Please help or tell me it gets better!

[Rebecca1608]

Hi just want to vent and get some advice really. I've got id girls born at 35 weeks. They will be 5 weeks old tomorrow. They spent 10 days in SCBU but when they came home i got them into some sort of routine. The last couple of weeks they have been having 4oz 4 hourly and my OH went back to work monday. I continued to feed them and change them at the same time but the last couple of days it's all gone to shit (i'm not expecting 5 week old babies to follow a routine religiously) but they are barely going 3 hours for me now. They wake at different times and they are always shouting. Though i always make sure they are ok. I'm feeding one of them every other hour and i've had 2 hours sleep. One likes to be awake more in the day and the other at night so i can't catch up on sleep. My OH just says "i wish i could help you" he can't during the day as he is in work but in the night says he will be too tired in work. I was up 2am until 7am this morning as one of my little ladies kept calling and very restless. I slept from 7 until 9 when my other little lady woke and have been awake since. I had my first coffee of the day at 2pm as it's been so hectic. No time to eat. I can't leave the house as when i've finished one feed it's soon time for the next. I have been in the house since sunday!! I phoned my mum in tears earlier and i just got "i don't know what to tell you" i'm really run down HV said it's because they are coming up to their due date which is actually tomorrow. She said everything will go out of the window but i am struggling! Please offer some advice.

Dioskouri, I had the harmony duo too and mixed fed. I mainly used it for tandem bf but DH also used for tandem bottles. I think that was when they a little older though. I can see the issue with the neck support right now. We also tried using my pregnancy support cushion, which was one of those long bean bag type things. Was no good for bf as didn't hold it's shape and we all slipped out of position, but something more squidgy like that or just normal pillows might work better for bottles at the moment. Also, I think if you have big hands/little bottles there is a technique of sort of resting the bottles on your wrists so you fingers can support sides of their heads. We never mastered that though!

Great to hear things are looking up Rebecca!

Randomcafe - Thanks. I think it's trial and error really isn't it? I had some moderate success on Friday, propping them up on their Doomoo beanbags and then wrapping rolled up muslins around their necks (like those neck supports you wear to sleep on the plane). It worked pretty well.