Tell me it gets easier? Please???

[bellabelly]

Hello all, my twin boys are 2 and a half weeks old, we've been out of hospital for just over a week (they had to be re-admitted for a week because they'd lost too much weight but both are now doing well).

Now that we're home, we're carrying on the 3-hour feeding routine that the hospital set up and, generally, it's working out ok. But life is starting to feel like such a treadmill - it just seems endless, days and days of sterilising, pumping, feeding, changing nappies, washing up, etc. One of the boys in particular seems to need a LOT of cuddles and I feel awful for resenting him for needing my time when there's so much else to stay on top of. Not to mention, i feel sad that his brother is getting much less of my attention because he seems a bit less needy.

The worst times are when they both cry at once and teh noise just goes right through me. To be honest, i sometimes feel like walking out of the front door and just leaving them to cry it out. Are these gloomy feelings totally normal? Please tell me it gets easier soon? I wanted to be a lovely earth mother type but I just feel really ambivalent sometimes. I knew twins would be hard work but I think until you live it, you don't really appreciate what that means. There's hardly any time to talk to DH (he's on leave for one more week, god i'm dreading him going back to work) and this'll sound silly cos what did we expect, but I think we're both missing our old life already. Sometimes I feel so happy and grateful for the twins - we tried for AGES for a baby before finally getting pregnant but sometimes I wonder if we're ever going to feel like life is any fun ever again. Any tips advice for staying sane over the next few weeks? Please?

Hello BB, well, is it getting any better? I know you've had lots of really good advice already but a little trick I found helpful on those awful, endless days when they both shout at you all day. I allot my twins alternate days so I have Izzy day followed by Zeppe day. Obviously, I run round like a blue arse fly looking after both of them but, on Izzy day, when both are crying I priortise her and vice versa. It's still horrible but at least when they are sixteen and in therapy and accuse me of preferring their twin to them, I can honestly say 'I was crap but absolutely fair'. Keep the faith sista.

One of the nicest things that anyone ever said to me is that you are blessed to have twins - at the time i didnt appreciate it but now i do. to start with i had severe pre eclampsia followed by 6 weeks in hosptial, a collapse, a caesarean that i knew nothing about, High Dependency Unit for 3 days and that was before i even met my babies. they were in the neonatal unit one weighting 2lb 11 the other 4 lb 11. they grew slowly. i expressed whilst they were tiny and breastfed them both when the time was right - it was a struggle especially when one came home at 2 weeks and the other not until 4 weeks - backwards and forwards 22 miles each visit - lost count of how many times i did it in a day nevermind for an extra 2 weeks. i breastfed them for 7 1/2 months. it was easier when both were home but extremely tiring, different feeding times etc.

in the early days i got myself into a routine and then decided that my girls were going to follow they fed together for a start. i didnt go to their every cry and moan etc-it was heartbreaking but it was for the best. i am a single mum and have been since i found out i was pregnant-he wasnt ready. my twins are now 16 months old sleep through and they dont cry very much they are happy girls. i make sure they both have the attention and love that they need etc. Use the support that is offered even if it is only for one baby at a time!!!!

bella it will get easier, hard to believe in the first few weeks monthsbut it will and it is an absolute joy to have twins, you will have fun again, sooner than you think - honest