Triplets, I get tension headaches regularly. You sound wound as tightly as a coiled spring so its no surprise you are having headaches and sick feelings. You could do with a big burst out, a huge big, gut wrenching, snotty nosed cry yourself inside out and pour out your soul completely of every little thing that you are holding on to. Only then can you get the calm. The flat-on-your-face-only-way-is-up calm. That gets you perspective and then you can build up. I know these feelings. (not exactly the same worries but the holding it in and making yourself feel ill)
Who and where can do you that with? I don't expect this will work for you but doing it with H would be ideal. Then he might feel he could do the same.
Anyway, none of that is very helpful when the thing you asked was what could you do about tension headaches.....
Right. I have a lavender eye pillow (laid it out for Momma last night for her sinusitus). Its a bag thing you lay over your eyes. It had bead things inside which mould into your eye sockets and place a little pressure in that area which help keeps your eyes closed and makes it dark. It feels cool. It also has lavender inside so the smell is also meant to relax. But really its the action I think that works best. My DP used to suffer extremely bad migraines and (amongst pumping him full of prescribed medication ) I would put this over his eyes.
It will force you to lie down for 20 minutes and the tension will ease. When you can't move your head or open your eyes its amazing how you feel the tension go. But you have to train your body into accepting it. The first few times I did it, I lay there like a piece of wood! Try to do it regulary, 2-3 times a day (just for 15 mins) and train your body to let go. Remind yourself that for those 15minutes you will not think about the worries (you can do that on the 16th minute) and keep pushing in a different thought each time the worries creep in. For me, beaches, the tesco man, the crap sex I once had with a very good and adorable friend (male I hasten to add)! anything.
God I can talk shit.
Also, I tend to hit worries/tension headaches with everything. I bought Bach Rescue Remedy which I spray on my tongue, I bought lavender oil for my pillow and I have a roll on thing for your wrists and behind your ears called Sleep.
PMSL I sound like a right jolly old hippie. I don't do chanting and I've never done lentil weaving
In short, spray your tongue, dab on the oil, lie back with your eye pillow and make yourself breathe deeply (in through the nose, out through the mouth) at least ten times.
Lastly, please email me your address [email protected] and I will pop my spare (and unused) eye pillow in the post to you.
We will drag you through this whether you like it or not.