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MiniSoksMakeHardWork · 08/12/2013 19:49

Evening ladies. Since we're at 999 now. Was feeling reflective tonight.

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triplets · 10/03/2014 22:21
shabbs · 10/03/2014 23:08

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha - our big back yard is paved Trips...... could soon get those pavements up and a bit of soil dug out underneath.

MiniSoksMakeHardWork · 11/03/2014 09:42

Morning.

Put both twins on reins for the school run this morning. Very proud of my little munchkins walking there and back. Only took about 20 minutes to get there. Much longer on the way home as I let them stop and look at everything. Both of them enjoyed running their hands along a hedge. Jen particularly enjoyed stroking moss Grin

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triplets · 11/03/2014 23:19

Aw that's sweet, my life was so much easier when my three were that age....................

Evening all...........dd still telling me she has on/off pain in her chest.
School tell me she is getting anxious about completing her course work for her gcse`s.

Dk being a little nicer to me after Sun.....................hmm not forgiven him though....

Took the cat to the vets today, annual booster, wormed (lovely) , flea treatment and can of flea spay for the house (ok, you get the picture, but I do try honestly)...........total cost? £104.93p.

Dk has had toothache since Sat, went for an emergency appt today, cracked crown....................total cost? £214.45p.

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MiniSoksMakeHardWork · 12/03/2014 07:30

Ouch trips! Expensive.

Lavender is supposed to help repel fleas. Mum used to sprinkle dried lavender in the places our cats slept then Hoover it up the next morning (obv the cats didn't sleep there at the time). She was told if she out it under carpets it would help keep them away, but wasn't going to pull carpets up to try and we didn't have rugs there to try that.

Walked the twins to school and back for afternoon pick up too. That was interesting...

James took his balance bike - I thought it was a good idea at the time. However half way home he had a massive meltdown when I told him not to run his sister and her friend over, then refused point blank to walk any further. Was quite a sight I should think with me walking with James slung over my shoulder fireman's lift style, twins on reins in one hand with Emily's lunch and book bag and carrying a bike while shouting for Emily to come back so I could get her to push the bike at least! Thankfully one of my neighbours caught up with us and took the bags and Emily came back when I got to the top of our road so took his bike. But omg! I am NOT letting James ride again when I walk the twins.

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shabbs · 12/03/2014 11:48

Morning (just about) girls xx

MiniSoksMakeHardWork · 12/03/2014 11:58

Oh dear! Today Jen has paid the price of two days walking to school and back. Twice yesterday, once today. We stopped off at a friend's in the way home today, where she started getting miserable and mopey. Then I had to carry her all the way home - not fun when Josh decided to lay down and refuse to walk with a 'no'. Gave her some calpol and Put her in her cot and she was asleep in seconds. Poor sausage. She's much brighter now she's woken up again but preferring to sit in one place and play.

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MultipleMama · 12/03/2014 19:01

Sounds like you have your hands full! Grin

Artie officially crawling!! Already the boys have took her under their wing. God help me.

MultipleMama · 13/03/2014 05:35

I have news. All secret and hush hush, cannot tell DH or my brother so I'm telling you so better hope DH doesn't read this until afterwards!

My dad received a call from SS about a baby who needs to be placed into emergency care (would have been placed with another couple who have been on list longer etc but they are out of country). Long story short;baby was born an addict and neglected so needs the whole 24/7 attention. Dad agreed.

MultipleMama · 13/03/2014 05:42

It's only for a few nights maybe a week until a suitable placement has been found. But dad is chuffed (only completed his assessments etc 2 week ago!)

Told him I want pictures :)

triplets · 13/03/2014 09:06

Gosh Mama that's wonderful though very sad why the baby is in this situation.
Like pea soup here today, weird weather!

MultipleMama · 13/03/2014 19:03

Very sad situation. I just hope the baby is placed with a loving family.

After much disccusion DH & I have decided that we will begin TTC in August for baby #7 :)

MiniSoksMakeHardWork · 13/03/2014 20:05

Mama!

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bubby64 · 13/03/2014 20:32

Mama- your dad won't be able to send pics, ss have very strict rules on that, and if he breaks them, especially with his 1st placement and such a vulnerable child, he could end up losing his licence.
Also, I think you are officially deranged, mustbe something to do with the lack of sleep!Shock
Trips- had DK redemed himself, it must have been a major idiot, as you are so patient with them all. Also, I feel for the pain to your bank account!
Chops- its so hard letting them have their independence, isn't it, I remember tge first couple of times with the boys, DH and I took it in turns to spy on themGrin
Soks- As there is the possibiliy of hypotonia problems, you may find Jen has lots of problems after periods of lengthy exercise. Also well done with managing James on that stressful school run, also a pat on the back to the other mum who helped outSmile .
Shabs, I take it it was a foggy morning for youGrin
Well, met with the boys year head yesterday, and we went over both J and M behaviour at both school and home. The endless fighting at home is getting both DH and I down, and its having a very detrimental effect on our home life, snd tjis is obviously now cascading down to their school life. Also talked about Js difficulties with interaction with his peer group, and his lying and emotional issues.
She thinks the best way forward is a CAF (Common Assessment Framework) referral, which will access help for both boys and us as a family unit. I hope that this is the way forward, but it seems that to get any help at all, the only way is a CAFSad .

