D'ya ever wonder if you could still do the twist and not actually wet yourself in the process?

[shabbs]

New thread my friends xxx

I am mostly hiding on SN chat at the moment. James is being particularly challenging and with end of term rapidly approaching, I am despairing!

On the plus side, dh was off last week so we got the house quite nearly tidy. Still odd bits to do, but the Himalayan ironed clothes pile has been put away.

Twins are full of mischief. But they are very funny with it so I can't be too cross for too long.

Morning girls xx

Bubbs - all sounding good to me xx

Glad you had a good weekend Trips xx

No didnt do anything for our anniversary Bubbs. To be honest this last few weeks we have been 'swimming in treacle.' Trying to rob Peter to pay Paul (I hate Peter and Paul they are a pair of knobs) Feeling so low down that I dont think I can get any lower (hope thats not tempting fate.)

If I have already put this just ignore me!! 'Somebody' (and we are not allowed to know who) reported me to the DWP and said I was working FULL TIME???? They sanctioned our money.....by the way I am NOT working at all!! Have lived on our CB and CTC for the last 3 weeks. Had to have an interview at the job centre - the outcome is that they believe me and will re-instate our benefits (hopefully) this Friday - but they will not be backdated Just another 'few weeks in paradise!!' Now I have read that back I am quite sure I have said all this lol.

Sat here....curtains closed....dog on my knee....everybody else fast asleep.....wondering what the hell this life is actually about.

Shabs who would have done that, have you any idea? Hope you get it all sorted, but surely they should back date it? Feels strange being back to normal after being with others for a few days, its boring!! Do hope to hear from Thomas tonight, he is a lad of few words!! Hope all goes well wit the radiotherapy Bubbs xx

I have a good idea but have to keep my mouth shut.

If you have been sanctioned because you are suspected of working you dont get it back.....in fact I think that any sanction, for any reason and it is not reimbursed. They can sanction if you are even a couple of minutes late for an interview with them, if you refuse medical treatment (because they say you are not doing anything to improve your health), for being reported as working etc etc. You would not believe just how strict they are - I suppose they have to be but it is NOT like these telly programmes where families are getting a fortune in benefits....it truly isint. Thankfully our housing benefit was still paid....or else we would have turned up on your doorstep with spotty hankies on sticks and the dog lol lol.

BUT we have almost 'made it through' - asked my darling, darling knob of a brother could he possibly help me out....his reply? 'As power of attourney for my Mum I cannot just take money out of her account because you are in the shit - there are strict rules to stick to. I cant loan you anything myself because me and Rachel are away in Cape Verdi for two weeks in April and then Vietnam in May for a month and we need OUR money fookin' arsehole he is. Oh and his last message - 'you benefit scroungers get loads of money I cant see why you cant live on it.'

Right enough moaning - hope you hear from Thomas tonight Trips - my Tom is just the same...I will say 'let me know if you are going to be late home from college'....he gives me a look that says a thousand words and just grins lol xxx

wtf shabs! That is disgusting! I knew about sanctions, but didn't know it would apply in the case of a false accusation.

Shabbs-Oh darling, i wish i could help you, Your brother is a bigger arse than one of mine, and that's a HUGE, arse, let me tell you!!! I know all the rules about power of attorney and money, as we have been through it, but my other db (the one who used to be an arse, but has redeemed himself lately)gave us some money the other week from my mum's "pot" when we needed it, he just said it was to reimburse for the clothes and toiletries we had been buying her over the past year, and for care of her dog. Yes, I had been doing all those things, but I never put in receipts or expected anything back, as it's just something you do, don't you, but he knew things had got tight here and we needed a small injection of cash to get through the month, and, as he said, it's an easy way round the rules. Our mums would both have helped if they could. Your brother knows that your darling mum would have done so. He moved her to a more expensive and distant home from you, has done everything he can to cause more trouble and expense just for you to visit her, and I just hope he ends up paying her bills when her pot runs dry and he can't find a cheaper place to move her again in the future
Trips - I hope T rings or texts, but they say no news is good news, he is obviously happy and busy, or he would have been on the phone more frequently.
Soks - they are definitely getting tired as term comes to a close, my J has been a right grumpy intolerant little git over the past week, culminating in a stand off yesterday between him and dh, and J ended up with no electronic gadgets, ate no tea and being banished from our sight for the rest of the evening. Believe me, this was hard to do as he is now almost as big as me, but, since neither dh, his db or I would not speak or acknowledge him he went off to his room in the end through sheer frustration of not gaining any responses to his repeated attempts at gaining attention.

Oh my word Shabs! That's awful. Especially given a proven false allegation and they won't back pay you. I hope karma hugely and nastily bites the person who reported you on the arse.

Thanks for your support girls - I have got to the point where I am doing that manic laugh at everything LOL.

