Super soaker etiquette at parties

[tigermoth]

Does this sound ok to you?

My ds2 age 8 has been invited to a classmate's party tomorrow (after school ends, last day of term).

The party will take place outdoors in a small park next to the school. (Host and helpers will take the whole class to the park after school ends in the afternoon - hurrah!)

I saw the host's mother yesterday to confirm arrangements. Ds1 begged to bring his large super soaker water pistol with him - and a spare one to give to someone else.

Host's mother and I had a quick talk and agreed it was ok as long as it was warm weather. But I am not sure if host's mother was agreeing under duress IYSWIM. Ds2 was being very insistent and I wonder if the mother was just being polite through gritted teeth?

I told ds2 in front of host's mum that she had my absolute permission to veto any super soaker activity on the day.

ds2 has come home from school today obsessed with super soaker plans. He has apparently got his teacher's permission to bring in bottles of water and store them, along with his two super soakers, in school for use at the party (as there is no water supply at the park). I keep reminding him that if it is cool or if children get upset, the water fight is off, but he seems to have his mind set on this.

I cannot contact host's mother - can't get her phone number and I am unlikely to see her tomorrow morning as she does not do the school drop off. So as it stands,
ds2 will arrive at school tomorrow complete with super soakers.

I plan to write a letter to host's mother re-iterating that she has my utter permission to ban super soakers and ds2 knows this. I will give this letter to ds2 to give to her at the beginning of the party. Ds2 knows I will check that he has given her the letter when I collect him.

It's the end of term, the party is outdoors, I don't want to put the dampers on ds2's plans but hmmm.... what would you think if you were the host's mother? Would you be ok with this?

PS Bit of extra background - some of the parents of ds2's classmates see him as a bit of a livewire, so from what I can gather, he tends not to get too many play date or party invites. This is the first class party he has been invited to for ages and I have told ds2 it's really important that he does what he is told by the host mother so the other parents will see he takes notice. At school, ds2 is reasonably well behaved - I never have to see his teachers about his behaviour, and as a rule he plays well in a group, but I know he will be running around in a frenzy of super soaker, end of term excitement.....

He could just piss on everyone with his own...erm... 'onboard equipment' and be done with it.

aerosol - for painting or sniffing ?

oh sniffing yes

A bag and some glue

maybe a knife too

Perhaps he could take a copy of the CLBB and be done with it.

If he sprayed me with it I'd shove it up his arse.

I don't think that's in Debrett's

Just read the whole thread.

Tigermoth, I admire your tenacity.
You're clearly mad.
And very, very wrong.
But I admire your tenacity.

If your DS took his super soakers, then he would be the centre of attention.
It's not his party.
He can't be the centre of attention.

Just.
Say.
No.

a bit more interesting than pin the tail on the donkey .

Me too lizinthesticks. And then I'd come on here and start an AIBU thread about it

TM, I think it's a bit rotten to send him off with super soakers when all the other guests won't expect it. How about a couple of paint ball guns instead?

What about a Taser?

i am pissing myself laughing at this.

tiger you certainly are persistent, think host mother might have just said yes to shut you and make a quick get a way.

Do you think your ds has not had many party invites due to hime being a live wire, or perhaps mum not always taking a hint. Eh, not a bad thing in some situations but not this one.

Host your own SS party and see how many people you get attending, let us know!

Our family rules state:

if someone super soaks an unarmed person, the unarmed person is at liberty to chuck a whole bucket of water at the 'hilarious joker' who soaked them in the first place.

Our days are simply packed with japes and frolics.

Or laser pens.

Just get a cattle prod .

The host mother may have spent the day arranging to call in a favour from a friend in the fire service.

Tiny Tigermoth squirts supersoaker.

Birthday girl retaliates with 60ft water hose.

With her mother's permission, of course.

Laser pens, excellent.

Perhaps they could try to take down a plane.

Cattle prod - now there's an idea for a novel party game!

lets throw in one of these to really get it going

CU - did you not read this bit in the OP?

"He has apparently got his teacher's permission to bring in bottles of water and store them, along with his two super soakers, in school for use at the party"

Now where's he gonna store a tank? Tut!

But he has the Heads permsission for ground to air missiles - stored behind the bike shed .

Do you have any Weapons of Mass Destruction? Do they fit in his school satchel?

ok, this is what is happening: I have told ds2 that he cannot take his super soakers.

But he has said some of the other children are bringing their super soakers (oh goodness, horrible thought, do you think the host mother is now relying on ds to bring his super soaker and will be cross that we let her down) anyway... whatever is or isn't the true case, judging by the reaction on here, I will not let ds have them without being 100% sure they are welcome.

I will put them in the boot of the car and when I arrive, AND if it's a warm day, will see what's what.

If other children have Super Soakers, or similar, I will take host mother to one side and ask her if I should let ds2 have them. If host mother says 'yes' I will really press the point but if I am convinced she means it, then I will take them out of the car. (But with some trepidation after seeing all your messages!