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[MultipleMama]

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Men! I know it's not the same, but we'd love to hear more about Matthew, whenever you feel like talking, trips x

Trips- you have survived another year, you have your golden memories and your darling boy is a jewel within your heart. You know your dh is grieving in his own way, but I understand how it frustrates you. My love and thoughts go out to you xx xx xx xx

Sat up in bed feeling so strange, so moved by a video I have just seen on FB. When Matthew died his closest friends wanted to do something, they did, they put on a concert in our church it was called "Matthews Friends in Concert". They played drums/guitars, piano, we had violinists, cello, flute, they sang........they were amazing. A year later they did it again and raised over £4000 for the Evelina Fund at Guys Hospital. One of his friends Paul who was 14 at the time sang specially for me "Tears in Heaven", 20 years later Paul sang it again on FB, my heart is just singing and crying at the same time, how lovely of him to do that. Matthew had a very close circle of friends, I haven`t lost touch with them which has been so nice, they were all such lovely boys, and of course his very best friend Anna xxx

Trips - As you can see, I have watched the video, and I say again, it shows how lovely your Matthew was by the lovely friends he had. Paul was brave and wonderful putting the video of himself out there in cyberspace in remembrance of your boy.

I saw that Trips - it was truly lovely. Your Matthew like my Matt had what seems like amazing friends. I know how hard yesterday was for you my friend - but - you did it - maybe a bit 'battered and bruised' around the edges. You still got through it, and I am always here to help you through all these difficult days. We begin our 'run up' this month for Matts birthday and then Gareths 'remember day.' So very difficult but we must be 'tough owd birds' because we do it xxxxxx Was thinking about you all day yesterday xxx

Morning girls xx

For what its worth - my hubby cries through most of those 'special days' - that frustrates me even more than if he said and did nothing. I would love to cry but see him doing it and think 'Oh well, head up, shoulders back, pin on your smile and comfort everybody bloody else!!!'

Morning ladies.

Have two monkeys systematically destroying the house and a demanding, barely verbal 4yo today - just thrusts things in my face and goes 'errr, errr, err' until you finally get out of him what he wants. He is also being ultra possessive of everything which means no one else is allowed to play with anything, even if it's not his.

Well DH has told me he's done having children and if he did want anymore it would be 5/6 years down the line. He's happy to stop at 6 and think's I need starting thinking of us as a couple for a change and enjoy what we have without constant fear of what the next PG will hold. I'm completely devasted but I heavy heartedly agree with him. :(

Spending the day with the DC and BiL today. My poor DN has to go on medication for the rest of his life so we are spoiling him today! :)

Aww mama. I think tbh with all you've been through it is early to be making concrete decisions, id see how things go for now.

Soks - have you tried sign at all? Ds1 signed of his own accord. He wasn't terribly verbal at that age neither.

I agree with Bubs, signing is a good thing to have on hand. The DC know baby sign and it was perfect for those non-verbal or hardly understandle months! :)

I meant chops, no idea where I got bubs from haha!

Normally James is very verbal, although lately we've had more screaming and shouting. Today he just didn't want to use his words. Except 'mine', 'no' and 'drink'. Everything else has been a conversation of screeches and guesswork.

He also decided to lick Joshua a lot today. Makes a change from me being on the receiving end of his licking habit.

We did start some minimal signing with the twins, especially for Jennifer's benefit as she would employ grunt, screech and point for most things. Guess we will be watching a lot of mr tumble at the moment again

I was looking forward to a 'night off' from James tomorrow night. But as dh is working this weekend, il's have offered to have him Friday night instead. It makes sense. But of course James doesn't understand why I've added more sleeps to his countdown when we were only talking a couple of sleeps a day or so ago.

