D'ya ever wonder where all the other mums of multiples are?

[bubby64]

....or have we scared them all off with our inane chatter and multple moans!

Oh and shabs, got your address, will get that sent out later today. :)

Ooohhh I love getting pressies!!! LOL xx

Hi All. just got home. operation went well except for the factrl that the total nerve block failed to work, and they weren't aware of this until I came out of the anaesthetic crying with pain , the nerve block was supposed to stop all pain for the first 24hrs. As soon as they realised what had happened I was started on morphine, but it took a long time to settle. I went to theatre at 1.15 and was returned to the ward at 8.30.
I am hopping about on a Zimmer frame rather than crutches, as this is safer, they needed the bed, so have been sent home on oral morphine , and as this makes me feel sick and itch, I am on other tablets to stop this, and also self administered heparin injections.
Must admit, not feeling too great at the moment, but at least I may sleep better here .
sorry. this post is a bit self centered . soks my Mike also has acute, chronic hypomobile joints, again, I can help if you have any questions. space girl across ourarms worked well for James, who was a windy baby, and my 2 still have to have noise to go to sleep with, it's a fan noise now, but when babies I had a thing which attached to the side of the cot an vibrated, whilst it also made wave sounds, it used to work really well.

Welcome home Bubbs! Hope you are being spoilt rotten..........youll soon be out jogging with the rest of them on here! I should walk more, just no incentive in the winter, need to lose at least a stone <img loading="lazy" class="inline-flex mumsnet-emoji" alt="Blush" src="https://www.mumsnet.com/build/assets/blush-Brh13p-7.png"> Gosh all this baby talk is making me broody..................some of the happiest days of my life were my childrens "baby" days. I only remember being tired but <strong>happy</strong>. They were so adorable, so amazing to me, all funny, cute and totally loved. Its such early days yet for you <strong>Sassy</strong> they have got to learn everything dont forget, my James always seemed to be the one crying, now hes the easiest of the lot! We had all three in the same routine, maybe it would have been easier to say let one sleep and feed the other two. We just got on with it and tbh I didnt find it stressful, just loved it. It will change you`ll see. Still no luck with the travel insurance, can get cover without the cancer, but that restricts us to Europe.............will battle on, I usually win!! How you getting on with your plans Rubes?

Morning girls xx

Your house, rubes? Not sure you have told us

Glad you back home bubby. Sympathies, it is horrible coming round from anesthetic with pain like that - I woke up in so much pain when I had all my teeth out and it was scary! Hope you are soon well on the mend.

Trips, a road trip around Europe isn't quite the same as America, but you can still make it really lovely, especially saving money on flights you can splash out on some lovely hotels or villas, or do a really long month and go to eastern Europe. I quite fancied driving down south through Croatia and the Albanian coast, but never got the chance - you could even reach Greece! I think that would be my next european road trip. I like ticking off countries

I never, ever have that kind of problem Rubester -

Up to now this morning, Danny has taken Em to work for 8am....called here and had a brew because he was freezing cold. Taken Lew to school. Called at his grandparents (my Mum & Dad) to drop a battery charger off - the car they have is old and knackered (like me) and the battery needs charging. Yes he still has to go to work He luckily is on flexi time but will have to do 8 hours from whenever he gets there!!!!

My poor old Dad. He has a gum problem and is struggling to chew any food. Can just about do soup. Is going to our hospital tomorrow in the hope they can sort him out. I know he is 80 and I am very lucky to still have him here but I looked at him yesterday and realised how old he is looking. My Mum, on the other hand, is 'chipper'.......because she has her role back as the carer, housekeeper and wife!! She is looking after him and loving having her 'job' back.

Very touching as well to see their eldest grandchild looking after them and visiting as often as he can. My parents are Dannys second Mum & Dad.

god that sounds awful bubby hope not too traumatised now!
when we had post-birth issues and had all the womb poked about in by suregon to pull out blood clots, they offered us counselling cos it was all so unexpected and had to watch whole thing as had spinal tap. It didn't hurt though like your op...hope you feel better on crutches!

thanks for the advice trips as well and bubby
had a good nights sleep yesterday so feel good again now luckily.
babies asleep (yes by the washer) but took t2 to osteopath yesterday and he is convinced after treatment tomorrow we will all have a calmer weekend. Thinks its because she was breech and found birth traumatic, like you said shabs

anyway gotta go as feeding time and got to set everything up in living room so its v uneventful (i.e. get t2's vibrating chair ready, muslins, tea on table, water,formula with colief ----you know the drill!) and doesn't upset poor dt2...

xxx

Morning ladies.

Thank you chops. I'm still trying to work out whether I need to worry or not! I know that sounds silly but I've always felt when I pick Jennifer up under her arms that she's going to slip from my hands at any moment. So now we know her joints are moving too much, I'm being extra cautious with her and heaven forbid Emily tries to pick her up. It's silly because so far we've not had any problems, but knowing she could dislocate something without even trying.... I haven't told dh that as he's got a lot on his plate at the moment and was upset enough that this is likely to be ongoing thing for her. Baby steps and drip feeding for him I think.

