I find myself getting very cross and annoyed with him because of the constant crying and whingeing, and hitting but I don't know how to deal with it and make him and I happier people.

moondog · 19/03/2007 08:08

Also,what qualifications does she have?

saffy1 · 19/03/2007 11:17

Hello Judy. I have 3 primary school aged kids, work part-time as a freelance designer, so fit my work in around the kids and don't have any childcare. On the one hand this is great but it does mean that I'm constantly on the go. I never seem to get anything done to the best of my ability and feel both the kids and work suffer because of this. I often end up working late into the night and then rushing about in the morning trying to get the kids to school. My husband does help - a lot at the weekends -but works long hours so just isn't around to give much more help during the week. My house is a mess and there's constantly a backlog of washing. Furthermore I look a mess! I dream of having time to shop for some new clothes or even get my hair done but these things invariably are bottom of the list. How can I organise my time better so I don't feel like I'm constantly running around like a head-less chicken?

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emmybel · 19/03/2007 14:03

I would like some advice on how to combine work and family life with more success. Since my youngest child started school I've been working full-time and use the school's after school and breakfast club for child-care. The children do enjoy this although I appreciate it is a long day for them. They do seem to resent me working though and I constantly feel guilty for choosing to go back to work. They often moan to me about me not picking them up from school and my youngest daughter is always asking me when I'm going to stop working - although i've told her this isn't going to happen.I love my job and on one-hand have been much happier and more fulfilled since starting back at work but I am constantly feeling guilty because I know they'd prefer me to be at home and at the school gate each day. Any suggestions?

zephyrcat · 19/03/2007 14:09

I am in desperate need of some advice on how to organise and calm family life with 3 young children in preparation for the arrival of twins in September/October.

I feel that in order to be able to 'cope' when they arrive I need to establish an element of calm and order well in advance! I currently have a 5yo, a 2.9yo and an 11 month old.

Where do I begin??

tillytwo · 19/03/2007 14:10

Since having my second baby (3 months)(I also have dd1 who's 3) I don't seem to find a minute to sit down and when I do I just can't relax and feel guilty that I'm not doing something.The list of things to do seems endless. Even when I'm watching tv, I am writing lists for the next day or ironing. AT night i find it hard to sleep because I'm fretting over getting behind with all the chores.My husband gets so cross because when dds are in bed he wants us to chill out and relax together and watch tv or open a bottle of wine but I find it hard to do this with him. It's affecting our relationship and I know I'm gettig more and more tense and argumentative -which I think is partly due to the fact I get so little sleep. Will things get easier?

Marina · 19/03/2007 14:19

Hello Judy, can you advise me where I can even begin to persuade a clingy but also assertive 3.5 year old to stay out of our bed at night? Dh and I have probably not had an unbroken night's sleep in eight years (did I mention ds, 7, usually wanders in to join the slumber party at around 5am?) and both work outside the home. We are in our early 40s and both look freshly dug-up at the moment
Both of them trot out the line "but mummy we love and miss you so much, we just want to kiss you both all night" when we try to discuss this in a reasoned manner, the little weasels.
As you may have gathered we are not a CC, or a door-securing sort of family
It's affecting the children too I am sure they need more sleep than they are getting.

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liquidclocks · 19/03/2007 14:22

Judy - I have a really short question which I'm sure takes a lot longer to answer (or I'd have thought it up myself!) - How on earth do you keep a 2.5 yr old in bed in the morning??? If you can answer this all my sleep problems will be solved...

Marina · 19/03/2007 14:23

It does put my problems into perspective I must say Fio I could sort my two out if I wasn't such a wussy...
Did you pop along here to check what zippi was on about too?

lulumama · 19/03/2007 14:24

For Judy

How do I stop a 7 1/2 year old DS feeling left out and jealous of 19 month old DD, when she genuinely does need more of my attention....as he can dress himself, entertain himself, play alone if necessary ?

I try really hard to have quality one on one time, but a toddler is , by their nature demanding ! I think part of it is , he was an only child for almost 6 years, so it is a hard adjustment.....any hints?

DH works long hours and family are far away ! So it is me 95 % of the time, splitting myself between kids, housework, and the myriad of other things !

thanks x

Flamesparrow · 19/03/2007 14:34

I'll join in.

Just set up a business - working from home.

Nearly 4 yr old has preschool mornings only, 12 month old home all the time. I am desperately trying to set up the shop, care for children, find my house under the pile of dishes, provide decent meals (DD's behaviour suffers with poor meals), and then by the time I have done all that, it is 10.30pm, I haven't seen my husband, I am tired but want a few mins to be a grown up... so I end up going to bed even later and am then more exhausted... so the cycle continues!!

Anyway... the point I am getting to is... DD (the older child) isn't coping with this very well - she wants my attention (understandably) and I don't have a great deal of time or patience because I am so tired. She has started wetting the bed after a good run of dryness, she is having bad dreams (yells in her sleep about various things at about 9pm each night), and she is generally looking run down and not the happy little girl she used to be I don't know how to balance things to give her enough attention and to give me enough patience not to snap and yell at her like I am all the time lately.

I'll try and get on for the chat, but as you can see by reading that - it might not happen!

judyreith · 19/03/2007 14:48

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