I am going to launch DP into the SUN for this.

[Yesitsbess]

Ten years. TEN YEARS of careful seasoning of my cast iron pan and he has "cleaned it". With wire wool.

After I pay Elon Musk to devise a trebuchet large enough to launch him directly into the Sun, does anyone have any advice as to whether this is even vaguely salvageable?

My fabric scissors are hidden. I like the idea of a padlock though.

He's now asking how to fix it

If he's old enough to trash a pan he's old enough to google how to fix it.

I feel your pain. DGM once scrubbed DM's beloved pan on the grounds she'd "never have allowed it to get that dirty"....... carving knives at dawn

They think they are the next Gordon Ramsey, but usually have the cooking skills and palate of a labrador.
Don't understand this thread but it was worth it for this ... suspect I may be in this category.

Ps Sorry for your loss, OP

The passive aggressive man ugh.

Burns the bottom of pans
Broke the handle off a very expensive hair brush
Posted one of my prize plants to an internet friend
Used my fabric scissors to trim his beard leaving the clippings all over the sink
Manages to break every one of my favourite cups

My people. My dp dropped my lasagne dish, the only lasagne dish in existence that neatly fit lasagne sheets without needing surgery. He didn't think this was a big deal and he'd just buy another. I currently have FOUR inadequate replacement lasagne dishes and now apparently I'm unreasonable for refusing to make lasagne ever again.

@Herecomesthesun70

What's this all about. I've never heard of such a thing. I feel like I'm not a real woman now

Whereas I'm reading this thread in horror at all the mofo's happy to eat from what is essentially a filthy pan that doesn't get touched by soap 😲 and is probably crawling with all the bacteria of everything that's ever been cooked in it. It's put me off eating in anyone else's home ever again 🤮 . It's up there with other crimes against humanity like putting toilet brushes in the dishwasher probably with the dishes .

Are all scissors with orange handles the good ones? I have a little pair that are really sharp and good, best hide them.

@FluffyWhiteBird but you're not going to get ill of it! Everything is cooked and it's a high temperature and you wipe it out, you don't just leave it to fester
It's like letting tannin build up on a teapot

@FluffyWhiteBird my love, seasoned cast iron and/or carbon steel is used by every decent chef and in every restaurant the world over. The woks used for Chinese food are carbon steel and seasoned the same way as cast iron. If you think that any "germs" can survive being heated to approximately the temperature of the sun, well, perhaps your education is to blame.
Food is not left in the pans. What is left behind is polymerised oil - basically, it forms a hard, nonstick surface quite similar to teflon but without the fun carcinogens.

And since it's come up a few times -

Untreated cast iron is silvery grey and prone to rust, but it turns black as soon as it's seasoned. This requires maintenance and you need to be careful with soap or acid but it can be heated as hot as you want or need.

Cast iron can also be coated with enamel, which is what you have if you have a Le Creuset or Le Creuset-type pan with a cream-coloured interior. This enamel is a coating on the cast iron that makes it require less maintenance, but it can't be heated too high or it scorches. You don't need to maintain it otherwise, you can soap it up and cook tomatoes every day without worry.

How to season a cast-iron pan. For those of us without an oven that has a self-cleaning cycle, ask around for a friend with a kiln or similar because you do need these temperatures.

www.cooksillustrated.com/how_tos/5820-the-ultimate-way-to-season-cast-iron

www.lodgecastiron.com/cleaning-and-care/cast-iron/oils-cast-iron-cooking-and-seasoning

If he owns an angle grinder this is a good opportunity to strip off the old seasoning and have it glassy smooth like the best old pans. I have a cheap modern pan that I had this done to and it performs as well as the ones a hundred years old.

TBH I've never really thought about it. Or had any actual "cooking" lessons of any kind. School was more about healthy nutrition and how food affects the body and some scientific type experiments involving potatoes. So I just clean stuff. Properly. As a child every metal oveny-type or pan-type thing that came into the kitchen ended up looking like that, with added blistered flaky bits that fell off in the food, despite starting off some shade of silver/grey when purchased and being "cleaned" with washing up liquid and brillopads. It was just filthy. All of it. There were no chefs in that kitchen! 😆 Or hygiene. The fridge almost always contained something green and fluffy that used to be food and the walls were splattered in blood. Presumably had mum not taken a spiky sledgehammer to the meat once a week she'd have had a hobby as a serial killer, I thought it best not to ask.

@BoomChicka
Oh that is the dream lasagne dish, I’m so so sorry. I never dared dream such a thing has ever existed

This makes me feel sick to my stomach, when I was about 18 I had a part time job in a restaurant, after a while i was offered kitchen shifts. I was very keen to learn to cook properly so jumped at the task. It was a restaurant specialising in Cajun food. On a quiet shift I was being as productive as possible, cleaning, tidying etc and scrubbed the chef's cast iron blackening pan until it was as shiny as a new pin. He was a 6’5 broadly built South American man. He honestly nearly cried, the sous chef told me to run. The pan had been his father's. I've never felt more stupid in my life.

Give his car a nice clean just like he did your pan.

@Crinkle77

I really couldn't get upset over a pan.

When the cost of the items is taken into account - and that I've worked bloody hard to pay for them - it hurts to see them trashed as though they're nothing important.

Same way others hate their cars being filled with takeaway wrappers or bumped up kerbs/against walls, white clothes turned grey because they've been put in with darks or every jumper, set of voiles and pair of socks they own being put on a sixty wash. Or coffee and pizza stains left on a carpet.

There could be something that's important to you - perhaps your clothes, car, TV, the house itself - if you think of something you love and have worked hard for, imagine that being trashed not by accident, but out of lack of care. And you're told in so many words and deeds that it's not worth caring about because it's only [your item]?

@Couchbettato

Did any one ever read the story of the old lady who killed her husband with a frozen turkey, then cooked it and fed it to the police so they couldn't find the murder weapon.

Threads like this always remind me of that story!

Worst of all it was one they made us read in primary school.

Anyway, if this were my husband I'd be getting a turkey out of the freezer.

It was a leg of lamb. It’s called “Lamb to the slaughter” and it’s by Roald Dahl.

I don’t understand how he could have been fully aware for years that the pan was not to be touched, then suddenly decide to ignore that and scrub the fuck out of it?

Whereas I'm reading this thread in horror at all the mofo's happy to eat from what is essentially a filthy pan that doesn't get touched by soap 😲 and is probably crawling with all the bacteria of everything that's ever been cooked in it.

You've got the wrong end of this particular stick.

@HaveringWavering

I don’t understand how he could have been fully aware for years that the pan was not to be touched, then suddenly decide to ignore that and scrub the fuck out of it?

WITHOUT ASKING. I've divorced husbands for less.

...the only lasagne dish in existence that neatly fit lasagne sheets without needing surgery.

@BoomChicka - I urgently need a description and brand. This is the sort of thing I dream about.

I thought this was one of those things that only Niles Crane did.

Martin : People think you're stuffy. You know, with your opera parties, and your wine parties and your seasoned crepe pans.
Frasier : In my defense, Niles is the only one who has ever seasoned his crepe pans.
Niles : Which is precisely why I've had the same set since the ninth grade, thank you very much.
Daphne Moon : Dr. Crane, how do you know it's time to have your crepe pans re-seasoned, anyway?
Niles : It can be confusing. But this may help: "Saucepans in summer, crepe pans in fall, when winter's upon us, there's food for us all."