It's interesting what you say about toilet habits too. Weirdly Jennifer has always had very loose motions. Literally nothing there one minute as the next it's practically up to her armpits and leaking out the sides. I just put it down to her keeping hold of it for a once a day thing or maybe picking up a little bug from the bigs. But maybe something to ask about next time we're at the hospital. I don't think I asked as much as I could/should because I was stunned that the little monkey had pulled herself up for the dr.

sassy glad you had a bit better night/some sleep. I used to snuggle one baby into a soft pillow next to me while I cuddled the other. It was a tip I picked up when James, my middle child, was in hospital and couldn't be help. Apparently it helps them feel like they are being cuddled and their own body warmth keeps the pillow warm like parents arms. May be worth a try, especially while they are too little to roll. It also meant I could stroke them while they laid there.

bubs hope you are feeling better for being home, and that you are being very well looked after.

Off to my mum's for lunch now. But will be back later I'm sure. Hope you all have a good day.

Sassy - they were doing a lot of research at Manchester Uni when Tom was a newborn. Investigating around 1,000 babies under the age of about 6 months with sleeping difficulties.

The only common denomenator they found was that over 90% of the babies in the study had traumatic deliveries. One of the theories was that maybe those same babies would relive their delivery IYKWIM??

Tom,as soon as he could talk, would tell me all about how hard it was for him to 'get here' and how all babies pick their Mummys when they are still in baby heaven. Then when God tells you its time for you to be born you get wings...you fly down into your Mummys tummy and then your wings are clipped off.

Perhaps madness is just genetic as we all seem to have it in my family!!

lol, rubes, how frustrating!

soks, ds was always like that, a bit like a slippery eel, like he didn't have any bones in him! Ds1 hasn't ever properly dislocated anything. We tend to keep an eye on him, and warn him if he is overdoing it. He subluxates (partially dislocates) his fingers fairly frequently, but they usually pop right back in. He's got a bit of pain in his hands atm, actually, he writes using a slope and I need to get him some new grippers for his pens, because his fingers are too hypermobile for him to hold a pen comfortably. He also has adaptive cutlery, to make it easier for him to hold them. His fingers will bend right all the way back.

It was the OT who told me about the bowel thing, I would never have thought about it, but it is def that way for Jack.

On a plus side, Jack is incredibly proud of his hypermobility! He loves showing off to people how he can cross his legs twice, etc - though it isn't good for him!

Chops - your Jack and my Mike could be the twins! Soks -M has all of the adaptive measures Jack has, and also was given a keyboard and taught to 'keydance' which is basically touch typing. This got him over the problem of getting frustrated by writers cramp in his fingers when doing a longer bit of written work. As he got older, he learned that when his legs started to hurt, to sit and rest, in order for the muscles to recover enough to support his joints, oh, and he also had a supportive girdle type belt when he was 2- 5 yrs he wore under his clothes as without it his spine was very curved and his back hurt through lack of support from his abdominal muscles. We used to call it his Thunderbirds belt! Despite all the predictions he would not be able to do this, that and the other, being a twin really helped, as he was determined if James could do something, he could too, and he has ended up showing the consultants that determination and basic bloodymindeness can win through!

Ruby, there is a house like that near us, perfect in every way as far as we are both concerned, only it ever only comes up for rental, never for sale. I lust after that house!! Mind you, what's the betting that if it income up for sale, we would never be in a position to buy it!

Well, I slept on the sofa bed downstairs last night and it was very comgortable, it is one that you can sleep on across it as a single by unzipping arm and back cusions, or pull it out to make a double. I used it as a single and when DH came in with cup of tea and cereal at 7.30, I barely even roused, I slept through until he came home at 12.15 for lunch!
Oramorph helps the pain, but makes me a bit tearful, and already people are asking if they can visit, but can't cope with that yet

I just need time to settle back into a routine, and find out my limitations (which are many atm!)

aww, bubby :( Can't you get upstairs one step at a time on your bottom with your good leg?

I'm hoping Jack will be able to use a computer more in senior school, the juniors have never been very supportive. But I am glad at least he can write efficiently, even with the supports, as I never really thought we would get to the stage we have. lol @ the thunderbirds belt! We have to keep reminding jack, sit up straight! He is prone to hunching over a lot, but he also goes oddly side to side. We used to have problems keeping him on a booster seat in the car.

I can get upstairs on my bum, but I was feeling a bit frail and unwell last night, so I took the easier option.
Calling it the thunderbird belt and decorating it up was the only way we would get M to wear it otherwise he hated it.

Morning girls xx

Morning girls x

DH leaves the house before 6. I sleep through it, and wake up about 6.30 most days. One of the advantages of having a hearing impairment I guess

Rubes go here scroll right down to the bottom and you should be able to see threads you've hidden and undo it. :)

shabs what is IYKWIM?
xx

if you know what I mean

DH and boys leaving house at 7.30, leaving me to sleep, only problem with that is it leaves me stranded in the bed room until DH gets home at lunch. I need to organise things better, with pillows to elevate leg in each location, and DH needs to get my perching stool out of the shed (where he stored it out of his way ) and into the kitchen, so I can at least sit in there and get cup of tea and get something to eat, as well as have a wash at the sink! DH forgot to even leave me with a cup of drink this morning, I am gasping!

Here Bubbs and a xx