To think you can't get past 'the ick' im a relationship?

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LIGHT HEARTED Interested in other posters thoughts on 'the ick'.

For those who don't know, the 'ick' is when someone you are dating just starts to irritate you for no apparent reason.
I dont mean normal annoyances, i mean they start to make your skin crawl and their mannerisms just go through you like a knife.
It can just creep up on you without any warning and they can even tick every box and otherwise be a 10/10 partner but unfortunately even them breathing irritates the life out of you. You try to fight it, but ultimately the irritation can turn to anger and make even the best of people become snappy with rage due to 'the ick'.

Ive experienced this once. Lovely bloke, not a bad bone in his body. After about 2 years for some reason still unknown to me i suddenly got 'the ick'. Watching him eat a pot noodle would make my blood boil.. Literally give me the rage. Everything he did irritated the life out of me.
As he was so lovely i tried my hardest to make things work. Until one day i confessed to a friend who told me about 'the ick' and how once it happens it can never be undone. They will irritate you forever. No one knows the cause of the ick.. But its incurable. So i ended it. Felt nothing but relief.

So am i unreasonable to think 'the ick' is a real thing and once it happens the relationship is doomed?

Has anyone else experienced this? What is the reason behind 'the ick'? Why does it usually seem to happen with people who tick all the boxes?

I can't lie, i sometimes read posts on the relationship boards where the OP will say their partner has suddenly said they want out. Whilst everyone else is shouting 'OW' i think to myself maybe they've just got 'the ick?'

I wonder what ex partners would say about you...erm...perfect individuals. I can imagine.

This thread keeos getting better and better with these 'icks' 😂😂😂

I am really curious about if men get the ick and to what extent?

Like i said in my OP.. Sometimes on certain thread when the poster says their DP has decided out of nowhere to end the relationship, no warning signs or rocky patch or anything. I do think, i wonder if theyve got the ick? Everyone is quick to say a lot of the time, but maybe they've just got the ick? Tried to work through it knowing its irrational but ultimately has to walk away?

Would love to read a thread from men about their ick stories. Would be intriguing!!

I wonder what ex partners would say about you...erm...perfect individuals. I can imagine.

I've no doubt that I'm on a number of pedestals given the fact that most of my exes remain single

OR (and this is much more likely) I picked dodgy ones, who have remained dodgy

@Thankssomuch
Were those all separate men? How are you attracting them? 🤣🤣🤣
If it’s one man he needs collectively stabbed with forks!!!

My DP has escaped this (so far), apart from normal irritations like leaving cupboard doors open and using the wrong 'there/ they're' in texts.

But the cat? I can NOT be in the same room as him sometimes.

No... Once the ick sets in, that's it! At least for me anyway.

@Patroclus that's exactly what it was for me. It's when they started depending on me for everything, including money with a particular ex, that the "ick" set in.

Oh God no, jkscot4 My examples were from a range of men!! And God only knows how I pick them 😂

Other examples:

The guy who re-enacted a whole comedy sketch he’d seen on TV in front of me in a pub, doing all the voices himself (and they were ‘baby’ voices)

Seeing a poster on a guy’s bedroom wall saying “if you tinkle when you sprinkle, be sweet and wipe the seat”

Slippers, obviously

Happens to me once a month with dp. Makes my skin crawl. I get over it within a week.

Oh and the one who introduced me to a group of people by saying “then I met this lovely lady” (sounds sweet, was really ick) 😞

One ex of mine kept giving me pet names that were always [something] girl. For example, I wore a red coat one day so I was Red Coat Girl for about a week. If I was having a bad day I was Grumpy Girl. If I said I was tired I was Sleepy Girl. can't remember any others but they made my blood boil. I am a woman, not a girl, and it was so impersonal, childish and annoying. Drove me mad. He was in his 30s and just an over grown child. Hated him from then on, the sight of him made me want to heave.

Another ex had to be right about absolutely everything, it was incredibly tedious. One day when it turned out I was right about something and the outcome was him missing a train, he threw a huge toddler-esque tantrum with a whiney voice saying "are you happy now? You were right, want a medal?". Left him at the station, blocked his number and never spoke to him again, couldn't look at him in the same light after the cringey public display.

Yep, the “ick” definitely exists. I’ve had this once before with a guy I was dating. We’d been on a few dates, all good. Next date I was invited over to his place for dinner and to stay the night. He was serving up a salad and asked me if I liked “BEETS” (he was Canadian) and it made my skin crawl. Had already committed to staying the night and in the morning he scuttled his way across the bed to whisper in my ear “I wish you could feel how much my heart races when I’m near you”. YUK YUK YUK. The final straw. Never saw him again 🤢🤮

Scuttled his way across the bed
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This thread is also making me think of Cell Block Tango, but without the murder of course

Has anyone ever seen that episode of Frasier where he meets a woman and it turns out he had previously dated her sister? The sister ended it when Frasier called her “m’lady” and she basically spent the next few years laughing to her mother and sister about it.

She had the ick.

I know a lot of men who find the cutesy baby talk thing some women do completely repellant actually.

oh yeah it was sarah silverman wasnt it, Paper. New Frasier should be arriving soon.

Scuttled his way across the bed

Oh my god 😂😂

Oh sod off Patroclus, nobody is rising to your bait so do one!

I didn't know it had a name. This happened to me about 20 years ago.

I looked at his hand and his fingers were like Postman Pats'!
They were stubby cartoon things and this cold feeling spread through me. I made a fast exit and never looked back.

No 1 was an Aussie. Older silver fox type. Then one day in bed he pushed out his front teeth 😱 as they were actually a bridge and talked in a whintynasal regional Australian accent at me with his front teeth missing.

No 2 pulled my pubes silently and insistently as a signal that he wanted sex. I retaliated by pretending to be asleep as the tugging became firmer and more persistent, like a cat pawing to be let out.

No 3 I made chocolate chip cookies (I grew up in the States). "Ooh," he said, "cakes!" Fuck the fuck off.

Have you suffered a head inury, Chnandler?

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff

No 2 pulled my pubes silently and insistently as a signal that he wanted sex. I retaliated by pretending to be asleep as the tugging became firmer and more persistent, like a cat pawing to be let out

WTAF?????????? I hope you bloody slapped the wanker!!!