To think you can't get past 'the ick' im a relationship?

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LIGHT HEARTED Interested in other posters thoughts on 'the ick'.

For those who don't know, the 'ick' is when someone you are dating just starts to irritate you for no apparent reason.
I dont mean normal annoyances, i mean they start to make your skin crawl and their mannerisms just go through you like a knife.
It can just creep up on you without any warning and they can even tick every box and otherwise be a 10/10 partner but unfortunately even them breathing irritates the life out of you. You try to fight it, but ultimately the irritation can turn to anger and make even the best of people become snappy with rage due to 'the ick'.

Ive experienced this once. Lovely bloke, not a bad bone in his body. After about 2 years for some reason still unknown to me i suddenly got 'the ick'. Watching him eat a pot noodle would make my blood boil.. Literally give me the rage. Everything he did irritated the life out of me.
As he was so lovely i tried my hardest to make things work. Until one day i confessed to a friend who told me about 'the ick' and how once it happens it can never be undone. They will irritate you forever. No one knows the cause of the ick.. But its incurable. So i ended it. Felt nothing but relief.

So am i unreasonable to think 'the ick' is a real thing and once it happens the relationship is doomed?

Has anyone else experienced this? What is the reason behind 'the ick'? Why does it usually seem to happen with people who tick all the boxes?

I can't lie, i sometimes read posts on the relationship boards where the OP will say their partner has suddenly said they want out. Whilst everyone else is shouting 'OW' i think to myself maybe they've just got 'the ick?'

Yep. Husband of 20 years and the following annoyances crept up over the last couple of years. I genuinely never noticed (or was bothered by) these before.

He breathes too loudly.
He swallows too loudly - this big gulping noise.
He talks in a monotone dreary tone.
He narrates everything he's doing out loud to me.
He asks me the same questions over and over again.
He yawns and does this loud exaggerated noise with it.
He sniffs a lot.
He tuts and sighs a lot.

He says "Boom" in response to me telling him things such as arrangements for who's looking after the dog, what time the shopping is being delivered, etc.
He picks his nose.
He starts saying things, then pauses for about a minute, then says "no I've forgotten".
He constantly fidgets with his face so I can see this constant never-ending movement of his hands out of the corner of my eye.
He steals my jokes or my opinions and then relates them to other people as if they're his own.

There are millions more.

ivkywickywoowah boom?!

boom?!

Yep. It's got to the point where I barely tell him anything because if he answers with "Boom" it makes me want to scream.

Crikey.

Yeah, I've got that. Only trouble is we've been married 25 years.

This is brilliant

No 2 pulled my pubes silently and insistently as a signal that he wanted sex. I retaliated by pretending to be asleep as the tugging became firmer and more persistent, like a cat pawing to be let out.

This is horrendous 😱

@IckyWickyWooWah any plans for divorce any time soon? Boom indeed!

I know exactly what you're describing with 'the ick' and I have experienced it, and while it has made me seriously question whether the relationship had a future because at times 'the ick' was so unbearable.... drum roll.....

I got over it

It doesn't always have to be the last nail in the coffin

I think this should be in classics

My ‘ick’ was when I saw him chug a pint of water. He sort of pulled his top lip back in a sneer and then opened his mouth really wide and just kind of poured it down his throat, swallowing in big gulps. I was horrified.

He was really proud of his ability to drink big drinks really quickly, too. Like it made him more manly or something.

The guy who followed every one of his (frequent) belches with the phrase “Get out and walk”.

Twat.

He also liked to use the phrase “bottom burps”.😣

3 quarter length cargo shorts......that is all

My ex. Together for over 20 years. His breathing, his fecking annoying laugh, the inability to eat quietly. By the end I didn't think I could cope with eating in the same room anymore. The stories that went on and on. The dismissive noise he made when I told him anything. I adored that man once! (I do know he'll have a similar list for me).

Use of the phrase “toilet tissue”.

These are getting worse, I might have to hide the thread 😆

Omg this is so a thing! I always called it 'doing an Ingrid' when suddenly I would wake up & find the person I was dating immediately insufferable and repulsive, well, not,literally but it would happen very quickly and there was never any going back. Humans are weird. It's a thing, most definitely, chemistry I guess.

I'm definitely feeling the ick right now and have been for some time too. Unfortunately can't do much about it after nearly 10 years and DC 🤢😷🤮

Oh yes the word 'tummy'. I hate any adult referring to their stomach as 'tummy' or 'belly'.
The same ex who skittered the toilet with skids also turned up on a date with socks and shoes... and shorts. I should have ended it then.

Use of the phrase “toilet tissue”.

OH GOD I just remembered the same guy who called a ten pound note a ten spot also used to say "tissoo" IYKWIM < not envy

Just remembered one. Really nice guy, first few dates went well until
we ended up in bed. The brown yfronts... that's all.

BOOM

had this with my ex. One day I was lying in bed watching him walk to the bathroom. He was naked apart from a pair of hideous old man type checked slippers (his mum had bought him and his dad the same ones) I noticed that he had a really round, plumpish bum and belly, like a toddler. After that I couldn't see him as a sexual partner, just a sort of over grown man-baby whose mummy bought his slippers. It was the beginning of the end.

It is real, but only in relationships that aren't 'right' anyway. So then the ick gives you justification for leaving.

Yep an ex who used to send me a text when he went to bed saying 'night night. Hope you have sweet 'n' sexy ones'
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