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curiositykilled · 11/09/2009 11:04

It was ruby... she passed it to the newbie!

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MERLYPUSS · 23/09/2009 22:09

What flavour twins? (can't remember - head like a sieve)
I am disappearing under a pile of shitty dirty cot bedding. DTs have been poorly forever and DT2 has had a few nosebleeds recently. He is fading away, what with his no eating. Thank god for cheese triangles and rice pud !

curiositykilled · 23/09/2009 22:10

dizzy - pregnancy does make your imagination a bit haywire I think. I always have really vivid dreams. Don't beat yourself up for anything you think - you can't control your thoughts and I'm sure we've all had some really bad ones at points.

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curiositykilled · 23/09/2009 22:14

merlypuss - a friend posted the following about zippysmum, says it all really!

'By DogAgain Sun 20-Sep-09 19:48:06 Add a message | Report post | Contact poster
Hello all. Just heard from ZippysMum she asked me to post on here. Her twins were born on friday two boys

Arthur John weighing 6lb13 and
Henry Paul weighing 5lb 6.

They were born by CS and are doing well but are in the neonatal unit as they had very low blood sugar. They are being tube fed a mix of expressed colostrum and some formula but are also sucking well. Zippy is getting lots of BF support and advice. The boys sound gorgeous can't wait to see them . Am so excited Congratulations Zippy xxx '

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dizzymare · 23/09/2009 22:16

Thankfully I've never been a big dreamer, not sure what that says about me, but it's a blessing at the moment. My daily thoughts are bad enough without adding night time ones too. Sorry to be so negative at the moment, I think I'll bow out of here for now then you can all carry on chatting x

curiositykilled · 23/09/2009 22:17

dizzy - e-mail if you want? x

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MERLYPUSS · 23/09/2009 22:17

Aww. My boys were 6lb15 and 5lb4 so not so much different from hers.
She is soooo gonna get people saying 'ooh that one gets all the food doesn't he'. I'll punch them for her

curiositykilled · 23/09/2009 22:19

lol @ merlypuss!

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curiositykilled · 23/09/2009 22:22

I had stress nosebleeds when I was a child. I once had one for 6 hours because we were going to my grans and she was mean. we didn't go to grans but my mum who is a doctor was about to take me to hospital when it stopped. Couldn't have engineered it better.

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shabbapinkfrog · 23/09/2009 22:25

I used to get that too Merly - my boys always stayed about 2lbs apart in weight difference. People used to say (about our Gareth) 'dont you feed him?' I used to try to explain, calmly, that Gareth had a serious heart condition but they still carried on....'why is he blue around his mouth' because he has a serious heart condition, 'why is he so much smaller'....because he has......FFS shut up!!!!

Dizzy dont go - sometimes chat is fantastic when we are feeling gloomy and fed up....all the ladies here have a good idea how you are feeling and are all here to support each other. Just because we may sound as though we are 'sorted out' I think many of us aren't!!! You are going to be a multiple mummy and you are in the right place for support and love xxxx

pixiblue · 23/09/2009 22:26

dizzy it's natural to have those thoughts, it's your minds way of trying to cushion you from reality, by confronting you with reality iykwim. At one of my scans (nearly 30wks) I was rushed through to FAU through the back door as the sonographer(?) thought there was a major problem with one of the dts (very low fluid and growth issues) and told me it was likely they'd have to be born that day. Was terrifying, I was alone at the hospital for hours, sobbing my heart out while trying to remain still for the monitoring machine. My heart goes out to you.

dizzymare · 23/09/2009 22:29

Shabbs, thanks. I'm sick of fucking crying

Curiosity I've emailed you.

shabbapinkfrog · 23/09/2009 22:31

My lovely Nan used to say 'the more you skriek (Lancasire word for cry) the less you pee!!! It always used to make me LOL when she said it. I think as your pregnancy goes on you will 'get better' couldn't think of a better way to say it. You have been through a lot of shite poo - but things will get better my dear friend....I know they will. xxx

pixiblue · 23/09/2009 22:33

I just have to post for oldtimers and anyone who may have ploughed through older posts. I was just reminded of overrun's post about her dts poo decorated bedroom. I remember laughing hysterically about it then, while feeling suitably bad for laughing, and nearly fell off the sofa laughing about it again tonight. Dh told me off.