We just had notification that our ESA payments will be paid on thursday as normal so we will be ok. Luckily they cant take hubbys DLA payment and that goes in tomorrow

Chops they can sanction whatever they want and whenever they want. When we went to the job centre for our benefit review last week we made sure we were 20 minutes early......last time we had to go someone was 10 minutes late and they were being read the riot act by the advisor....when we came out the woman was sobbing and the man shouting because they had sanctioned that weeks money.

Glad things are sorted and it will be a little easier for you shabbs. Keep your chin up and please dont kick the dog, she will be your friend no matter what, kick dh instead, will be lot more satisfying,
Forgot to say, I am not going to the nhs hospital for my radio, but to the local BUPA one, talk about comfort and luxury, its like being pampered in a spa hotel, proper coffe or tea, pastries, bottled water, th lot, makes going for treatment a lot nicer
Oh, and dh came home last night with a little get better soon gift, even though we are skint, he bought me a new case for my tab complete with a blutooth keyboard, as he thinks i spend too much time typing on line, lol. It was only about 12 quid on ebay, but a lovely thought, so i have decided if i need to kick something, it will be the kids, not DH

Just replaced the digitizer screen on Js phone, new screen cost me £7 on ebay, rather than the £40 the repair shop quoted, now feeling smug

Sanctions!! Big Brother stuff..........its disgusting

No phone call but one text, here I am 10 days in, dying to know what he has been doing, what he is doing tomorrow etc....this was his text

"Can you send me some drawing pins please"

lol @ drawing pins xxxx

@ trips! That is just typical teenager isn't it!

Bubby, that sounds very civilised, shame I'm too far away to come and keep you company

Glad you gettign straighter shabs, it really is a joke though :(

My parents are coming to stay for the weekend Kids are very excited. Hoping it all goes well, we've never had space before to actually have them to stay at ours.

off out for a run in a bit, hopefully stretch my sore post half marathon legs. I could barely walk on Monday, managed a swim and a cycle yesterday, they are slowly recovering!

Sitting here with coffee and Danish, waiting for my radio.
They have checked the body graffiti, and are now readying everything
trips @drawing pins, yes, it is typical of a teen boy.
Chops- hope the weekend goes well and you get your legs working properly again.
Shabbs- for you
Soks - and some for you too

How did it go Bubbs, how many sessions are you having? Hope you are feeling ok xx
No phone call again tonight..........d`ya think he is missing me?
Wheres that Rubester these days??

Morning all lashing it down out there, gale force winds........welcome to Spring! Shabs keep meaning to ask you, how is that little lad who was very poorly you were all raising money for, think it was a blood disorder or something like that. Seems a long time ago now.

Nathan? He had fanconi anemia plus many other smaller problems. His Mum had her third child and she donated (oh my god I think this is probably medically the wrong terminology) bone marrow - oh now im sure thats wrong - think they used her umbilical cord 'stuff'.... - anyway....it was a total success.

Nathan is now 17 and is at 6th form college and doing very well. Whatever the treatment is called it has worked. He is still not as tall as his peers but just as fiesty as ever x

www.theboltonnews.co.uk/news/1602835.family_is_working_to_find_sons_cure/

Hi girlies. Freezing fog earlier noe horrible cold and rainy, and it was so nice the past few days
Trips- going fine, I have 3 sessions a week for next 3 weeks , Monday, Wednesday and Friday, so its going to mess up the easter weekend a bit. Each session is only 10 minutes but the faffing around before and after takes them to over 1.5hrs. I am feeling fine but exhausted, dont know if its the treatment or justvthe travelling and generally doing more thats done it (have 3/4hr journey each way). Anyhow, hope T rings soon to actually talk to you
Shabbs- sounds as if he made a brilliant recovery.

Morning lovelies. Bubs, hope you are able to rest and look after yourself be waited on hand and foot

Trips, have you had more than a text now. Would love to know what the drawing pins were for and why he couldn't get any himself. Although I suppose resourceful in asking you t send them...

Shabs, hope you're now sorted with the benefits situation. How's your mum getting on in the home?

Ruby, [waves]. Hope all is well with you too.

I've decided I'm about to be one of 'those' parents . School have a role play area in reception/y1 class. Bearing in mind Emily has already spent 2 years in that classroom, James came home yesterday with a slip asking for any hair accessories as it was going to be a hairdressers after half term. Poor james is drives rated his ideas never get picked. But I'm convened for a slightly different reason than my precious 2nd born isn't getting his own way.

In the nearly 3 years I've had school age children, we've had the hairdressers, dolly hospital, a riding school, cafe/restaurant/kitchen and zoo. Some themes repeated at least twice (hairdressers and dolls hospital).

Poor James wants something 'boy' themed. He's not put it like that, but said it's always the girls who get to choose and his idea for a railway station or diesel works gets very few (and all boys from who he has named).

What I think he means is there are more girls, and female teaching staff only so the girls have the ruling vote. And he has a class full of very girly girls.

