'd'ya ever wonder how many times you will be asked if they are twins?'

[MarsLady]

C'mon girls. Got bored of waiting and started the new thread!

Hey Meeely, I don't know your story but hope the counselling wasn't too scary. Just looked at your pics and you sure do have good looking lads though .

I feel honoured as I spoke to Mars earlier IN PERSON.

Hello ExpectingKat, glad you came over here too, we can share our worries together .

Egg... I think I've found you a doula! Do you want me to pass your number on? She's rather lovely and I've met her several times.

Honoured smonoured! lol

YES YES YES, please do. I can either email you my number or your doula friend can email me (you can pass on my address).

Thank you .

just popped in to say goodbye for a couple of weeks, we're off camping tomorrow setting off v early in the hope that DTs will sleep at least half the way I have bag of toys and haribo so should survive

dingdong, luck and love honey, luck and love!!!

Kat WELCOME and spill your story!!

Meeely, spill your too, we are here, open armed and ready for it. Need a tissue?

My babies are out! Well, they've been out for 2 whole weeks but now we're home from hospital...phew!

More info on birth announcements, just wanted to say hi! Will try and catch up with the thread between feeds!

Bibi!!! Can't wait to hear everything!

Whooppeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!! welcome back bibi!

Bibi's birth announcement

Bibi... my offer still stands.

Congratulations Bibi, off ot read that birth announcement now !

Hello Mars, I will email and update you asap!!!!!! Big kisses L xxx

Welcome back Bibi

Hemangioma

Anyone?

Thank you all for the welcome, knowing i can chat, moan lol and ask questions is makin me feel a bit better.
Hi again egg, that we can, and after sittin last nite and thinkin wot its going to be like wit twins and my 1yr DS I've got loads of worries lol
I have told DD2 we are going to sell her on ebay cos its all her fault she thinks it so funny.

I constantly tell one of my DT's we putting him on ebay cos we can't afford to run both of them!

Another 5.30 start this AM, I think they are coming down with something to be honest. I feel a bit crappy too, so can just about sympathise.

Anyone know how to deal with an obsessive toddler? Should i start a thread on the Behaviour topic? Arthur has a real thing about anything electrical.....plugging things in mainly - he can take the blanking plates out of our plug sockets now, so nothing is safe, even if i hide all the electrical appliances he will just sit and pull the blanking plates out and plug them back in again. It seems to be the only time he is quiet and happy. I try distraction 'oh look at this fab toy' Screaming hissy fit. I try reasoning with him (ha ha hahahahahahah he's 2.8!), 'thats dangerous arthur, please can you come here and help mummy do suchandsuch', screaming hissy fit. I was worried he was a bit 'weird', cos he cos into his own little world, could play for hours like that if i let him, just petrified the wrong thing will get stuck into the plug socket. My MIL found him trying to put a set of keys in one once.

My HV said to buy him some toys which involve pressing buttons and putting things in things....but i wonder if that will tecah him it;s ok to play with mummys things.

Sorry that went on a bit long.....

Oh dear i know wot you mean, use to early starts myself, lucky if I'm in bed still at 6 in the morning since DS was born. If your not feelin a 100% then everything just seems worse.
I know this may sound harsh but we went through simular with DD2 as she liked to touch hot things and we had tried everything u have tried, but I scared her, I screamed or mad a really loud bang a couple of times when she done it so she understood sumthing scary cud happen. We had a few tears but she did learn more from the upset thinkin sumthing had happened than actually hurtin herself

Done the screaming at him and he screams back, then goes on a rampage round the house chucking things and then throws himself on the floor, like its the end of his world. He's 2.8 you see so thinks he is actually helping mummy by plugging things in - he sees me plug things in, so really doesn't understand why he can't...he see's me as being unreasonable for saying no or shouting at him.

lol sounds just like my DD she's got such a temper on her, 1 time she tried chuckin herself down the stairs in temper cos I had told her to stay in her room for being naughty, if I hadn't caught her she wud have! I didn't scream at her, I wud wait until she was doing it and she wasn't noticing me then do sumthing loud and quick, so it wasn't directed at her but scared her. I know each child is different and its so frustratin and upsettin, sumtimes u either feel your telling them off all the time or their havin screamin tantrums

Meely, ds1 is a little bit the same so when he wants to play with dangerous things (which he does very often) we supervise him for a while (dh is very good at it) to check he understands that it is dangerous and how to use things properly. He knows that he can only put plugs into sockets and nothing else, OK, so I still pray tthat he won't make a mistake. We taught him about the dangers of heat (water, cars, stairs etc) when he was really young and he is very cautious. I was a little surprised a couple of weeks ago when we were at a park cooking sausages on an open fire grill, another family were there with a toddler, the toddler ran towards the fire, the mother grabbed him and dragged him away with no explanation to him of why he was being taken away.

Egg, she lives in Finsbury Park but does travel - she'd live with you 6 days a week for the time you needed her, so I'm sure Hampshire would be fine. I used her as a night nanny initially, then for some daytime stuff, and she also did some proxy parenting for me (looked after the DTs for a whole weekend whilst OH and I went away ON OUR OWN last year. She's a very lovely, practical, hands-on lady who simply takes the hard work out of the first few weeks, rather than getting in the way of your bonding with your new babies. If you're interested, let me know, and I'll text her to see if she's available (can you remind me when you're due?). The last I heard, I had a call from an agency in Hong Kong for a reference for her, so she might be out East at the moment!

I've been really enjoying the holidays so far. All my DDs have, on the whole been delightful and we have been having a busy and fun time. Today though, I am in an absolutely stinking mood and snapping at everyone for the slightest thing. Not due on for a week, so no idea why [fed-up emoticon].

lady of leisure - yeah i do supervise him too actually and he knows whats hot and whats not - they both walk past the oven and say 'ooo hot, dangerous'. Arthur also knows if the red light is on on my straightners they are hot - however he still not old enough to realise they take a while to cool down, so will see light off and assume he can play.

I do trust him, he is very careful and cautious....he just wants to help me bless him, but having the pair of them i feel i can't turn my back on edward to supervise arthur, all very complicated and when i feel like i have a spring loaded neck watching the pair of them i start to get stressed and snappy.

tkband3, thanks so much for info, I will wait until I come back from hols (off on Sat for a week) as Mars has recommended a Doula who has contacted me today, and I am having a proper chat with tomorrow who really sounds LOVELY. However still unsure of which path to go down and think I will check out both.

Leo / Meeely, my DS likes to do dangerous stunts etc too, he is only 17 months and doesn't understand everything, but has learnt about hot ovens / radiators. He does like to fiddle with plugs and has been told countless times not to. I think he finds them fascinating. His newest thing is to climb as high as he can, using whatever means. I found him standing on the radiator the other day, which is very narrow and attached to the wall so v hard to get on, and I have no idea how he got there . He also loves to throw his toys out of the window. He thinks it is hilarious.