Two days of emotional stress, yes Shabs I am battered and bruised. Was very glad to have y/day behind me, today I felt positive and was looking forward allowing myself to be hopeful. James had to go to Maidstone which is a good hours drive from here for his Navy medical, the 3rd stage of his recruitment process to join the Royal Marines band service. They failed him, poor boy face when he came out. Failed on two counts. He is underweight for his height and he is wearing braces!!!! I am soooo as they have seen him for the last 6 months, he`s had one to one interviews and no one has said he cannot join whilst still having dental treatment. So its back to his crappy school that's in special measures for another year, then he can re-apply for Sept 15. Gutted for him :)

Oh no trips, what a bloody joke! Poor boy, he must be so disappointed. x

What an absolute crock of shite poo Trips. xx

That's a load of crap. Didn't any one of them think to tell you at the 1st or 2nd stage instead of getting your boy's hopes up, and crush right at the last hurdle. As for being underweight, that can be easily changed with diet and muscle mass, to fail him on that is stupid.

Who in the right mind agrees to an 7.30am appointment... me that's who. Completely exhausted and walking around with 6 DC looking like a zombie. Just come out from BlueA's cardio & PM appointment, and both of them having given us a 3 month time frame for his OHS. His valve has become very damaged, and his tendons are close to disconnecting, his murmer has also become more pronounced. We'll receive a letter within the next couple of weeks with a date.

Oh trips that's appalling! I wonder if they didn't say anything about his braces in case they came off before they saw him. Although that is clutching at straws. The weight thing, well that can't be helped. But at least it's something which can be remedied. Fingers crossed for next year then?

My twins are turning into right little characters. Joshua is such a scamp, and a chatterbox. He sings parts of songs from tv programmes, or you can have such amusing conversations with him. Jennifer on the other hand might not talk as much. But she's getting there slowly. She seems determined to drive me completely white with her antics of climbing and getting stuck halfway between bed and window sill! I can't have any windows open while they're about, even on the latch as I fear they will try to open it themselves if they see me do it.

How old are they now Soks? I remember turning my sitting room into a padded cell! I used to take all the cushions off of the sofas and put them against any sharp corners, then old duvets on the floor, pile of toys and three crawling/walking babies. Stairgate at the door and they were safe. It was great fun watching them, I actually really miss those days. James has got over his disappointment, I phoned the careers office y/day to find out if its going to be the same problem for Thomas. Apparently the Army has no weight restrictions, nor does the Air Force, just the Navy! Must seriously start looking into it, how to build him up!

They're 2 and 2 months. Joshua got stuck down the back of the settee today! He'd dropped a train behind it and ended up over reaching trying to get it. It was funny to see this poor distraught toddler stuck between wall and sofa - there's not a lot of room there. Thankfully no harm done and he was fine after a few cuddles. Bruised pride more than anything.

If he needs a 'blubber' donor Trips - I will be glad to give him any weight he needs from my ample supply xxx

Afternoon girls xx

Hello, migraine. We meet again old friend. I need darkness, dampness and decay... oh dear lord I'm quoting The Little Vampire. Grateful to my PiL for cancelling their plans and staying at ours all day. Feel like total shit :( xx

Lol Shabs. I'm sure I've a few lbs I could spare too.

Mama. Hope you are feeling better soon. Tuck yourself up in bed in a nice, dark room and sleep the day away.

Had to take car for mot today. Didn't realise until I saw my tax was out didn't have anyone to run me home so have just biked miiiiiiiiiles with Joshua sat in the trailer on back. I am pleased to say I'm not as unfit as I thought as, inc stopping in town to go to two shops, it took me an hour to get home. The bike ride was about 8-9 miles and is the furthest I've cycled in a long time many years

Omg Joshua nearly opened an upstairs window. Again! Am going to have to organise room swap whether dh likes it or not.

Hi everyone. I've been helping out at work with the DDay remembrance day and also one of our resident's 101st birthday, then I came home and helped the boys Young Farmers club paint their float for the Rally. Its a Circus theme this year, so its been busy, busy busy again!
mama - ibhooe your migraine imptoves, I hate geting one, it knocks me back gor days.
trips - I was telling dh about the marines medical, and he said, (being ex navy himself) t makes sense about the braces, as the physical stuff with them could be dangerous if he gets injured in the face/mouth when braces are still on, but they could have mentioned it before!
Soks - hopefully J will settle and start to talk again. Have they come up with any definitive diagnosis for him yet?
shabs- hope you have both had a better end to the week than the beginning.
chops - how is it hoing with uou dd, is she setyling a bit?

Sorry about the typos, on my phone keyboard with sausage fingers!