Webchat about bereavement with grief psychotherapist Julia Samuel, Thursday 9 March, 1-2pm

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Julia Samuel is a grief psychotherapist who has spent the last twenty-five years working with bereaved families, both in private practice and with the NHS at St Mary's Paddington where she pioneered the role of maternity and paediatric counsellor. She is Founder Patron of Child Bereavement UK, where she continues to play a central role. She is joining us on Thursday, 1-2pm to offer advice and answer your questions.

Julia’s first book Grief Works presents a series of deeply moving case studies of real people's stories of loss, and how they survived. Alongside the case studies, Julia offers brilliantly accessible and practical advice, for those who have suffered loss and for those who feel awkward and uncertain around death, and feel unable to talk honestly with family and friends.

Julia will be answering questions and offering advice on Thursday 9 March, 1-2pm. If you’re unable to join us on the day Do post up questions for her in advance.

Thank you all so much for your very moving and heartfelt questions. I really wanted to be able to answer them all, and I'm so sorry I didn't. I hope the answers I've given will go in some way to answer those I haven't given. My website www.griefworks.co.uk has a section you can ask questions, also a question where you can post your experiences, thoughts, ideas, poems and quotes, so I'd like to encourage you to do that. In some ways the answers I've given are always inadequate because these are complex issues that take time and discussion to unravel but I hope the small pointers I've given are helpful. Love Julia x

Julia, thank you so much for taking the time to answer as many questions as you did so fully. Reading through your answers to others as well as my own questions has been really useful and I will spend the coming days looking at your website more and reflecting.

Sending my love and thoughts to the others on the threat who have experienced deep loss.

Julia, a million thanks for answering my question, I so appreciate it. I will look at the link you gave me. I do feel terribly unsupported you hit the nail on the head. I'm just back from the drs with another emergency apt, I have health anxiety, so much worse since mum died. Dh said after I told him about it, "I don't worry about dying as I know you are here for the kids, maybe you dont feel like that" and he's right, I don't feel like I have the support he has, but this feeling is coming from my siblings, not from him, well not entirely, he is great, although I just can't bear anything happening to me and my kids knowing what it feels like to lose your mum, although I know this is daft as none of us lives forever.

Am rambling now, I just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to reply to me.

Julia - thank you so much for your time and advice this afternoon. And thank you for answering my question.
It's the first time I've been able to articulate how I'm feeling and your reply was so helpful and has given me a lot to consider.

Also sending love to all on this thread.

I just wanted to say thanks for answering my question. I wasn't able to be at the webchat today but your words are very kind and helpful.
Thank you.

I know you have gone now Julia but thank you so much for taking the time to answer my question. I will definitely have a look at the link you added.

Thankyou Julia Samuel for answering my question and for your compassionate advice on how I can move onwards.

My sister took her own life and the pain I feel everyday doesn't seem to get any easier. It's been 2 years and I have just started having cbt therapy!
I have also lost both my in laws in this 2 years who treated me more like a daughter than my own parents amazing people
I know I have to deal with this hopefully the cbt will help me to sort my head pain and hurt I feel every day 😢