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To feel slightly put out by DH's lovely surprise?

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GinIsABreakfastFood · 24/12/2015 07:41

Ok, firstly I want to clarify I did not look for my present on purpose! Xmas Blush

Basically DH and I agreed that we would only do tiny token presents this year so that we can have a mega holiday later on. We agreed a set limit, which I found a huge struggle as I bloody love giving presents and spoiling people, and have spent the past few months trying frantically to pick up lovely, thoughtful little bits and pieces within the £20 limit.

Was feeling quite pleased with myself until.... Was packing to leave for family for Christmas and noticed his smart work coat which he won't need was a bit grubby so thought I'd leave it with the dry cleaners so it's fresh for next year, and found a mega expensive piece of beautiful jewellery hidden in the pocket.

DSis has helpfully pointed out that this happens in Love Actually and it turns out the husband has bought the gift for his mistress.... Hmm

Pretty sure it is for me, thanks, Dsis, and it's lovely, but soooo not what we agreed.

We have got to leave in the next 20 mins to drive to remote Scotland for massive family Christmas so no time to get him anything else to even the balance. Which means that when we open presents in Christmas morning, in front of about 30 people, I will get Tiffany diamond earrings, and he will get socks and a robot bath bomb. AIBU to feel absolutely mortified, a bit cross, and completely love my darling DH for the beautiful surprise, but also a bit want to kill him?!

Should I just buy £500 worth of petrol station tat at at the services on the way there?! Pretend I forgot his main present at home and lie about what it is?!

HELP!!

OP posts:
Bearbehind · 24/12/2015 13:49

It's still a surprise. The OP has no idea what's inside.

It sounds to me like OP has a pretty good 'idea' what is inside.

Obviously she can't know for sure but the size of the box and the fact it is from Tiffany limits the options quite significantly!

LikeADivil · 24/12/2015 13:57

A lorra jealous ladies here!
Is it a Tiffany box?
I can't afford to look in the window. So wouldn't have a clue!

caker · 24/12/2015 13:58

I'm not sure that socks and a bath bomb are lovely thoughtful presents - more like a secret santa I'd have thought.

CatBlaster · 24/12/2015 14:11

no last minute panic buying, that's worse than sticking to the agreement!

Bearbehind · 24/12/2015 14:15

I wouldn't buy anything else- if you wanted to stick to the budget then stick to your guns.

Plus if you buy something else it's pretty obvious you knew he had.

Mama1980 · 24/12/2015 14:16

Shamelessly place marking,
That idea sounds great op

internaldiscord · 24/12/2015 14:20

you could always go all out on a gift for his next birthday OP? gives you time to find something equally deserving if that's what you are aiming for.

TheFormidableMrsC · 24/12/2015 14:26

Not place marking at all. Nope.

BitOutOfPractice · 24/12/2015 14:30

Nor me. That would be rude

ShatnersBassoon · 24/12/2015 14:31

He could have bought you anything and you'd have felt a bit embarrassed about the socks and bath bomb [santa]

GinIsABreakfastFood · 24/12/2015 14:34

caker & shatners bassoon - I didn't literally get socks and a bath bomb, was just trying to illustrate my point! Grin

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ADishBestEatenCold · 24/12/2015 14:37

"have spent the past few months trying frantically to pick up lovely, thoughtful little bits and pieces within the £20 limit"

Am absolutely stunned to see that you think ...

"socks and a robot bath bomb"

... are "lovely, thoughtful little bits and pieces"!!!

Grin
UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 24/12/2015 14:37

Gin - don't buy anything else. Stick to your agreement, if he wants to surprise you with something special, then let him.

Act as though you never saw the box. Happy Christmas Smile

ADishBestEatenCold · 24/12/2015 14:38

Ooops, just saw a cross post!

Penguito · 24/12/2015 14:39

So you didn't actually get socks and a robot bath bomb? Hmmconfused

OddSocksHighHeels · 24/12/2015 14:40

For all we know her DH could be a sock collector and she found a rare pair that he doesn't already own.

worst place mark attempt ever

ohtheholidays · 24/12/2015 14:41

Fingers crossed OP that you love it whatever it is and the cheese and wine boxes sound like a great idea.Xmas SmileWish I'd seen those for my DH now Xmas Sad

Very jealous as well,I've never been to Scotland DH has before we met and he said it was lovely.

FreakinScaryCaaw · 24/12/2015 14:42

Op didn't buy socks and a bathbomb! Xmas Grin

It's very exciting. Dh has done something similar but not as grand. We had a £10 limit and I only went over a bit. Dh has bought a dress for me (found receipt) Xmas Blush

rainbowstardrops · 24/12/2015 14:44

I still say do nothing. He's (hopefully) gone over budget because he wanted to treat you. Let him!

If you go over budget too then he might smell a rat

Cassimin · 24/12/2015 14:44

Wouldn't go mad buying him anything expensive, my son bought me designer stuff last year, from aliexpress!

spanky2 · 24/12/2015 14:50

Maybe they are earrings for him. Some men wear diamonds studs in both ears.

NappyValleyHippyCrack · 24/12/2015 14:56

I was going to have a no MN/FB/Twitter day tomorrow, I'll make an exception for this tho Wink

Didiusfalco · 24/12/2015 14:57

Dont buy him anything else, not even the subscription. Carry on as if you never saw the box.

IWasHereBeforeTheHack · 24/12/2015 15:00

Wait and see.

If the box is for you, act surprised. Whatever it has in it, be surprised and show your appreciation. I like the suggestion that, whatever it is, you express admiration for his cleverness at getting something so lovely/wonderful within budget.

If he does not produce the box - well, do come back and update once you've had a chat with him!!

not biting nails, oh no, not me

Bettercallsaul1 · 24/12/2015 15:02

Maybe, by "tiny" presents to each other, he thought you meant in size? You know, to avoid clutter? So he got you diamond earrings, and he's expecting a platinum tie-pin or gold fob watch? Grin