Rubes - Derkster copes by being very angry with me, many years ago there was a lot of domestic (cant say the word that starts with v - it makes me sob) He had a total mental breakdown after both boys died. Thats why I was so reluctant to celebrate 30 years of marriage.
My DH had a crap upbringing (like the little boy in the film Kes if you remember that) was abandoned by his mum - along with his 6 siblings - cause she wanted happiness!!! Etc etc.
Not quite sure how we made it through - but we have. I know, for sure, I would never, ever marry again.
Please dont judge my husband, I am sure I too have been a pain in the bum to him. It is how he has been taught to cope with problems. I do like him - we are quite good friends but I hold back my love most of the time except for my sons and Emma