pixiblue · 23/09/2009 22:35

dizzy don't feel you have to go, we're here for each other through the good and bad.

curiositykilled · 23/09/2009 22:50

Yes, things'll definitely get better. Things might be better than you can ever imagine they'd be one day. Then you can feel like it's all going to come crashing around your ears cos you don't know what you did to deserve it and you're sure you're going to have to pay for it in some way at some point! But no, life is randomly unfair and horrible and randomly lovely and kind and you'll gradually learn to accept this new world view and enjoy the happy times all the more for the bad you've had.

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shabbapinkfrog · 23/09/2009 22:53

Lovely post Curiosity - my friend (she lost both her parents within 11 months of each other in their 60's) always says she is waiting for the 'rug' to be pulled from under her. I have told her many times that I have nailed my rug down and no fucker swine is going to pull it from under me!! xxx

curiositykilled · 23/09/2009 22:54

or is that just me?

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shabbapinkfrog · 23/09/2009 22:57

no its not just you!! The older I get the less I understand you described it all in your last post Curiosity xxx

curiositykilled · 23/09/2009 22:59

shabs - PMSL! Yes, after I got married I was convinced I was going to have to pay for my happiness with my front tooth (needed a root canal). It made me hysterical with worry, I used to just sit around in the new house, my new husband and I had just bought and wait for the big unkown bad thing to come.

My mum pointed out I was not used to being happy and life didn't work like that and then things started feeling better. She was right, I had not been happy for a good 10 years (possibly 20) so it stood to reason I'd find it hard to cope with. Strange concept though - that you have to 'cope' with happiness.

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curiositykilled · 23/09/2009 23:01

dizzy - you still around?

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frumpygrumpy · 23/09/2009 23:03

Oh Pix, thats FAB I love reading back!!!!!

I will keep my eye peeled for Lego........My DS thinks he loves it, but he's only just 5 and it frustrates him more than challenges. I think 7 might be a better age..... As I say, if I see some, its yours.

Merly whereyabeen? I miss you. You are as wise as an owl, only you never can see that xxxxx.

My DTs are in a class with one DT (his brother is in another class). They are completely different in height/weight etc. His mum said no-one believes her when she says they are twins. She's adorable and we kind of understand each other (whilst not knowing each other very well). I see her boys as the boys they are, like my children, totally different from each other. Whilst everyone around us compares them. I think I will like her a lot.

My DS is positively anxious and stressed. He worries me. He hates being dropped at school, gets diarrhoea every morning once he arrives at school, and so I am nurturing him as much as possible. But its just possible that has turned him into a horrible boy, complaining about anything and I find myself jumping hoops. Its so fucking hard to get the balance right. I want to support him. I don't like his teacher and I so see why kids are unsettled with her. But I also see that we have to make a friend of her and he has to find a way of dealing with her.

I'm worn out trying to fix it every day.

And we have another leak. The plumber had to cut a big hole in his ceiling in order to make the repair. Needless to say, he is freaking out about it, and the ghosts that might come down the hole. Don't blame him, its airy and I plugged the hole with a sheet but it gets sucked up and then spat out again with the air flow. Why is nothing easy?

[arse over tit life]

shabbapinkfrog · 23/09/2009 23:06

Hiya frumpy - I think its very hard being a mummy to a boy!! You want to stick up for him, fight his battles, and love, kiss and hug him. Girls seem to have everything sorted. Boys need their Mammy's xxx

dizzymare · 23/09/2009 23:07

Yes I'm still here, was just reading your email and trying to put my thoughts down without them being in a freaking mess.

Thanks x

curiositykilled · 23/09/2009 23:08

fg - if it was easy you'd probably wonder why it was not hard anymore under the curiosity rules of life and happiness/unhappiness.

Can you have some gin? Will that help? I am unsure...

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shabbapinkfrog · 23/09/2009 23:09

Gin helps me - but then (fingers crossed) Im not pregnant!!! xxxx

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