d'ya every wonder how life carried on and on and on.....

[Kelly1978]

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Too much waffling, you know who you are

I jsut wanted to psot to say good luck hm, hope you can hold out, but it really sounds like things are moving. Jsut think you could be cuddled upw ith your baby by tomorrow morning!

Glad to hear dt2 is better, fg.

have you read this?

Sorry ladies been trapped on the tiktok thread!

Pixi... has given birth. Last year! That's all I can say as I'm sure she'll want to make her own announcement as to what, when and where and how! lol

HM... are you sure it's colic?

Knackered, but that's cos I've just read the longest thread and it keeps getting longer. Sigh...........

My plans for 2007 include being debt free, going to Cuba and passing my French and Literature courses. I imagine Cuba and the study will go well lol...........

So good to see you all again.

Can we all agree on one thing? (Uh oh Mars is getting that look again!!!!)

This is where we are allowed to moan, rant, rave, dance, skip, laugh and praise etc! Okay? No more apologies for being who and what we are with our darling wee beasts!

"right you are m'lady"

My new year thoughts are to try to calm down and not shout so much , to try to swim twice a week, and to drink less gin/wine (maybe I'll start on brandy . The not shouting usually works for hours and hours (making no difference to anyone except the neighbours) and then I blow it and shout my head off in the nightmare hours before bed.

Did I tell anyone that I keep putting on weight for some unknown reason. Eating the same, clothes getting tighter and tighter. Def not pregnant. Must be ill .

Kelly, keep strong.

Mars - not certain its colic but just assuming given that its in the evenings and at midnight she suddenly decides to go to sleep. So its colic or shes a witch

If you can think of what else it could be, please please tell me as its driving me crazy. Today she has been like it since 2pm and I really want to make myself some dinner but cant put her down for more than 5 mins.

Hi HM, there's nothing more tiring than that! Hope you get some peace time soon. How are you feeling?

pissed off, tired, cant see an end in sight!

Thats rubbish. It is the heady days of little babydom. Beautiful times but not much chance to enjoy the good. Is your DH away?

When my DTs came, I used to look back at photos of when DD was little when I was having a rough day. It served as a kind of timetable. If the photo I was looking at reminded me that I didn't feel under control at that point, it reassured me that it would come. Does that make sense? Don't feel bad putting her down for a while, jumping into a quick hot shower and coming out feeling slightly revived.

yes DH is away....but luckily mum is here to help....

how are you fg, is your dp away?

Ok ladies I have a question for you. I've searched elsewhere and can't find a relevant thread but will start one if you lot can't help me out (but you lot know everything) Anyway, DTs have been at nursery the past 2 days, full days, and will be doing 3 days a week from now on. They get breakfast, lunch and a lightish tea at around 3.45, I pick them up around 5/5.30 and it takes 20 mins to get home. They have not been inclined to eat another meal once they're home, partly due to not being hungry, partly due to tiredness (in bed and asleep by 6.30 tonight bless 'em) so what do I do? I don't want to keep them up to eat a meal they don't need. They have always slept a good 12 hours at night and will need to be up no later than 7am to be out of the house by 7.30. I'll shut up now

HM, FG, LG&T adn others, I don't know how you cope without your DHs through the week I really don't - I know I couldn't

New Year's resolutions...re-joined gym and went drink less alcohol, well, managed none at all yesterday but have had a couple of G&Ts tonight (earned by going to gym ) and get manage money better...

and perhaps sort my command of the english language out

lapinrose - my DTs are exactly the same - they have breakfast at home, a cooked lunch at nursery and a snacky type tea just before 4pm.

I used to offer them more food when they got home but they just werent eating it so now I just see if they want a banana or something (or the current favourite for both of them, a bowl of olives..) but nothing more substantial than that as they tend to leave it. Then I give them milk just before bedtime and they sleep through happily....touch wood it continues like this!

Lapinrose, ds is usually starving when we pick him up so ends up eating something small when he first gets home unless dinner is coooked and on the table immediately, after that he doesn't really eat anything. He always has a huge bottle of milk just before bed though. How about giving them something to eat on the way home.
They will probalby find the nursery exhausting to start with but will get used to it and may not be so tired when you pick them up.

I dont cope Lapin it's all an illusion.....i have started to wander if ive finally flipped, i mean another baby???!!! I must be nuts, i have just put the school dates on the calendar as that is how my life is governed and it's horrifying. I have 6 weeks till half term then another 5 weeks block after that and then it's the Easter hols, when the kids go back to school after the hols i will be 36 weeks!!! It is way too fast, i know how quick each term whizzes by.

My only hope (i sound like an episode of star wars) is that dh should be home every night in 7 weeks. Unless the ship he joins is in bloody Dubai or somewhere, in which case watch this space for a melt down......

I wouldnt worry about the twins eating, mine were the same. They did nursery 2 days a week when they were 20 months until playschool at 3 and a half. There routine was the same, as they got bigger they wanted tea too but it was till only a few mouthfuls. Not like now when they can easily match me in the food portions! They come in from school starving and eat till bed time, i dread the weekend my kitchen is emptied, thts why i bake so much to fill the buggers up...

Hope everyone else is ok, am off to look in birth announcements for pixie, is she there yet?

lapinrose, my friends dts do exactly the same, I was quite surprised when I found out but they are absolutely fine on it, and dont need anything else when they come home. I don't think mine would be impressed at all, but then dt1 is a gannet.

