D'ya ever wonder who passed the responsibility for starting a new d'ya ever wonder thread...

[curiositykilled]

It was ruby... she passed it to the newbie!

wow estar - you did well - not sure I culd manage that and I am not pregnant!!

pixi - dd won't poo on potty so if she goes all day without a poo we don't have any accidents!!! She is doing well but anything had to be better than training ds1

ds1 is very very into lego. He has all of dh's old stuff and has been bought it for Christmas or Birthday - not willy nilly as too expensive.

Have you tried freecycle? Sometimes it comes up on there. Charity shops?

hm - dh doesn't go away often but does shift work so I do 8 evenings a fortnight on my own. Routine and shouting and wine I find helps loads .

News on dizzy?

Zippy how are you getting on?

Dh looked around a bootfare the other week and the lego sets were being sold for more than in shops . I stupidly assumed you could pick it up fairly cheaply . Only wanted messages on Freecycle, will check charity shops when I'm in the city. Ds1 would be really happy with a box of toy cars from the £1 shop for xmas or birthday (7wks later) and will prob be doing all my shopping there at this rate lol. Dh gave his to his little brother, he had loads of cool stuff apparently.

Momma you really are my hero!

I'm ok, well we're ok.

Actually I'm really not ok My UTI has come back which was the cause of the pain but god I thought their time was up, and it's left me in a hell of a mess. We've got my parents stopping to sort us out, but my nerves are in shreads.

Curiosity, I didn't get your email until tonight, in the panic I didn't pick up my phone.

Thank you all x

Oh Dizzy I'm so relieved by your news, glad you got on here and happy you're all still plodding along. Is there anything at all we can do? I think I'm miles away from you. Sorry my brains are mush I just don't seem to hold anything in these days, can you remind me how far along are you?

dizzy - good, glad you're home and OK (ish). xxx

"this too shall pass" repeat ad nauseum...

Glad to hear you are 'kind of OK' Dizzy xxxxxx

Evening girls xx

evening shabs - how're you tonight? Did the apple juice help?

Hi pixi, 21 weeks so not far enough along for me to relax at all. My anxiety's pretty bad, so much that I can feel me hold my breath, and I don't even realise I'm doing it until I let it go iukwim. There's nothing I can think of I don't think, maybe just keep willing me on

Remembered the dates list on thread, Dizzy is 21+4 I think.

Dizzy it must terrifying and completely exhausting for you. Just remember you and the beanz are creeping closer to your due date, I know that must seem like a dot on the horizon right now but remember the mantra "this too shall pass" and try to be calm. I'm guessing alternative therapies (lavender/rescue remedy etc) are hopeless at soothing you.

I don't remember any drinking guidelines when pg with ds1, dh occasionally used to make me warmed milk with rum and something else from the Innocent recipe book when I was having a stressful day. .

dizzy - If you've got a stitch and the waters are OK you should be fine now. Just a waiting game. Time went quicker after 20 weeks for me. I have read the dalai lama's little book of inner peace when my anxiety has been bad in the past. Useful book. If a panic attack comes though don't try to fight it too much though cos that normally made mine worse, just try to focus on breathing, try to find ways to calm yourself. Music, cuddling DS, candles, a bath e.t.c.

I think I used to lie on the bed in the dark and just cuddle DS

Righto peeps. I have rejoined the melee. Please let me know if I have missed anything astronomical as I have not read back. Life has been a bit whoa recently but WTF, I feel at home here. Life can wait.

Im not watching Secret Millionaire any more have spent the last 15 minutes breaking my heart [bloody fool emoticon]

MERLY hiya sweetheart - how are you doing xxxx

I remember being fixated with having no control over my own body. I used to worry about sitting in the lounge of my first floor flat in case I just jumped out of the window (It had big windows) or worried about using the oven in case I deliberately burned myself e.t.c. Weird, lying in the dark with an irritated but cuddly and sleepy DS helped though.

I used to think that me not knowing that my firstborn was really firstborns was terrible BUT the more I learn the more I wonder? I had a wobbly pregnancy with the twins - horrendous all day sickness, psyiatica (sp??) pre eclampsia - but then when I found out, a few days before I had them, that I was carrying twins I realised that I had been quite healthy. Im sat here now having quiet panic attacks and menopausal hot flushes!!!!

shabs - whatcha doing?! Secret millionaire?! Oh no! That gets me and I am normally unbreakable!

Hi merlypuss. Nothing earth shattering here but zippysmum has had her twins - don't know if you know who she is or are already in possession of that info! lol

I was imagining all sorts on the way to the hospital last night, bad things really bad things and some of it I can't get out of my head even now

shabs - you have unrealistically high expectations of yourself! How would you know with your first pregnancy? You'd have had nothing to compare it too! The midwives night've guessed though!

I found being pg with the dts really hard going, weird dreams etc throughout. When they arrived I was really paranoid something bad would happen to them, sometimes rational (dt1 had undiagnosed reflux and was very poorly and had low iron so a horrid grey colour) sometimes irrational (I'd let go of the buggy and it would roll into the road etc). At night I used to make dh pick them up from the cot because I was terrified one had died and I couldn't face being the one that discovered them. I didn't have any of these feelings with the other three.

Hi Merly