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To feel slightly put out by DH's lovely surprise?

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GinIsABreakfastFood · 24/12/2015 07:41

Ok, firstly I want to clarify I did not look for my present on purpose! Xmas Blush

Basically DH and I agreed that we would only do tiny token presents this year so that we can have a mega holiday later on. We agreed a set limit, which I found a huge struggle as I bloody love giving presents and spoiling people, and have spent the past few months trying frantically to pick up lovely, thoughtful little bits and pieces within the £20 limit.

Was feeling quite pleased with myself until.... Was packing to leave for family for Christmas and noticed his smart work coat which he won't need was a bit grubby so thought I'd leave it with the dry cleaners so it's fresh for next year, and found a mega expensive piece of beautiful jewellery hidden in the pocket.

DSis has helpfully pointed out that this happens in Love Actually and it turns out the husband has bought the gift for his mistress.... Hmm

Pretty sure it is for me, thanks, Dsis, and it's lovely, but soooo not what we agreed.

We have got to leave in the next 20 mins to drive to remote Scotland for massive family Christmas so no time to get him anything else to even the balance. Which means that when we open presents in Christmas morning, in front of about 30 people, I will get Tiffany diamond earrings, and he will get socks and a robot bath bomb. AIBU to feel absolutely mortified, a bit cross, and completely love my darling DH for the beautiful surprise, but also a bit want to kill him?!

Should I just buy £500 worth of petrol station tat at at the services on the way there?! Pretend I forgot his main present at home and lie about what it is?!

HELP!!

OP posts:
Redcrayons · 24/12/2015 15:11

This house in Scotland has got wifi hasn't it?

Shall we PM you all our numbers so you can text us tomorrow to tell us about your new earrings/Joni Mitchell cd? Grin

NanaNina · 24/12/2015 15:12

Something isn't stacking up here. Why would you suddenly decide to take a coat to the cleaners on Christmas eve when you are getting ready to go off somewhere. Sorry OP I think you were looking!

carrielou2007 · 24/12/2015 15:14

Interesting place marking thread Xmas Grin

ImtheChristmasCarcass · 24/12/2015 15:19

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. DH has done this to me TWICE! After agreeing to just get each other something small (which for us means inexpensive) he surprised me with a diamond pendant one year and a diamond and sapphire pendant another year. Both times he'd bought me the 'small' gift and tucked the 'surprise' inside. I felt really bad, but he told me that the absolute surprise and joy on my face was worth more than any expensive gift I could have gotten him. So, just relax and be happy.

darlingred · 24/12/2015 15:22

What an attention seeker. Oh no my DH has bought me Tiffany diamond earrings. What a problem.

Bettercallsaul1 · 24/12/2015 15:23

Ah, I love a Christmas mystery, me!

SuckingEggs · 24/12/2015 15:24

This place marking has got to stop! Xmas Blush

UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 24/12/2015 15:26

Bad day, darlingred?

Lweji · 24/12/2015 15:28

Nope. Just attention seeking, I reckon.

BumWad · 24/12/2015 15:30

[santa]

AnneEyhtMeyer · 24/12/2015 15:34

People are so rude to place mark. I'd never do anything like that, oh no, never.

Auntpodder · 24/12/2015 15:36

Yes, it's so obvious when people place mark. Hate it.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 24/12/2015 15:38

Totally not place marking...

NorksAreMessy · 24/12/2015 15:39

What is this 'place marking' of which you speak?

OrangeRhinoInTraining · 24/12/2015 15:39

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LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 24/12/2015 15:46

Goodness gracious, all this shameless place marking, does no-one know about watched threads these days? Wink

Wagglebees · 24/12/2015 15:55

Tbf to darling it is a bit stealth boasty. Grin

hiddenhome2 · 24/12/2015 15:58

I'd have nicked the box and hidden it. I'd then produce it around July and claim I'd just found it.

Blondeshavemorefun · 24/12/2015 16:09

Not sure what is worse - he's ignored the budget and got you something nice - or they are not for you ...... :(

redgoat I'm intrigued. What was in your Calender ? £150 had better be nice daily gifts Grin

Hellochicken · 24/12/2015 16:09

I think I'd be a bit annoyed at the gifting mismatch if it put the holiday in jeopardy . . . but really this is quite far from my real life experience so can only guess how I'd feel I'd be happy with socks and a bath bomb

YouKnowNothingRickGrimes · 24/12/2015 16:19

Massively shameless place mark Xmas Blush

Saukko · 24/12/2015 16:30

Don't get him anything else. He's the one who's broke the agreement, and he must surely know that in doing so, he is going to embarrass you. So while he might think he's doing something nice, it comes across as doing something quite negative. I'd be mortified.

Buxtonstill · 24/12/2015 16:32

Oh my word. How about buying him some theatre or concert tickets? They will send you an email you can present.

VaticanAssassin · 24/12/2015 16:32

How's your journey north of the border going, OP? not place marking I promise Grin

BobberClobber · 24/12/2015 16:35

I can't be the only person who wouldn't be the slightest bit embarrassed if their husband did this? I would be delighted if mine decided to surprise me like this, agreement or no agreement.