I haven't seen my Dad for over 25 years, my Mum left him and then came in with another bloke one day and informed us that this was our new Dad and that was that.
She won't give me his proper name but I know the name everyone called him and he was well known where he lived, she won't tell me where and when he was born, in fact we no longer speak so I'm never likely to be able to find the information out at all now all I know is he lived in a little Lincolnshire village.
About 16 years ago she did manage to track a phone number down for him (after years of harrassment) and I had a brief conversation with him but she decided she didn't like it and burned the number and his address that I had written down as well as the phone bill.
Back when I spoke to him he was waiting for pretty major surgery on his heart so I'm not even sure if he is alive now and if he is he is in his 70s and when we spoke he did tell me I had brothers and sisters (he said all in all he had 16 children by goodness knows how many women) but I don't know their names apart from a brother I had who died and three older sisters I have whos names are my middle names (although one of them died as well I don't know which one).
I have tried the salvation army, trawled through public records (which is hard because I only know the shortened version of his name not the full name) called local pubs and shops where he used to live some of who knew him but didn't know where he was now and the local police station who couldn't do anything to help, as well as going on missing people and family tree and similar websites.
What else can I do? I feel like there is a huge part of my history I don't know and I would like to even just know if he is alive or not and maybe try to track down his other children. There is also the fact that my sister died from SIDS before I was born (according to my Mother) as did my son and I had a daughter who died from a genetic illness which there is no trace of on my Mothers side of the family and I would like to know my family history from his side to be able to tell my children.
Could someone give me any more ideas of what I can do to try and find out where he is or is it a lost cause? I don't know where to turn anymore its like banging my head off a brick wall and I'm just about ready to give up 
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This is my very last resort - ideas needed to help me find my dad, brothers and sisters
MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 30/05/2013 20:30
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Good luck OP, I really hope one or some of the leads you have from this thread will come to something. I have never met my dad and have never really tried looking for him as I have so little to go on, but this had made me think anything is possible 
Keep us updated and good luck!
Oh wow thank you all so much for replying I haven't heard back from J yet but her business is open on Saturdays so hopefully she will check her emails or her FB today at some point. You lot will be the first people I tell when she emails me back.
MacMac I know they were called B at one point, they were in their 20s when I was a baby so I would think they probably aren't called by that name now, there is M, J and S (who I think died).
Viva if you could ask that group that would be brilliant, thank you.
Aitch thank you, I'll email him just now, I contacted the Echo so hopefully I will hear from them next week. My Dads name is B.
Hullmum thank you for your concern, I would imagine she did have her reasons and the fact he has had so many children by so many women makes me think he probably isn't/wasn't the greatest bloke on the earth, but he is still my Dad and I really want to know my family history, and my siblings. I have thought about all the possibilities and am ready in case any of them are true.
I will just go and check out the other therapist and R B just now and try these B numbers I was given too and get emailing and checking the Archives.
Thank you all so much for taking the time to help me and support me with this. You are all bloody amazing. 
oh this is amazing. rooting for you OP
anyone else thinking we should get this moved from chat im desperate to see how this works out and don't want it to disappear forever after 30 days if there's no luck before then.
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This thread is why I love mumsnet. :)
Best of luck OP. I did something similar a few years ago looking for my dad's side of the family. He was very poorly at the time (sadly he didn't pull through) and I really wanted to trace them all (there were loads of them!). He lost touch with people due to being ambivalent about staying in touch, but regretted it later.
Well I did it! I have now met cousins and second cousins etc etc and we now all meet up twice a year and are close. We missed out on many years, but are making up for it now.
Nest of vipers, eh? 
Really hope you find some of your family OP - if not your dad, then some siblings who should understand your situation
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