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Original poster

to think it's really cheeky to invite someone to a BBQ then expect them to bring...

533 replies

dotdashdashdash · 11/04/2021 16:35

...The BBQ!?

We were invited last week to a friends today for a BBQ. They called this morning asking to borrow our BBQ, we assumed there's had broken or the one they ordered hadn't arrived etc - but no. They don't have one. So we suggested they come to ours and bring some of the stuff they'd bought as our BBQ is very heavy and large (won't fit in the car without removing the child seats and lying all seats flat) but it turns out, that not only did they want us to bring our BBQ, they wanted us to leave it at theirs as they are having other friends this evening.

Was IBU to say no? That I didn't want to take our large BBQ and gas bottle to their house and leave it with them?

OP posts:
Singlenotsingle · 11/04/2021 20:30

CFs. Unbelievable they even wanted you to deliver it! They didn't really want you, just your BBQ.

sueelleker · 11/04/2021 20:39

@CrazyHorse

Hahahaha!

They'll have to turn their oven on

Or buy some disposable ones.
HarveySchlumpfenburger · 11/04/2021 20:42

This is amazing.

But also the solution to my 1st floor flat, no outside space BBQ problems. Just need to figure out which friends to invite. The one supplying the garden doesn’t need to be the one supplying the BBQ, right?

CarrieCat · 11/04/2021 20:50

Reminds me of Cadging Carol from the Royle Family.

Original poster
dotdashdashdash · 11/04/2021 20:54

@RafaIsTheKingOfClay

This is amazing.

But also the solution to my 1st floor flat, no outside space BBQ problems. Just need to figure out which friends to invite. The one supplying the garden doesn’t need to be the one supplying the BBQ, right?

No, I don't actually think they do. But pre-arrange it, and don't be a cheeky fucker wanting one persons BBQ to have a party with a different set of people.
OP posts:
mumwon · 11/04/2021 20:55

Hands up whose had to use the oven/ grill to do bbq if your own doesn't work or it starts snowing...
it really doesn't matter if you oven cooking - its having friends & family & sharing the food & catching up
op with friends like these etc etc etc
glad you said no& really glad you had friends round for a bbq

Original poster
dotdashdashdash · 11/04/2021 21:00

@mumwon

Hands up whose had to use the oven/ grill to do bbq if your own doesn't work or it starts snowing... it really doesn't matter if you oven cooking - its having friends & family & sharing the food & catching up op with friends like these etc etc etc glad you said no& really glad you had friends round for a bbq
Our gas one has a lid, so when it started snowing the whole thing wasn't ruined! And we have a huge parasol, so the afternoon was really quite lovely.
OP posts:
JudgeJ · 11/04/2021 21:16

Did they say how many sausages and burgers you were to bring too?? I've loaned a barbecue when friends/family are having larger than normal gatherings but this is beyond cheeky.

JudgeJ · 11/04/2021 21:18

@CarrieCat

Reminds me of Cadging Carol from the Royle Family.
Is that not the Scottish programme Two Doors Down?
CarrieCat · 11/04/2021 21:24

I've not seen that but there's a Cadging Carol in the Royle Family

kittycorner · 11/04/2021 21:24

Good for you for saying no OP. I have a friend like that and she's done something very similar to me and other friends. I rarely say no but have started trying in small ways.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 11/04/2021 21:27

Bring me your BBQ, delivery, with fuel, bring stuff to put on it, then fuck off.

Yeah, right! This is hilarious!

I have an expensive BBQ and smoker. I spent ages saving up for both. I love having people over. I have an SUV.

The fuck I'd ever loan them out, deliver them, then fuck off.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 11/04/2021 21:33

That’s the maddest thing ever! How could they ever have thought that was reasonable?

JudgeJ · 11/04/2021 21:35

@Duggeehugs82

When we first moved into our home we got invited to a bbq by a phone call in the morning and they then asked if we could host , it was work friend who was staying with friends and had invited some work friends they hadnt seen for while we all know each other, he obviously was being cheeky but we was happy to host as long as he provided his cooking skills and some food 😁
When we were working with the military a couple asked if they could use our flat for a dinner party, they both lived in a Mess. He invited people 8 for 8.30 and sent all the food round in the afternoon, he'd come and cook it in the evening, he was a chef. Half seven no sign of him, he rolled up at 7.45 and we did eat at 8.30, he was like a whirlwind, the food was fabulous but kitchen looked like a bad day on the Somme. 'Don't worry, I'll send a couple of the lads round in the mroning!'
BlueDahlia69 · 11/04/2021 21:56

OP Im glad you said No ☺️

queenofthenorthwest · 11/04/2021 21:59

I wonder if they went and bought a Bbq though

Mrgrinch · 11/04/2021 22:00

Imagine inviting people to a BBQ when you don't have a BBQ.

Howshouldibehave · 11/04/2021 22:01

the food was fabulous but kitchen looked like a bad day on the Somme. 'Don't worry, I'll send a couple of the lads round in the mroning!'

Did he??!

Changingwiththetimes · 11/04/2021 22:02

At the very least they should have said they would pick it up, then clean it after use and return it! Ridiculous to ask you last minute then expect you to make two round trips.

HedgePutty · 11/04/2021 22:06

Well done on saying no, checkers fuckers!
Sorry but you were only invited for your BBQ if they turned down the coal one. And they didn’t even offer to come and collect it and expected you to do 2 journeys with your kids? Sorry but they aren’t your friends.

queenofthenorthwest · 11/04/2021 22:16

@Changingwiththetimes

At the very least they should have said they would pick it up, then clean it after use and return it! Ridiculous to ask you last minute then expect you to make two round trips.
They were prob expecting it wasn't worth the hassle and would say every weekend "can we just keep it one more weekend"

These fuckers have no shame it appears.

Bluntness100 · 11/04/2021 22:19

How did it end that you weren’t going at all? What happened on the call?

Gobbeldegook · 11/04/2021 22:44

I think this couple might have form for this, I'm sure I remember reading a post very similar last year? Surely there can't be two couples out there with such a high level of cheekyfuckery. I need to find the old post now 🤣

Gobbeldegook · 11/04/2021 22:53

I can't find it. I wonder if it was on the CF thread. Definitely rings a bell.

SoEverybodyDance · 11/04/2021 23:01

We had friends who had a nice, neat portable barbecue in a hot country ... they and their barbecue were invited to every party in town and they went happily to all of them! Just reminded me really...

However, your friends are taking the piss.... just say no!