?Friend? was gobsmacked when I started putting my coat on, but I really was just ?Grrrr? by that point (I think this had been going on for a good, what? 7 years at this point, so was well overdue). Funnily enough, I DID get the money back for the Take That tickets the week after ? she emailed me (as I was ignoring her texts and calls) and told me that she had had to phone her parents (Dad is retired, Mother works as a cleaner so not a lot of spare cash) to do an emergency bank transfer so that she could have money in her account to pay for the meal. I don?t actually know if she was able to get the money that night, or whether she had to go back the next day when the money was in her account, but either way, she told me that she got her parents to transfer cash over to her.
Thing was, she was apparently £250 ?over? her agreed overdraft (which is stupid as I thought if you had cash issues, you weren?t allowed to go over your overdraft?) maybe it was because she was a student? So her parents had to put in £265 so she could pay £15 for the meal!
She and I had a big ?heart to heart?, she apologised, admitted she was jealous as my life had turned out ?so much better than hers? and that she had used the fact I didn?t like confrontation to take the piss big time.
She said it wouldn?t happen again and that she would always pay her way ? I was like ?OK, fine, whatever?. I used to work as an IT Consultant so was working 150 miles away from home and she went to the Uni in the same place that I was working, so actually it was handy to have someone to ?do stuff with? in the weekday evenings as I didn?t get on with a lot of work colleagues and didn?t have any friends living in the area.
I actually stuck to my plan of ONLY taking out cash (well, my debit card was tucked into my jeans but she didn?t know that) so she had no choice but to pay 50% for everything. I really thought we had turned the corner, she was paying for coffees, things were going well?
She then suggested we go to the Spa that I?m a member of ? you can take 2 guests and pay £50 per guest as opposed to the £120 for a day visit. She said she?d pay the £50 entry and we could go, get a treatment and have a nice day. I said fine?. I had my members card and she got a guest card which you use instead of cash / debit cards, so at the end of the day, anything you?ve bought is just on the card and you pay it off at the end.
She said to me ?Rather than using both cards, why don?t we just use your card and I?ll pay you the £50, plus whatever food and treatments I have at the end of the day?? I said ?Sure, however can you give me the money now, just so I don?t forget?? she got all funny, then admitted she didn?t have any cash on her and that she was thinking she?d pay me back ?the next time she saw me?? I said no, that wasn?t acceptable and considering all the times before, I?d rather have the money up front. She accused me of not trusting her and ruining the day, I said I really didn?t care and if she wanted to drive to a cash point, that?s her choice but I wasn?t walking to reception with her and signing her in as a guest unless she gave me the cash beforehand (we were in the car at this point, at the spa? just ready to go in)?
She drove off?.. I?ve not seen her since. That was last year.
She has tried to contact me twice on email ?Hey! It?s been ages, do you fancy meeting up before Christmas?? type thing, but I?ve not replied and she?s now not contacted me for over 4 months?.
I finally got a backbone! 