Just over a year ago some friends of mine had twins. Now I know kids can take over your life and I know I can't imagine what it's like to have twins (but I do know what it's like to have two kids) but I really feel like we've lost these friends. We've seen them maybe twice since the twins were born. They never give invites out and constantly reject them - even when they've been made specifically with kids in mind. A lot of our mutual friends have kids/babies and if we go to each others houses or have a party we always start things off in the afternoon so it's easy to bring kids and there's always an open invitation to bring travel cots and stay into the evening.As a group we're very supportive of each other and have all found that having kids at the same time has been a very positive experience - we share advice and talk about kids lots, on the whole it's a real bond. But these guys have just dropped out, basicially. In the last year the best these guys have managed is one two-hour visit. The twins always have to be home for tea and bath, every night - without fail. We sort of thought things would start to change as they got older but I'm really not convinced now. I feel really sad but I do think our firendship is grinding to a halt. I also feel sad that I barely know their kids. We obviously differ in our perspectives about having kids and having a life and I don't mean to sound critical of their choices in that respect, but I think they're missing out on positive things, including letting their kids have close relationships with other adults who - given the chance - would adore them. I'm not sure they realise that they're in teh process of loosing friends (it's not just us). So what do you think? Am I being unsympathetic and selfish or do I have a grievance? Should I tell them how I feel or just let things drift?