To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby" enclosed in *Baby naming ceremony* invitation?

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So some close friends (who married in church), but now claim to be atheist are holding a naming ceremony for their 8 month old first baby in an hotel.....

The invitation is beautiful with a map, timings "event closes at 11pm"?

The gift list ranges from £30-to £300, all items for the mother, cosmetics, trinkets, jewellery, pampering breaks, personalised hand-bound stationery and photo albums...

Anybody know the drill for these naming ceremonies? Are we supposed to guess a gift for the baby? Or just congratulate the mother for deciding on a name?

I have read this a dozen times and am staggered beyond belief-DP read it and fell into hysterics....

My gut tells me to go along with Jo Malone scented nappies or something.

Somebody please tell me this is not normal?!?!?!

The whole thing is bizarre..... I was gasping for breath when I opened this.

I love the evil genius who suggested a sleb post baby workout DVD.
thats just inspired.

it's disgusting..but it might just be worth going to compare 'notes' with other guests and see what they bought (or rather, didn't, hopefully!) I went to a naming ceremony that was beautiful. No gifts were asked for , and the parents made all the food. The actual ceremony was held on a hilltop with beautiful views. And each guest got given their own small gift! Now here's a thought..what's list going to be like for baby's first birthday...

Oh god I'm sorry but I have to mark my place so I can read your update after the weekend! I'm dying to know what she says!

You are the same person as the thread about not seeing your friend now she has a baby, arent you?

You both used the word "miffed" and posted at very similar times and havent posted all day.

I really quite admire her nerve!

Hawaiiansunset, no not me I see plenty of her before and after the baby was born..... I don't know which thread you are referring to, this is the first time I have ever posted in AIBU....

I think your plan to talk to your friend is the way forward and I hope the chat goes well, you sound like a good friend

The only person I know who did something similar is Australian. But that's from a survey of one person. Not particularly scientific obvs.

www.oxfamamericaunwrapped.com/donate-manure

Or, since they are taking the piss
www.farmafricapresents.org.uk/buy/item/9

She just texted and invited myself and DSD for tea tomorrow afternoon..... Our mutual kids are good friends, this is not unusual..... So I think I will go and brave the conversation. As I said before,we have been through thick and thin as friends, so feel confident I can raise the issue and remain good friends.....

I really have an inexplicable need to understand her thought process on this one!

I. Am. Stunned.

Most grabby and awful invitation I have ever come across. Also tacky as hell, and this is coming on the heels of the wedding invitation I had recently which described the bride and groom as the leading lady and the hero.

Oh yes, a goat! And tell mummy that you had it named after her.

You sound like a very good friend.

cosmetics? Jeez. this stuff makes me feel old. What's wrong with a useless silver spoon like the rest of us got?

Would that be King Kong and Fae Ray? Lilo and Stich? Bonnie and Clyde? Kermit and Miss Piggy?

Has the list already gone out in the post with the invitations? If so then it doesn't matter what you say - it's to late to save her from herself.

given you generally like them,have ongoing contact,I'd regard this as their aberration
I would go,but I wouldn't take a mummy present,take the gift you've purchased for baby
maybe once the froth of being new parents settles they'll calm down

Does she seem ok? If its so out of character I think I'd be concerned for her after I got over the shock of it. It seems so bizarre.

It just seems so... Well like a child with their birthday party invites! Almost like they are doing the ceremony to get goodies!

I would prefer they said 'please donate to Save the Children if you would like'. At least then its a link with a child being 'named/welcomed to society/whatever' and the greater good.

Also, tacky as hell, and this is coming on the heels of the wedding invitation I had recently which described the bride and groom as the leading lady and the hero.

My god... Not sure what say...

LittlePeaPod - they went on to describe their relationship as the greatest love story ever told. DP nearly pissed himself laughing.

They are not the type of couple you would expect that level of horror from.

But some first time parents can be like that. 'But I've had a BAYBEEEEE!!!' And think they can get away with bad parking, speeding, forgetting to pay bills...