Embarrassed by boyfriend

[DogDmor]

Been seeing someone for around 3 months. We get in we'll but he's quirky, which is fine - well I thought it was. Sometimes I'm starting to think he's just plain odd.

He's overweight and said he wanted to get fitter so I suggested he come along to my karate class. He did and I ended up mortified. He wore scruffy old jogging suit bottoms with paint on them and a massive baggy t-shirt with Harry Potter on. Whenever instructor showed him something he giggled. Instructor is hard arse, old school - I've known him for years and knew he was going to react badly. After 3 or so giggling moments and DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl instructor said "what are you giggling at? Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?". Everyone was looking. DB started stuttering and instructor carried on with "you know this is karate and not ballet don't you? Are you in the wrong class?". DBs face went bright red. I was mortified and just wanted to hide. Another female instructor said "alright, it's his first day" so instructor said "but what's he giggling at?". Anyway later on instructor came over to me and said "where the hell did you find him? Is he one of your patients or something?" I was so embarrassed I just said "he's a neighbour".

After the class I asked DB why he kept laughing. I'd warned him beforehand about the instructor. He replied "it was funny, I thought I looked silly!" So I said "you did, why did you act like that? It's a class full of martial artists, nobody else was acting like that" do he looked embarrassed and said "I don't know" so I said he shouldn't come again as instructor will have it in for him now. He got upset and said "but I like spending time with you" so I snapped and farted and said "well you embarrassed me, I've been going there for years and now I don't want to go back because of you, find your own hobby".

Anyway this isn't an isolated incident, a couple of weeks ago he embarrassed me in a cafe shouting and making a scene. In private we get on really well but in private he mortifies me.

He still wants to come to karate with me tonight. AIBU to tell him I don't want him there?

Please could I have a date with him op? He could wear whatever he likes, maybe relevant to our venue.

I think he sounds lovely as well.

OP you two don't sound right for each other, you both have your own issues but apparently his are the only embarrassing ones...

@Tangled59 Here's the T-rexing in the Supermarket thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1498923-Shouting-at-me-in-the-supermarket?pg=1

There is also the classic Sharon/wine/wasp thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1212449-dh-threw-wine-at-the-wall

Leave him, he deserves better

She did @QueenOfTheAndals, she did. Mortified she was, replaced “turned” with “urinated”.

The reason I remember it so well is I was day 1 in a new job and had mascara rings from laughing at that thread so much I cried

I bet you take Snapchat to a whole new level OP

I was just about to mention the wasp and t-rexing threads! This has got to be the same OP!

I laughed so much at this I got a bit frightened. Couldn't breathe!

There's an aggressive farter out there somewhere for you

🤣🤣🤣

He was dead excited about the shirt and took me aside before the class to show me it saying "instructor will like this! It's got a dragon on it!"

Can't fucking cope, give me your boyfriend OP

This link was posted earlier by a PP but I think it's worthy of another mention...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1237046-In-thinking-he-should-call-my-lecturer-and-tell-them-what-he-did?msgid=25897514

Snapped and farted 😂 there’s a saying in French which translates as “spirit of the stair case”, I guess it takes that saying to a WHOLE new level! 🤢 😆

Well this thread is just the gift that keeps on giving isn’t it?!

I honestly can’t cope, I settled for about 2 pages around page 20ish and then read

*Today 21:57 clumsyduck

But did you fart again though ?

Today 21:58 DogDmor

Not this time, no*

And I just died laughing allover again! Ahhh “not this time, no” said with such calm and serenity 😂😂

I also thought you meant he was randomly shouting “FIG!” out loud at 2 and 4am, oh man my ribs are killing me!

DOG, I meant DOG not FIG 😂

No he randomly wakes me up throughout the night to tell me the time and then says "that's alright isn't it!" Like it's fantastic that it's 3am etc

“that's alright isn't it!"
“NO, it’s bloody not!” paaarrrppp!!!

What do you say in return dog?

Cat?

@DogDmor

Can I please ask... Why was your passing wind relevant to your original post? Is it something your boyfriend knows you do when you lose your temper; like, you get so angry you stop holding it in? So you doing that shows how really annoyed you were?

Or did it happen during the class infront of people because you got so annoyed, and that made you more embarassed?

I just don't understand why it was relevant to your story... please explain!

Comedy gold!
I was laughing out loud and the snapped and farted comment... and every time a PP repeated it!
Then OP comes back, says "I have IBS" and disappears for about 10 pages. I have literally laughed till I cried!

This has to be a wind up?? But if not, OP, if he bugs you this much after three months, it isn't going to work. You can't change people. You each need to find someone else.

Next time you should wake him up and be like "hey guess what time it is?" and when hes like "i dunno, what time is it?" be like "fart o clock" and let rip

Yeah then say that’s alright isn’t it

I mentioned it because anxiety makes my IBS worse. I should've mentioned IBS in the OP to stop the questioning and silliness

Last time he woke me up and told me the time I just said "so fucking what! Go to sleep" and he replies "alright, I was just telling you"

Why?? Why would anyone wake someone up to tell them the time? Fruit loop

@Moneyissue2
Thanks for that I just had one of those mini laughing sessions where your face is manically gurning as you full body shake silently, closing the session with a gigantic half whimper half snort

Aww in all fairness OP he does sound quite sweet from the outside looking in.

What are his good points? I mean what attracted you to him in the first place?