Today was ds1's first day at big school. He loved it and seems very happy with the whole idea, so I'm relieved. It's jsut a bit of a nightmare doing three school runs a day until easter. Before, I could drop dd at the gate, and leave the twins in the car for ds's preschool. It took me 45 minutes to get him in today. As soon as the dts get in the car, they strip their shoes and socks off, and it is a battle to get them in their car seats. I think I'm going to have to start walking more.

Day 3 of the prozac. Not sleeping at all. Keep having horrible dreams too. I'm taking the older two for a couple of nights away from tomorrow though, and have another weekend away planned for mid feb on MY OWN! I really need to get away for a bit and refresh. I'bve been trying to hold it all together since sept and not had chance to really think abt me. I'm plannign some nice long walks by the beach at the weekend.

Hi all. HM.. I'll give it some thought. Has she had cranial osteopathy? My clients swear by it!

largegin....... we all live giving off the illusion of complete togetherness. It's the coming here that allows us to feel a bit (or a lot) weak! This is where we regain just enough to convince the world that we're fine and it's all good!

I suppose my biggest resolution for this year is to meet you all! That would be so much fun.

I've texted Pixi to remind her about the birth announcement, but we remember those newborn DT days so don't hold your breath lol. I mean... we never see Doris do we? It's not as if she's busy or anything! lol

hm, I keep thinking about your dd. All mine have been evening screamers. dt2 was the only one who actually had colic, the rest of them were jsut overtired really. I used to feed them pretty much non stop for a few hours and then jsut put them down. I think I started about 9pm and slowly brought it backwards. They would scream for a little bit then fall asleep. I think it was overstimulation that got to them, and once in a nice quiet darkened room they settled down. It really doesnt last too long though, as hard as it is to see the end. Hang on in there. {{{hugs}}}

HM dd had cranial osteopathy too, it def worked for her. She would scream and scream for hours, it was awful. 3 sessions i think is all it took. Ds went to see the chiropract too, i went to he came along, he was very good. Def worth a try.

God i hope this next baby is an angel, all of mine seem to do that cant put them down thing from 4pm to 10pm.....im soooo busy at that time. They will all be living off smillie faces and fishfingers! No baths and screaming mummy... Something to look forward too then.....

Another vote here for cranial osteopathy HM. Always seems to settle my lot down, particularly DT1 who was very squashed in my pelvis and I'm sure suffers particularly during teething as a result. Funny - was looking at the first picture of her the other day and seeing her poor squashed face gave me a real jolt...made me think about her recent behaviour and whether it's connected. Anyway, took both DTs to osteopath yesterday and although no miracles overnight (DT2 has tonsillitus and temp of 40 at 1am so both screaming for a while) they are definitely both more settled today. Visit www.osteopathy.org.uk to find one in your area if you're interested. I've also found homeopathy good for unsettled babies. I don't know if you have a bedtime routine for her yet, but I seem to recall that mine settled much more quickly once I started giving them their bedtime feed in their room and putting them straight in their cots (never managed an evening bath in the early days - they were bathed in the morning while DP got DD1 ready). I'm sure if I'd started that earlier, they wouldn't have been nearly so bad in the evenings.

Sorry - rambled a bit there.

No resolutions for me, save to lose another stone and try and enjoy my life more. Had an awful day the other day and DP asked me in the evening if I hated my life. My response was 'not every day' and since then I've been thinking about things more and have realised that although I don't hate my life, I'm not that keen on it at the moment, but there are things I could do to make it better, hence the resolution. One of these is to do more with my DTs when DD1 is at pre-school.

Kelly, your w/e away sounds lovely - I hope you have a fab time and come back refreshed.

LR - my DD1 used to have a similar routine at her nursery. She used to have a cereal bar or banana or something similar in the car on the way home, then milk at bedtime. She always had a HUGE breakfast as well, as she didn't really like the lunches.

Hi all,

had hospital appointment yesterday, babies are still doing really well , I feel very happy and very, very lucky!

Kelly, the walks on the beach and the weekend away sound like the least of what you deserve after what you have been going through.

L
xxx

just in case anyone has advice and missed this

Great news leo, how long to go? Wow, another birth to come on our thread, must stock up on champagne (a bottle each per child yeah?)

Kelly, I'm gad you are making plans. The break doesn't always seem like its done you good at the time but it does give you perspective and that is what is very important when you are feeling like this. To get time away to view life from a different angle, necessary and priceless.

I got all worked up yesterday, managed to go for a swim at night (DP back at work but not away til Monday). Bashed up and down for 3 lengths exhausting myself, had to stop and get breath before starting over (properly) and pacing myself so I could continue. It was good for me though as I came home to the same state of a house I left but feeling better about it. (My resolution should really have been to learn to swim. I love swimming but have never been taught to swim properly so I don't exactly swim gracefully or like a fish )

Dingdong (please change your name to dingdong ), when my DTs go to nursery they have breakfast at home and lunch and an afternoon snack there (3pm). I pick them up about 4pm and they usually pick at dinner. I offer it all the same but yeah, they are exhausted and its early beds. Often they are difficult to settle as well, overtired. Yours sound like they have plenty to eat through their day so I would go with the flow.

just popping one of these in, I fear they are about to leave us any day now

hi girls! hope its ok for me to join in! im new at this whole thing but ur thread has loads of great advise and has made me smile quite a few times!!

Oh, I just caught ggg's news. Nothing but nothing seems right now. That poor, poor family.

Hug your children, hold them close, listen when they talk, screw the housework, be their mum.

I'm sure Triplets will have a word or two to offer when the time is right. Everytime I hear news like that I think of you too honey x.

Perspective is the only word I can think of.