So I'm about to go and ask the parents of boys whether they're bothered or indifferent. And then speak to the teacher ready for next year. I'm going to sound a nutter aren't i? In this world where we are so busy pushing girls to be all they can be, my poor boys are doing to get their wishes sidelined. Maybe I only feel like that as a parent to both. It surprised me tbh. Because as a rainbow guide leader, I'm making sure my girls always have equal opportunity to do what they want to do. So if it's pretty crafts or rolling in mud, we do it. Maybe it's the Tom boy in me resurfacing. I'm completely confused. I've only recently started wearing better make up so my daughter isn't completely clueless when she wants to look good. I get my hands dirty when my boys want to build mud pies.

I think in our house though, the girls do everything the boys do and vice versus. So maybe I am in a good position to see the damage that could be done by sidelining the boys natural attraction to less delicate tasks.

soks- no, you are not one of "those" parents, it is a very natural and perfectly acceptable that the role play extends to more non gender or male gender orientated things, and schools are supposed to encorage non sex discrimination in this day and age.
What about suggesting a petrol station? Surely they have the toy sit in cars, most girls will be using them along with the boys, and they will be driving when they are older, or a train station or even a police station, I'm sure they will enjoy playing cops and robbers with each other or reporting lost dogs (I know the police do a lot more, but just some ideas)
I must admit, my 2 were in a predominantly girl class durong primary and they had to fight for their ideas.

Oh my God, FiL rang this evening, and has basically invited himself over for Easter Sunday, As the weekend is going to be messed up by the radiotherapy a bit anyway, we were going to see if we could go out somewhere for the day, now it looks like I am going to be landed cooking a whole Sunday roast and all the trimmings instead . DH will have to help me with it, and FiL has a tendency to come about mid morning and not leave until early evening. We have tried in the past to say we are going out in the afternoon, but he says "I will go when you go"! Don't get me wrong, I don't dislike the man, but he and dh have a rocky relationship anyway as he walked out on DH's mum when he was only 2 weeks, and didn't appear back in his life until he was a teenager, he tells whopping lies about his life, which really nighles with DH, and also, sorry to say this, he smells awful! He has unfortunately become incontinent but he doesn't wash either himself or his clothes much, and he has no sense of smell. DH and his brothers have told him, but he hasn't taken it on board. His house is awful, I went to help try and clean it up last year, and I broke our Vax trying to clean his carpets, he also refuses any other help there
The boys will fight not to sit next to him at the dining table, then will dissappear up to there rooms to avoid sitting with him, but the dogs, who love smelly things, will be trying all the time to sniff his trousers.
Oh, I love relatives

Morning girls, awake at 5.30am old time.........going to be a long day! Bubbs, with your situation you really should tell your dh to say no, let him come over when you have finished your treatment, its not fair. You are a saint, you never think about yourself, better get some Febreeze in!!!
Had a short call from my soldier last night, sensed he was a bit fed up. It must be so hard for them, gone are all the comforts of home etc, the first 6 weeks they have no privileges other than their phones retd for 30 mins a night. They cannot use the other facilities for the first 6 weeks so they are all in their dorms every night, not tvs etc. Bless him he said he has one magazine in his locker he has read a zillion times! Also said the food is not very good, they get approx 20 mins to go into the food hall take their meal and eat it! I suppose they move them along quickly as there are over 800 junior soldiers plus staff to feed 3 times a day! Its awful because you have to just say "well the time will soon pass, just get on with it, you can do it". In your heart you want to go and bring him home and make him his fav dinner!! Cant get into Easter this year, I usually decorate and do a tree, no one took any notice of my efforts last year so dont think I`ll bother. What I would like is to jump on a plane and land in the sunshine........no hope! Oh look at the time...........8.22am.........really 7.22am .......hate Sundays!

Hi Trips - dh said basic training is like that, it's to make them obey commands without thought, and weed out those not committed to being in the forces, he hated his basic, but said it does get better afterwards.
I have said to dh that he is to say to his father I cannot have him there all day, as I will be too tired, I don't mind making the dinner so much, I can prepare a lot the evenings before, but I can't face him there all day, and I am going to have to put covers on the suite, I will say they are there to protect it from the dogs I already have febreeze, air fresheners and scented candles to burn, lol

Morning. I was out all day yesterday (on my own!) and James is at nana and grandad's. Hoping the break can drag us out of the rut we find ourselves in.

Bubs. I don't blame you for not wanting to be entertaining. It is your needs right now which should take priority and anyone who wishes to do otherwise, is quite frankly being selfish.

If he does still insist on being there, I'd hole yourself upstairs for the day and let dh crack on with everything else. Including freshening the rooms when fil goes. My grandma has issues with odour. Mostly because she has little toilet accidents and doesn't do anything about them. Mum has finally got her to wear incontinence pads (but only when she goes out) and because she is in warden controlled rooms, mum does her washing too so always doses it up with zoflora when washing it. Obviously that's not an option for you. But throws over the soft furnishings and febreze might limit the pong.