Embarrassed by boyfriend

[DogDmor]

Been seeing someone for around 3 months. We get in we'll but he's quirky, which is fine - well I thought it was. Sometimes I'm starting to think he's just plain odd.

He's overweight and said he wanted to get fitter so I suggested he come along to my karate class. He did and I ended up mortified. He wore scruffy old jogging suit bottoms with paint on them and a massive baggy t-shirt with Harry Potter on. Whenever instructor showed him something he giggled. Instructor is hard arse, old school - I've known him for years and knew he was going to react badly. After 3 or so giggling moments and DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl instructor said "what are you giggling at? Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?". Everyone was looking. DB started stuttering and instructor carried on with "you know this is karate and not ballet don't you? Are you in the wrong class?". DBs face went bright red. I was mortified and just wanted to hide. Another female instructor said "alright, it's his first day" so instructor said "but what's he giggling at?". Anyway later on instructor came over to me and said "where the hell did you find him? Is he one of your patients or something?" I was so embarrassed I just said "he's a neighbour".

After the class I asked DB why he kept laughing. I'd warned him beforehand about the instructor. He replied "it was funny, I thought I looked silly!" So I said "you did, why did you act like that? It's a class full of martial artists, nobody else was acting like that" do he looked embarrassed and said "I don't know" so I said he shouldn't come again as instructor will have it in for him now. He got upset and said "but I like spending time with you" so I snapped and farted and said "well you embarrassed me, I've been going there for years and now I don't want to go back because of you, find your own hobby".

Anyway this isn't an isolated incident, a couple of weeks ago he embarrassed me in a cafe shouting and making a scene. In private we get on really well but in private he mortifies me.

He still wants to come to karate with me tonight. AIBU to tell him I don't want him there?

Has the Fail got this yet?

Honestly I don’t see your concern. So your guy likes to have a laugh. I personally would rather have a guy that’s happy to bounce around in Harry Potter t shirts etc than one of those macho men so up their own butts they do their own dental work.

If he interrupts your training by all means perhaps take a second more serious class without him but being able to laugh together is a big deal in my book as is doing fun things together.

Plus you’re worried about his clothing and having a laugh whilst he’s happy to go out with you with the ibs and farting. Bit unfair really 😉

Time for your lovely boyfriend to blow you off once and for all

Best.Thread.Ever.

#notthistimeno

I can’t stop laughing
Glad you managed to avoid snapping and farting tonight!

I was mildly amused by ‘snapped & farted’...thinking it was a typo.

...I lost it reading ‘Dog's her name kaytee you pigeon‘ 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

Dog. Seriously, you are not compatible. It doesn’t matter if you get on ok in private, you can’t be with someone who (understandably) mortified you in public. I tried to make it work for a while because I did really like him (in private), but you can’t stay indoors 24/7/365 and there was no way I could introduce him to friends & family.

You sound very boring , he sounds like he's having fun if that is embarassing end it

Poor man 😕 so basically he made a massive effort and it's still not good enough? & the instructor is a bell end esp to act like that in front of kids, encouraging them to laugh!

Well I don’t know if he has ASD but personally I think your bf sounds like a really funny, confident person who is great fun to be around. What’s so wrong with having a laugh while training?

You are clearly incompatible as you have zero sense of humour.

I'm beginning to suspect this whole thing is a wind up - that or OP is just as weird and awkward as she complains her partner is!

Break up with him OP. He sounds nice if slightly mad and honestly you sound really mean and unkind. What future do you see with someone you don't like and don't treat well?

& was there even a point to the fart apart from that it was really funny??

"Not this time, no"

😂😂😂

Please just explain about the fart OP, please?!

I'm beginning to suspect this whole thing is a wind up

Did she fart or not?

😂😂😂

'He may have ASD'
Here we go again...…….

Maybe he was just shite at karate. Who bounces up and down hand clapping and laughing in a hardcore martial arts class anyway?
The clothes wouldn't have bothered me.
Don't see why snapped and farted is even funny

I'm beginning to suspect this whole thing is a wind up

No shit sherlock!

I was set off again by "he turns up wearing black joggers that he'd just bought from ASDA and a dragon t-shirt" before I even read on to discover the dragon was relevant.

Anyone else?

I get that sometimes the company you're with can make a tit of themselves and you feel embarrassed to be associated with them, but honestly your examples make you come across as shallow and mean; you seem to be much more concerned with what others are thinking (even strangers) rather than the feelings of your partner.

If you're embarrassed to be out with him in public after just 3 months then it's never going to work tbh.

Oh and your instructor sounds like a cunt

Instructor laughed and said "I feel like there's a hidden camera somewhere in here"

OK this isnt even funny yet Im snorting away

Oh yes tangled, oh yes!

This just made my night

Hmm this reminds me of the OP who had a falling out with her colleagues and "urinated on the seat". She never came back to explain the typo either...

I think he sounds adorable op. Turn him loose There's an aggressive farter out there somewhere for you.