To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby" enclosed in *Baby naming ceremony* invitation?

[doubleshotespresso]

So some close friends (who married in church), but now claim to be atheist are holding a naming ceremony for their 8 month old first baby in an hotel.....

The invitation is beautiful with a map, timings "event closes at 11pm"?

The gift list ranges from £30-to £300, all items for the mother, cosmetics, trinkets, jewellery, pampering breaks, personalised hand-bound stationery and photo albums...

Anybody know the drill for these naming ceremonies? Are we supposed to guess a gift for the baby? Or just congratulate the mother for deciding on a name?

I have read this a dozen times and am staggered beyond belief-DP read it and fell into hysterics....

My gut tells me to go along with Jo Malone scented nappies or something.

Somebody please tell me this is not normal?!?!?!

Give her some free advice:

Don't be a cheeky bitch.

I think it's a great idea! If we all do it we all benefit!

Those of you saying don't go are forgetting that this is supposed to be the babys day. I would go, but take a gift for the baby - book, toy or new outfit.

I'm confused is this her first child?

TidyDancer I have just laughed so hard that I nearly did a little wee.....

is this a cultural thing?? (grasping at straws) is it a custom that is expected by either set of the baby's grandparents, for example? Even so, it's barmy as hell. There must be dozens of absolutely stunned guests thinking OMG about this.
It could only be worse if they had enclosed a colour swatch dictating what colour scheme guests should wear. And seriously, what are they going to DO with a tired tetchy 8 month old all night, never mind all the other kids. Absolutely self centred and ridiculous beyond belief. How she will cringe with embarrassment in later years!

Op, How on earth are you going to bring up the topic? I do hope it goes well, your chat. How many people will have got the invite and list?

Does she have time to write again and say " omg, I included my wish list to DH for Christmas?"

Handbags and photo sessions? Amazing! Is your friend a celebrity and not of the real world? It sounds like a storyline from footballers wives:)

Just came on to say OMG!!!!! the cheek of it!!!!

maybe it's all the baby's idea?

I can feel a new trend for the unspeakably naff grabby invite coming on...

"my mummy's as wuffly as can be
she devotes all her time to little ole me
I want for nothing, I have plenty of shit
so please pamper mummy cos she's soo worth it"

Oh God Lavender, maybe it's a horrendous mistake...she sent the info to the printers and thought she was attaching a map or directions but sent them her Xmas list. Oh God! Could be!

Yes this is her first child. She had quite a tough pregnancy but was overjoyed when the baby arrived. She has been understnadably a bit tired and stuff butbno alarm bells as to her state of mind.

But you are right. I am concerned. She is not a celebrity, though she is certainly fascinated by that world....

It is so bizarre.

I know there's a million comments saying the same thing already, but YANBU!!
You've bought a beautiful gift. Go - I expect they will also have a tacky gift table, so you can leave said gift which they will open later, so no confrontation. They would not dare to complain that it isn't off the list!! If they do, if they even hint, then immediate friend divorce is in order!

Anybody know the drill for these naming ceremonies? Are we supposed to guess a gift for the baby? Or just congratulate the mother for deciding on a name?

Sorry, not much use, but couldn't get past this for laughing.

YANBU though!

i think its bloomin' rude.i wouldnt go and i def wouldnt get 'mummy' a present.

Phantomnamechanger

even though the set up of the ceremony and gift request is bonkers,I'd still go
maybe she's just gone bit wabbit after having baby?
I'd not lose a good mate over this.not if overall shes a good un

I can't wait to see what happens for the child's 1st birthday....

I used to know someone who went all mutha earth,right on hemp wearer after baby
fortunately she got her mojo back and got over it
maybe in time your pal will look back. and cringe the whole hoo haw

Where did they get this idea from, it's ridiculous!

Is there any possibility she doesn't know about the list and it was put in by her DH as a surprise?

[clutches at straws]

And could you use that to give her an "out" when you talk to her?

"I just thought you might want to know that people are a bit taken aback by the list in the invitation. I'm assuming it was your DH's idea, but people seem to think that it might have been yours and they're a bit uncomfortable with it."

Doubleshot. So just told me DF about your situation and asked him what he would do if we got that invite.... first he looked at me like I was stupid! Then he asked if we had actually been sent that invite whilst looking even more irratated. then he said "We would not be buying the mother anything and I would tell her to f@@k off. I don't care how good a friend she is" then he went off on a rant about funding self lifestyles and what about the baby...... Blah blah blah... He makes me laugh when he gets all shirty about these things... As you can imagine these sorts of situations just don't agree with my DF moral compass.

BTW, his still going on about the baby.....