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TERRIFIED about vanishing twin syndrome? :(

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salsasalsa · 29/06/2017 12:14

Hello, I don't know how many twin mums/expectant twin mums use this, but I am going out of my mind a bit. And I know there's nothing I can do, but I need to let it out, my partner, my mum, my sister and my best friend are getting fed up or reassuring me :(
I am expecting twins, I am 12+6. I have had 2x early scans, one at 7 weeks and one at 10 weeks. Both have shown heartbeats and fine growth etc. They are in separate sacs, and they think seperate placentas.
My 12 week scan has been booked for next friday when I will be 14 weeks. It feels so long since my last scan, and the week after my scan I had a day of severe back ache I had to leave work, severe sickness and severe cramping, all in one day, other than that, I've been fine, nausea and all symptoms seem next to none.
I am going out of my mind, worrying about vanishing twin syndrome. I know this can happen with no symptoms and I'm just so worried :(
I hate that everyone wants to be excited and telling everyone when I keep thinking something bad may have happened. I know I can only wait until next Friday, I'm just going crazy thinking about it.
Just looking for support I guess x

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salsasalsa · 04/07/2017 21:25

That's ok don't worry about that, it's a lot to take in and it's so personal.
That's are they in seperate sacks?
I guess the added worry is that TTS ? There is so much they can do on reading about that though and you will be so closely monitored, mine may be sharing a placenta, they were in two sacks though, im so happy they are both okay for you, that's amazing news, it is scary but I'm sure everything will be absolutely fine now they know what to be monitoring etc. Congratulations it's amazing xxx

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Gunpowder · 07/07/2017 07:59

Good luck for today salsa. Glad your two are ok Arianna!

Gunpowder · 07/07/2017 08:01

Interesting about the left handed theory. I've been trying to work out where my twins come from and my dad is left handed...

AriannaBlack · 07/07/2017 10:00

Is it your scan today? If so hope all goes
Well'

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salsasalsa · 07/07/2017 10:28

Hello, mine are MCDA too. At least that means two weekly scans... just waiting to see a doctor now for a fourth opinion... measuring a week apart, blimey. Grateful they're both ok though, thank you, hope we can stay in touch along the way! X

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AriannaBlack · 07/07/2017 11:25

Aww bless you! Well they will keep a good eye on you and your babies don't you worry. And of course that would be lovely

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salsasalsa · 07/07/2017 14:46

It's such a bloody worry! Now I don't have a vanishing twin but petrified about TTTS or whatever! Closely monitored is great but omg I thought I would be able to start enjoying this but it's worry after worry lol xx

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PotOfYoghurt · 07/07/2017 14:55

I'm a mirror twin. I'm right handed, she's left handed. Identical (and therefore mirror) twins aren't genetic so there isn't any correlation between ancestors dominant hands if the theory is correct.

PotOfYoghurt · 07/07/2017 14:56

Glad both of your scans went well!

We had minor TTTS but there wasn't any severe problems, I was just much healthier and bright red at birth compared to my sister.

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salsasalsa · 12/07/2017 16:26

Ariannablack, when's your next two weekly scan? I take it you are having them 2 weekly? Mine are and every one followed by consultant?
I just wanted to ask if your twins showed a growth difference like mine at all? I've been going out of my mind with worry as it was 9 days. Need to get off the internet. Xx

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ScrunchyBook · 12/07/2017 16:46

Hi salsa try not to worry too much about size they are really small and the measurements are in mm if I recall correctly? I did think it was a bit when I recall how they 'drew' on the scan image to get the details, I couldn't help feeling there was quite a margin for error there

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salsasalsa · 12/07/2017 19:13

Thank you so much for posting that scrunchybook. Do you know I had completely not even had in my mind about there possibly being a miss measurement. And the doctor even said at the time it could be how they were positioned etc... it was like they just dragged a line around their shape roughly and it measured in mm you're right. So it could possibly be that making it a bigger difference, that's a bit of hope perhaps. Do you have twins sorry? I'm so frustrated as the doctor kept my report they printed with the measurements and twin type info, will have to get them to print it again next week, as I've got the other two from scans I've had previously, just annoying I forgot she had it as there was so much going on! Roll on next Thursday. Xx

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ScrunchyBook · 12/07/2017 19:51

Yes I've got boy/girl twins they are 10 months now.
That's exactly how they measured mine, and then they were plotted on a little line. One of my scans had someone's head as abnormally small, but the following scan it was all back to normal parameters. I can't remember which scan it was, you hand your notes in after you have been signed off by the midwife team once you get them home, otherwise I could show you.
Also the weights predicted by the scans were out - at my last scan they were on track to be over 6lb but they were a bit smaller when born.
They'll let you know if there is anything to worry about, just try to relax and enjoy it, easier said than done I know

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salsasalsa · 12/07/2017 20:01

Thank you. It helps so much to hear from other twin mums. I'm trying so hard to enjoy it, I think had it been a dcda twin pregnancy I could potentially be relaxing more! Congratulations, were they your first? And how has the first ten months been? The outcome of two babies I am excited about! The pregnancy, not so much :) xx

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ScrunchyBook · 12/07/2017 20:35

They are our first and it's been amazing, but seriously hard work. The first couple of months were so exhausting, but I've been very fortunate my DH finished work to be a SAHD so he was able to help out all through my maternity leave.
We've arrived at a really lovely stage now, - they giggle and smile at each other and one is crawling and standing. You get so much attention when out and about with them.
Just stop googling! Unless it's fun stuff like researching prams and how big your bump is going to get

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salsasalsa · 13/07/2017 10:18

Aww, I am so jealous you have them healthy with you!! Can't wait to be at that stage. That's what I'm excited for... I honestly don't think I'm going to relax!! Just a worrier lol, I will just be hoping for some positive measurements etc next Thursday, and looking forward to speaking to a consultant. Xx

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salsasalsa · 20/07/2017 17:01

I have had scans seen consultant today and twin 2 is measuring stil far behind and have now beenreferred for specialist treatment at Southampton, hopefully they will get back to me tomorrow :( possible SIGUR or TTTS :( xx I'm so sad :(

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ScrunchyBook · 23/07/2017 20:32

Oh salsa so sorry to hear that. The team at Southampton will look after you, thinking of you xx

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salsasalsa · 24/07/2017 08:42

Thank you, appointment today at 12. My partner and my mum are coming. On a better note my boyfriend proposed at the weekend lol. lets hope for some good news xx

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salsasalsa · 25/07/2017 09:53

Specialist appointment in Southampton yesterday was so meh. Feel so dull and empty. They are still in there, moving about, hearts beating, growing, but twin b is a lot smaller and further behind. Twin b has a lesser share of the placenta and the cord flow is intermittent, and best case scenario is things staying the same and just trying to get to 24 weeks with none of the other MCDA risks occurring or worsening sad they have sIUGR. I'm so sad because they are so in there, but they spoke about how little one can just suddenly die, and that can effect the ok one because they are sharing blood vessels, also spoke about cutting off the cord to the littler one if conditions worsen to save the ok one, and they can also still develop TTTS. There are so many risks its unbelievable. I am so envious of you all and you DCDA pregnancies sad I think I've come to terms with the fact this isn't going to get enjoyable at any point, so just going to have to embrace it for what is is, and I shared a photo on facebook yesterday for the first time as I want them to be acknowledged. I'm so numb and the next 2 weeks until the next specialist appointment is going to feel like a million years. Hope you are all doing well x

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