Embarrassed by boyfriend

[DogDmor]

Been seeing someone for around 3 months. We get in we'll but he's quirky, which is fine - well I thought it was. Sometimes I'm starting to think he's just plain odd.

He's overweight and said he wanted to get fitter so I suggested he come along to my karate class. He did and I ended up mortified. He wore scruffy old jogging suit bottoms with paint on them and a massive baggy t-shirt with Harry Potter on. Whenever instructor showed him something he giggled. Instructor is hard arse, old school - I've known him for years and knew he was going to react badly. After 3 or so giggling moments and DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl instructor said "what are you giggling at? Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?". Everyone was looking. DB started stuttering and instructor carried on with "you know this is karate and not ballet don't you? Are you in the wrong class?". DBs face went bright red. I was mortified and just wanted to hide. Another female instructor said "alright, it's his first day" so instructor said "but what's he giggling at?". Anyway later on instructor came over to me and said "where the hell did you find him? Is he one of your patients or something?" I was so embarrassed I just said "he's a neighbour".

After the class I asked DB why he kept laughing. I'd warned him beforehand about the instructor. He replied "it was funny, I thought I looked silly!" So I said "you did, why did you act like that? It's a class full of martial artists, nobody else was acting like that" do he looked embarrassed and said "I don't know" so I said he shouldn't come again as instructor will have it in for him now. He got upset and said "but I like spending time with you" so I snapped and farted and said "well you embarrassed me, I've been going there for years and now I don't want to go back because of you, find your own hobby".

Anyway this isn't an isolated incident, a couple of weeks ago he embarrassed me in a cafe shouting and making a scene. In private we get on really well but in private he mortifies me.

He still wants to come to karate with me tonight. AIBU to tell him I don't want him there?

Some very unpleasant replies there for no reason at all.
Your boyfriends behaviour is very strange and it would piss me right off.
karate is a discipline and they can't have people playing the fool during the class or it would be chaos. I did karate for years and no instructor I know would have tolerated that behaviour, not even once.
Shouting in public, again a big no no.
Does this relationship have a future?

Christ sake OP stop posting about this 'boyfriend' of yours.

If he's real, you obviously don't like him. Why bother?

I am always let down by the threads that people apparently literally laugh out loud at.

This time, I'm actually crying.

"YOU'VE FUCKED ME OFF SO MUCH THAT I JUST HAVE TO..."

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Your instructor is a sexist cunt. That's your biggest problem here.

What a ridiculous thing to say.

She is only taking a class with him, not having a relationship with him.
She can take him or leave him really.....

I suggest she doesn't take her new squeeze to any classes she goes to. He can find his own if he wants. As he should. Not up to OP to fix him. Problem solved.

I am crying with laughter and the dogs are looking really concerned at my strange whooping. Best thread ever.

This is the best advice I can summon up for you, OP:

At first, I read this thread and thought everyone was being silly and pretending to laugh. Then I read some more and started giggling.

I've had the worst day today and this has cheered me right up

Seriously OP you wrote a long first post, the least you can do is explain if you honestly snapped and farted. If it wasn't a typo, you sound rather strange like you have autism if something makes you fart like that. And did he laugh when you farted? And I don't know that IBS makes you fart, especially when angry. If you needed to fart, you would have farted regardless, so I'm not sure how him making you snap also made you fart, sounds like it had nothing to do with him. More like you both lack the ability to socialise with others.

So, how did the second lesson go?

I agree with the others, him insulting girls/women and suggesting by default that girls do ballet and laugh, men do karate and are sexist pigs, is not appropriate. Tbh I'd report the instructor to officials. He has no business teaching girls or women if that is genuinely his attitude. What a fuqking pig!!! That you are actually going to another lesson with the instructor has me dumbfounded. I would never return after the instructor said that, so clearly you are ok with the sexist pig of an instructor. Your bf's behaviour was not mature, but you don't sound mature either 'snapping and farting' sounds like you are 9. You both seem to have some social disability. So I think you and the bf are a good match. Not that I expect you to bother to even report back on here or reply to us but it would be interesting if you bothered to actually clarify in detail.

What the fuuuuuuck ?! 😂😂😂

The karate teacher sounds a sexist bell end

Your boyfriend sounds social awkward ( as am I) it won't change

DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl

Had you just farted again?

😂😂😂

Trying to read this while feeding a baby is not going well.

Anyone wanting an update.

I got to karate early tonight, took instructor aside and said my friend was coming back but he struggles a bit in social situations - he said "why I didn't say anything bad to him last time did I?" So I said he 'might' have picked on him a bit! This guy is in his 60s, almost 70 so anyone saying I fancy him is being a bit daft!

I'd also had a word with BF about the scruffy clothes saying it might have come across a bit disrespectful. So anyway he turns up wearing black joggers that he'd just bought from ASDA and a dragon t-shirt. He was dead excited about the shirt and took me aside before the class to show me it saying "instructor will like this! It's got a dragon on it!" so I said "how do you know he likes dragons?" So he said "Bruce Lee!" - see this is what I mean, who would even have that train of thought?!

Instructor says to him at start of class "good to see you back, where's Harry Potter?" Ffs, other instructor gave him the look

Anyway during the class he made "ooo" "aaaa" noises everytime he was demonstrated on, the kids were laughing there heads off. Instructor laughed and said "I feel like there's a hidden camera somewhere in here" etc. It was just so embarrassing. Instructor tried to rein it in but I could see him and the other blokes (and all the kids) laughing, I've told him not to go anymore and he doesn't understand why.

But did you fart again though ?

Not this time, no

😂😂

But don't pass gas in anger
Don't just fart in anger
I heard you say

You really are a piece of work aren't you? This is either a wind up or you are just really nasty. i hope everyone jeered when you farted and told you not to come back... you're such an embarrassment I don't know how dragon man could be seen with you.

@DogDmor you're mean. I got the dragon reference before you even explained it.

You're clearly not compatible.

He would be toast if you were me. I expect men to behave like men not halfwits.

Oh gosh, even "Not this time, no" made me cry with laughter

Possibly halfwit isn' a term I should be using on here but it refers to men who play the fool rather than people with genuine learning difficulties :-/

If you have such contempt for your 'boyfriend' perhaps you should gently end the relationship rather than using him as a figure of fun for laughs on a public forum.