Embarrassed by boyfriend

[DogDmor]

Been seeing someone for around 3 months. We get in we'll but he's quirky, which is fine - well I thought it was. Sometimes I'm starting to think he's just plain odd.

He's overweight and said he wanted to get fitter so I suggested he come along to my karate class. He did and I ended up mortified. He wore scruffy old jogging suit bottoms with paint on them and a massive baggy t-shirt with Harry Potter on. Whenever instructor showed him something he giggled. Instructor is hard arse, old school - I've known him for years and knew he was going to react badly. After 3 or so giggling moments and DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl instructor said "what are you giggling at? Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?". Everyone was looking. DB started stuttering and instructor carried on with "you know this is karate and not ballet don't you? Are you in the wrong class?". DBs face went bright red. I was mortified and just wanted to hide. Another female instructor said "alright, it's his first day" so instructor said "but what's he giggling at?". Anyway later on instructor came over to me and said "where the hell did you find him? Is he one of your patients or something?" I was so embarrassed I just said "he's a neighbour".

After the class I asked DB why he kept laughing. I'd warned him beforehand about the instructor. He replied "it was funny, I thought I looked silly!" So I said "you did, why did you act like that? It's a class full of martial artists, nobody else was acting like that" do he looked embarrassed and said "I don't know" so I said he shouldn't come again as instructor will have it in for him now. He got upset and said "but I like spending time with you" so I snapped and farted and said "well you embarrassed me, I've been going there for years and now I don't want to go back because of you, find your own hobby".

Anyway this isn't an isolated incident, a couple of weeks ago he embarrassed me in a cafe shouting and making a scene. In private we get on really well but in private he mortifies me.

He still wants to come to karate with me tonight. AIBU to tell him I don't want him there?

Aeroflot my autistic DD apparently has a boyfriend. It's nothing other than kids being silly for now, but in the future if she had a more serious boyfriend, I'll not be encouraging him to "run for the hills", because, I want her to be happy and do normal things

I can't stop laughing. My daughter asked me what was so funny, and I was so out of breath I couldn't tell her.

This will forever be one of those things that I just think of randomly in the future and die laughing.

This budding relationship sounds like a match made in heaven! Flapping around, snapping and farting! When's the wedding?

My kids and my husband both have boxed for years (must have spent half my life driving up and down the country, but that's a moan for another thread) and from what I know of that world, they don't take people mucking about well at all. I don't know about karate, but boxing is taken seriously - someone can get really hurt. So no wonder the instructor got angry.

Also, if you were teaching, you'd expect respect from people you were instructing. So why should your BF not give the instructor that?

And if I'd paid to be taught and someone was acting like your BF was (after 3 times of being asked to stop laughing), I'd be pissed off too.

Classics, PLEASE!

his name wasn’t even Alan

I am crying laughing at this. That has really tickled me.

OP you sound a bit short and your karate instructor sounds like an arse (or really impatient).
Try to be a little more understanding, but also figure out whether you and your boyfriend are compatible.

This just gets weirder.

OK so you have IBS, why specify that you farted though?

Is that a "thing", like if someone really pisses you off you deal them an IBS punishment fart?

I have IBS

So you actually angrily farted at him??

This is even better than a typo!

Sometimes I try really hard to be a grown up but snapped and farted has robbed me of that ability today.

I thought martial arts had some elements of respect? The instructor must have missed that memo. Very unprofessional. I get that db was disruptive bur it was the first session. Instructor should have had a word with him after the class.

Also, there's nothing wrong with being a girl.

I have IBS

Do you mean that you can rip one out at will to make a point during an argument then?

PS: if you want your boyfriend to come along to karate, I'd suggest he watches the drill scene in Full Metal Jacket to help him understand your karate instructor a little better.

Snapping and farting would be on a par with screaming at a Da Vinci.

I have IBS, and I have to say, it makes me a lot more understanding of other people's...idosyncracies. We all have our own shit we're dealing with. Some of us literally.

This has got to be a joke

Oh my god I'm actually crying!!!

I thought it was a hilarious typo until OP specified I have IBS.

This should be a relationship rule or something, so you could have...

Never go to bed on an argument
Keep communication open
Don't have passwords on your phones
Pool all money
Have equal downtime

And

Don't fart in anger.

@AbsolutelyBeginning of course it does

Ooh.... love the idea of angry farts and farting at will. Perhaps this is the one benefit of having IBS.

As an instructor of a different sport, I frequently see people giggling out of nerves or fear, it's rarely out of a lack of respect.

im crying

i cant

Is that a "thing", like if someone really pisses you off you deal them an IBS punishment fart?

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!

Regretting opening this thread at work as I can't stop giggling now at 'I snapped and farted'

Seriously, I'm with others who say the karate instructor sounds like an arse. It sounds like this guy isn't for you, so just finish it and stop humiliating him.

Is there a scale of fartyness then?
A little pfft for only slightly irritated
An audible trump for agitated
A loud foghorn fart for really angry
And then when does the snap occur?

DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl

Had you just farted again?