Embarrassed by boyfriend

[DogDmor]

Been seeing someone for around 3 months. We get in we'll but he's quirky, which is fine - well I thought it was. Sometimes I'm starting to think he's just plain odd.

He's overweight and said he wanted to get fitter so I suggested he come along to my karate class. He did and I ended up mortified. He wore scruffy old jogging suit bottoms with paint on them and a massive baggy t-shirt with Harry Potter on. Whenever instructor showed him something he giggled. Instructor is hard arse, old school - I've known him for years and knew he was going to react badly. After 3 or so giggling moments and DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl instructor said "what are you giggling at? Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?". Everyone was looking. DB started stuttering and instructor carried on with "you know this is karate and not ballet don't you? Are you in the wrong class?". DBs face went bright red. I was mortified and just wanted to hide. Another female instructor said "alright, it's his first day" so instructor said "but what's he giggling at?". Anyway later on instructor came over to me and said "where the hell did you find him? Is he one of your patients or something?" I was so embarrassed I just said "he's a neighbour".

After the class I asked DB why he kept laughing. I'd warned him beforehand about the instructor. He replied "it was funny, I thought I looked silly!" So I said "you did, why did you act like that? It's a class full of martial artists, nobody else was acting like that" do he looked embarrassed and said "I don't know" so I said he shouldn't come again as instructor will have it in for him now. He got upset and said "but I like spending time with you" so I snapped and farted and said "well you embarrassed me, I've been going there for years and now I don't want to go back because of you, find your own hobby".

Anyway this isn't an isolated incident, a couple of weeks ago he embarrassed me in a cafe shouting and making a scene. In private we get on really well but in private he mortifies me.

He still wants to come to karate with me tonight. AIBU to tell him I don't want him there?

Hahaha! It's hard to think about the problem seriously! Hahaha!

I'm a little bit taken aback by this, is that how you will advise your DDs future partners. I thought that too Kitty

If you’ve been doing martial arts for years, how come you’re still in the beginners class?

On the basis the OP has been back twice with further information and despite the fact that 90% of responses are in regards to 'snapped and farted' I'm assuming that was not a typo and what actually happened

Also your instructor is a twat, "are you a girl?" WTAF does he mean by that?

What kind of Karate class has a beginner and someone who has been training for a few years?

I guess I may be prejudiced, as my first instructor was a full-time professional whose classes were divided (as far as I can remember) into several different levels. (By divided I mean different levels were taught at different times, he taught maybe 27 hourly sessions a week.)

Now that I think about it, other classes I came across at school and university were more mixed.

Like a little girl? Like a girl? Do you reside in the 1950s Thunderpants?

Why is the OP not addressing any of the million questions about snapping and farting???? We need to know

cherry and others, I already addressed that in my other post. Yes I would be upset. I said maybe, they are not right for each other.

Please, please tell us if you actually did fart. We need to know

SnappedAndFarted18 - I did indeed urinate on the lounge. Luckily, due to poor form in this regard lounge is permanently protected so only needed cover to come off and waterproof protector wiped. Threads like this just don’t help me, too much snapping and farting 😭. Don’t know how much poor lounge can take.

So he didn't take your hobby seriously
He shouted oddly in a restaurant
He wakes you up in the night to ask you if it's ok for it to be the time it is
He made you snap and fart

Is there more?

Yes, one more thing - her dog told him to piss off!

I am absolutely killing myself!!! This is the best thing I've read yet on MN, definitely made my day lol!!

Now that I think about it, other classes I came across at school and university were more mixed.

My sons teacher separates from Browns upwards. Also, I've been to many Karate events and competitions over the years with him and girls are actually respected and not thought of as "less than" from what I've seen. That instructor sounds like a massive sexist arsehole

On another thread some idiot suggested I use a commode rather than incontinance pads/pants. Can just imagine it. Must move to commode before opening Mumsnet in fear of a snap and fart.

Sounds like OP is an expert in martial farts.

Did you mean to be so flatulent?

oh wow ive had to come and sit in an empty meeting room i can't stop laughing out loud to this

Oh god, run for the hills. I have a dd11 with ASd and learning difficulties, it does sounds as though he might be on the spectrum, especially his behaviour in the class, and that it seems that his behaviour is inappropriate in public.

@AeroflotGirl, you were very clear in what you said. You told her to run for the hills because he may be on the autistic spectrum. No mention of the two being incompatible.

Snapped and farted- how hysterically funny 😂 😂😂🤣🤣. Could be a great way to diffuse an argument- I might try it out on my husband next time we're arguing!

But if you're snapping and farting at anyone it really ought to be your instructor- shouting and showing up a new member is dreadfully bad teaching- and it seems like the other instructor thought so too if they came over to defend your boyfriend. I think YOU let your boyfriend down there.

Generally it doesn't sound like you're compatible or enjoying the relationship anymore. Time to walk away. Neither of you sounds like they're having fun..

'So I snapped and farted' has got to be one of the funniest typos I've ever read... if it is a typo. I keep creasing up wondering if that is the OP's normal reaction every time she gets annoyed 🤣

God, what do you do if he really annoys you, crap on his shoes?

Well 😂😂

I think we need a fan club for DogDmor's ex. He sounds like a star

I'm having a sneaky look at mumsnet at work and i literally have tears rolling down my face with trying not to laugh out loud

Snapped and farted

At first I thought it was a typo but as OP hasn't corrected it with all the comments then i'm assuming she was serious, which made me laugh even more

Lost it after 'snapped and farted'. I've never cried laughing at a typo before sorry op

b If you’ve been doing martial arts for years, how come you’re still in the beginners class?

Some dojo aren't large enough to support segregated classes for beginners who may not attend regularly. Mine had everyone from complete beginners to black belts in one class a week, with additional smaller classes for purple upwards for kata and sparring.

I have IBS

Also the class is mixed with two instructors, one instructor teaches the beginners (which tend to be kids) and the other teaches the more advanced (which tend to be adults). Rather than putting a fully grown man together with 7 and 8 year olds the instructors thought it kinder to send him off with the other adults.