bubby64 · 13/03/2014 20:43

Must admit, the whole thing is making me feel a failure as a parent, I know we have been through some huge problems over the past couple of years, but we should have been able to cope without causing such issues with the boys, especially as starting High School was a big enough change for them.Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad

MultipleMama · 13/03/2014 21:24

Aww well I don't want dad in trouble. Think it was me getting over excited for him. He called me today and he sounded exhausted. Made me grin because he's welcomed back to his world 30+ years ago! Grin

It's busy this week so I promise to reply to everyone soon!! :)

Chopstheduck · 14/03/2014 06:38

Morning ladies.

Bubby, sorry to hear you are having such a rough time with the boys. TBH I found CAF pretty useless. We had one at one point, can't quite remember why, probably something to do with J and sn. They wanted to do one with Shay in year 2 as his teacher was struggling with him. I refused - it was down to that particular teacher.

Have you considered CAMHs? I know they do get a bad rep, but ours is absolutely lovely, they can't be all bad. Early stages and yet to see what help they actually provide, but my J loves talking to them!

Soks, J has issues with hypotonia along with the hypermobility, I think it is quite common. More exercise will help her, but he would have really struggled doing that much at that age. Hope she is feeling better today!

I went to the park WITH the boys today, thinking I would read my book in the sunshine. They weren't really pleased! They were happy playing on the corner with their friends. None of my kids need me any more :( Maybe I need to look into fostering too WinkGrin

shabbs · 14/03/2014 07:10

Morning girls xx

Bubby if you were a bad parent you wouldn't be trying so hard to make a difference for your boys. I think you are a fantastic Mum xx

Mamma.......sorry if this sounds horrible but I think you are barking mad Smile

Chopstheduck · 14/03/2014 07:21

Holy shit, I missed that. Mama, you really are deranged! Shock

One set of twins was enough to put me off.

MiniSoksMakeHardWork · 14/03/2014 08:01

We've just started on the caf process with James. From what I can make out it brings all the agencies working for/with James together so we can sing from the same page, then they can have tac and taf meetings. From what you've said I think cahms may be a good approach for you - based on very limited knowledge from my home start lady (her eldest is under cahms).

Although I completely know how you feel when one child drains the family so completely you don't know whether you're doing right or wrong anymore, and the affect it has on your relationship too.

Mama. What if you have twins again? Shock

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MiniSoksMakeHardWork · 14/03/2014 08:04

Thanks for the comments on Jen too. I just didn't think as we've always struggled to allow the twins to walk enough because of James. So I've been taking advantage where I can.

She was much better yesterday, I put her in the pushchair and walked Joshua to school and back. I don't think she was too bothered that she wasn't walking as she didn't try to get out and quite enjoyed it when Joshua walked alongside her. Nights are back to awful again. But cuddles, massage and paracetamol all help. She is still very, very cuddly Smile

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triplets · 14/03/2014 09:24

Morning all :)
Mama do you get the impression we all do agree you are as Shabs says "barking", it would serve you right to have triplets :o

triplets · 14/03/2014 15:28

Feeling fed up, down.............everything seems to be going wrong, everybody seems to be picking at each other. Dk and James just left for London, Royal Albert Hall, lucky things! Going to ring round, call a friend, need some company..................anybody want to join me??

Chopstheduck · 14/03/2014 16:36

Oh I so wish I could, trips!

I will be hitting the wine later. I have to help out at cubs tonight - dh got corned and volunteered us both. Dunno what he was thinking, I mean, we don't even LIKE children!! Usually, Fridays, we drop the dts and sneak off to the pub for a quick one!

Apparently tonight we are making fire. I am truly rubbish at fire building and will be sneaking a lighter in my pocket :D We have an open fireplace at home, I have to resort to buying those ready to burn logs, that you just light one end of the packet! Grin

MultipleMama · 14/03/2014 20:10

Sok - Home Jen starts having good nights again.

Bubby - You are not a failure as a parent, you're finding solutions and doing your best and that's all your kids can possibly ask for, and I hope this CAF can help, even if it's seem it's the only way.

Trips - Wanna come to Germany instead? You'll have to put up with 6 crazy children and DH who is crazy also. And me - I'm just plain deranged, mad and crazy Grin

I do not even want to entertain the fact of having another set of twins, though it seems quite unlikely. We also said we don't want more than a year between the baby and the A-team, and seeing as it'll be our last baby for at least 4-5 years we want to try now because who knows what problems we could have down the line. Right now, we are in a good place and feel ready to welcome one more into the family :)